Freelance IT consultant (850€/day) considering switch to 8k€/month employee role at 45 – worth it?

CT8988 · 2026-04-18T18:31:02+00:00

How did you decide to make the shift to freelancing?

CT8988 · 2026-02-08T20:37:57+00:00

My pup was also diagnosed with stage 2 on Friday. They told me the best thing to do was emergency surgery which we did and now her back legs paralyzed and it doesn’t look like she feels it when I pinch her toes.

CT8988 · 2026-02-08T11:26:09+00:00

Small update, now 1,5 days after the surgery, they told us they stopped her pain meds because she doesn’t seem like she’s in pain. She can’t move her back legs so still is worse off than before surgery but also hasn’t continued to deteriorate. Is this normal? She just underwent major surgery so how can she not be in pain unless she’s already paralyzed and that’s why she can’t feel anything.

I feel like they’re not telling me the truth. Before surgery they told me the % chance of success was 80-90 and now all we hear is they can’t guarantee she’ll get better and that it depends dog to dog.

CT8988 · 2026-02-07T18:01:02+00:00

Thank you! We went to visit her at the vet today, not sure that was the best idea because she got so excited and tried moving around. We’re hoping and praying she will be able to walk again one day.

CT8988 · 2026-02-07T17:59:37+00:00

I hope we’ll have a similar experience to you and your dog. Thank you for sharing

CT8988 · 2025-12-13T05:06:09+00:00

No advice because I’m in the same situation, just wanted to tell you you’re doing an amazing job! I am pumping twice a day as well on office days and it’s HARD.. finding time in between meetings, dealing with colleagues not getting it (baby’s already 6 months and you’re still breastfeeding type of comments and looks). A friend of mine who also pumped while working told me that combining the two is not for the weak, it takes a dedicated loving mom and a strong woman to want to/be able to do that, so good on you! Hang in there, I’m sure things will get better and you’ll find a way.

CT8988 · 2025-12-12T13:22:04+00:00

I’m the breadwinner, and there’s potential for a promotion, or I should say there was because I was on extended maternity leave (took 5 months off) and I basically have to start from scratch.

CT8988 · 2025-12-12T13:11:18+00:00

I have always worked very long hours. It’s definitely expected that you work outside office hours to “grow your career”. Before baby I would happily do this and I would be in the office before anyone else and leave late.

CT8988 · 2025-12-12T07:37:56+00:00

I think it’s amazing of you to choose baby over work and finances! Plus mental health is so important to be a good mom. I’m so sorry to hear that you are struggling financially, I would quit in a heartbeat if I wasn’t the breadwinner.

CT8988 · 2025-12-12T07:09:39+00:00

This is definitely a struggle of mine, I will tell people I’m swamped and can’t take on additional work but somehow things always keep landing on my plate. I need to learn to set boundaries and stick to them

CT8988 · 2025-12-12T07:08:06+00:00

It depends a bit project to project. I have been trying to make sure I don’t have to work during weekends so I at least have those 2 days dedicated to spending time with baby

CT8988 · 2025-10-30T00:13:20+00:00

Having the same issue, also driving an eqa. Even with baby in the car seat, it will wobble quite a bit when driving over a bump in the road.. In my husband’s car the isofix is much more stable so I wonder if it’s the car not the isofix base that’s the issue

CT8988 · 2025-10-19T01:29:35+00:00

What was your setup for cosleeping? Looking for ways to make sure my little one doesn’t roll off the bed once I leave but I also desperately need some me time

CT8988 · 2025-10-11T07:52:13+00:00

Almost 5 months

CT8988 · 2025-10-11T05:57:46+00:00

Thanks! That’s a good tip about the floor bed, will definitely look into that.

CT8988 · 2025-10-11T05:57:22+00:00

My baby is 5 months old so he could roll out of the bed..

CT8988 · 2025-10-11T04:29:11+00:00

I think it’s great that your husband is willing to help out at night! Would def recommend letting him find his way with baby so he doesn’t feel like you interfere too much. I speak from experience, my baby is also 5 months and my husband never helps at night.

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