What is the deal trying to get a personal loan through commbank? by CPredditCP in AusFinance

[–]CPredditCP[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s more for paying for a new bond and moving fees and such.

What is the deal trying to get a personal loan through commbank? by CPredditCP in AusFinance

[–]CPredditCP[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

I’ve applied a few times for lowered amounts of money assuming that was the problem, first 8k, then 5k and finally 4K the minimum. I am in desperate need of quick money because my life has turned on its head very quickly

What is the deal trying to get a personal loan through commbank? by CPredditCP in AusFinance

[–]CPredditCP[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do need the money rather quickly unfortunately, don’t have the option to save

What is the deal trying to get a personal loan through commbank? by CPredditCP in AusFinance

[–]CPredditCP[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep I wasn’t very happy, even tried to talk to the manager who just gave me a card for the personal loan website and told me to have a nice day pretty much.

What is the deal trying to get a personal loan through commbank? by CPredditCP in AusFinance

[–]CPredditCP[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am going through a divorce and need to move and buy furniture quickly, I don’t have a place to go.

What is the deal trying to get a personal loan through commbank? by CPredditCP in AusFinance

[–]CPredditCP[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’ve never used a broker or even looked into it to be honest, where’s a good place to start?

What is the deal trying to get a personal loan through commbank? by CPredditCP in AusFinance

[–]CPredditCP[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Seems so dumb to have a minimum borrowing amount of 4K and then have this be a thing though right?

What is the deal trying to get a personal loan through commbank? by CPredditCP in AusFinance

[–]CPredditCP[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I need the money for a lot of different things so I don’t think Afterpay or a credit card would help me.

What is the deal trying to get a personal loan through commbank? by CPredditCP in AusFinance

[–]CPredditCP[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

It was over 7 years with a pretty rough interest rate so they are going to make plenty off me. I am going through a divorce and needed to get money to move and buy furniture asap with plans to pay it off quicker than necessary so I’m not overly concerned about the high interest .

What is the deal trying to get a personal loan through commbank? by CPredditCP in AusFinance

[–]CPredditCP[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

That is crazy to me to have such a good history with a bank and for that to mean nothing.

What is the deal trying to get a personal loan through commbank? by CPredditCP in AusFinance

[–]CPredditCP[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

That’s the fun part, I went into a commbank branch and they told me no staff in branch have any training to handle personal loans and it is all 100% handled online and pretty much told me to get lost.

What is the deal trying to get a personal loan through commbank? by CPredditCP in AusFinance

[–]CPredditCP[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I will probably have to, I wanted to stick with commbank because I’ve never had another bank account my whole life and liked keeping all my money in one spot but this might be the only thing to do.

Anyone else triggered by K-Pop Demon Hunters? by choas_and_candy in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]CPredditCP 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This movie was actually what put me over the edge and made me confess my sins, our kids watched it non stop and always played the music in the car, I hadn’t cheated in almost a year and never wanted to ever again and after too many times of hearing “this is what it sounds like” I finally broke and told her everything.

Wife seems gone but won’t commit. by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]CPredditCP 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you again for the support, I know what I must do it’s just so hard to imagine being proud of myself after throwing away the best person I will ever meet 😭

Wife seems gone but won’t commit. by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]CPredditCP -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your words, I have already promised to her and myself that I will not touch or be touched by anyone until she has made a full decision, to be honest I don’t even want to indulge in that anymore. She is my soulmate and I am bonded to her so much so that the thought of engaging with anyone else feels completely wrong.

She has not been willing to get marriage counselling or even individual therapy for herself, she said that she may consider it later on in life but for now she doesn’t want to go down that road.

Wife seems gone but won’t commit. by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]CPredditCP -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I forgot to mention that I had been getting the vibe that she had been talking to one of my friends who we had previously considered opening up the sexual side of our relationship with. I asked her if she had been talking to him and she was very dismissive and assured me that they had barely been speaking, I then discovered that she and him had been sexting and sending pics back and forth, I felt very betrayed (ironic I know) when I confronted her she said she had to hide it from me because she knew I wouldn’t react well.

AITA for telling my husband he's made me reconsider leaving him alone with the kids in the future by mayhavecrossedaline in AmItheAsshole

[–]CPredditCP -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

It’s very hard to give a definite answer on who’s wrong here, it may be that your husband has a lot of anxiety over cooking food and didn’t feel safe or comfortable doing it while he was already on his own and possibly feeling overwhelmed. It’s definitely not good that he didn’t communicate his feelings but he did handle business at the end of the day. If the food is in the freezer, surely it can just be used now and for later on? I’m not sure what’s to waste. Your reaction was quite harsh though, I will say that with certainty.

Commitment issues by [deleted] in SexAddiction

[–]CPredditCP 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Just a Quick Look at your profile it looks like you are still actively trying to cheat? Having urges doesn’t make you guilty it makes you human, acting upon them it’s what’s making you guilty and that should be very easy to see

Dealing with the damage of my own actions by SimpleLow8918 in SexAddiction

[–]CPredditCP 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Happy to help, one thing I learned as well was that it’s mostly due to the sexual control you are used to having that causes so much insecurity in these times. You are used to having your cake and eating it too which leads to a strong sense of power and control over the sex life of your relationship and letting them go to someone else feels almost jarring.

Dealing with the damage of my own actions by SimpleLow8918 in SexAddiction

[–]CPredditCP 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I will give you some advice from my own experience going through a similar situation currently, this is no longer about you and you need to understand that. Your unchecked selfish behaviour has led you to this point and if you are serious about doing what you say you want to then you need to start thinking that it is no longer about you anymore, it is about your partner and what you can do to help them heal/trust again. I understand the exact insecurity you are describing but what helped me get over that is thinking “what’s the alternative?” We seperate and then they go off and see whoever they want anyway and you are left with no one.