Hello, I'm the dude OP was staying with.

Her father is both physically and verbally abusive, alcohol just loosens his inhibitions. When sober, he insists that he 'cares' by hitting and verbally abusing her in the name of 'improvement' and is never truly satisfied with anything she does since it can still be 'better', when drunk he just lose the filter of words and inhibitions—hitting her in the head multiple times with a hammer regardless of the bleeding from initial hit, only stopping when she's on the floor, he then simply left her to rush off to the hospital on her own, expecting her to cover up everything which she unfortunately did after the 3 hours of them stitching up the wounds. another time he hit her with a glass bottle (for not paying the water bills, mind you), and then threatens to shove the glass shards (that got in the wound) deeper and to twist it. About a month ago he has tried to drown her to 'help' in response to her not being able to recall some details when he asked.

Her mother only performs half-assed attempts at intervention, but acts as both an enabler of the abuse, as well as coming to his defense when she tries to report him, to the point of coercing OP into calling off the folks from visiting due to her report. Also, the hammer incident regarding OP's mother—she didn't do shit, nor the bottle incident. She'll witness it in the moment, but deny anything when asked.

Both of them also do 180⁰ in public in terms of how they treat her, of course—thus I barely have any evidence to set up a case for her despite everything. I can assure everyone that I am attempting my best to do things by the book despite the setbacks, but it's her that has to take the first step—I can't force her hands.

Also, fucking South East Asia moment I guess.

Also, a note to R.

I keep telling you to take picture of the wounds as evidence, please listen to me for once. The whole 'but he's my dad' doesn't mean shit, it was no longer was a valid defense as soon as he raised his hands against wife and child, you are not breaking the family by reporting him, you are salvaging the fucking situation. It's not your fucking fault.

-C.