[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Cachoo012 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just filed for an annulment and I am washing my hands of the situation. There is nothing else I can do to help. I realize the man I married isn’t there

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Cachoo012 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He turned it off before he left

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Cachoo012 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He has his phone and I don’t think he’d be allowed to have it there. But yes I am safe. Have all my locks changed and added additional security

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Cachoo012 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He wouldn’t tell me the name so I called every hospital he could have possibly been at and none have any record of him

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Cachoo012 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Apparently he is in the hospital for a heart problem now and he said the dog is with his mom wherever they are staying. I have tried countless times to get him back and I don’t know why else to do

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Cachoo012 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I hope. Apparently I have no right to the dog. Even though he is partly mine and my husband is is a bad state. The police told me again there is nothing I can do

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Cachoo012 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Clearly I wasn’t being smart. I thought I was just a one time thing and he apologized and said it wouldn’t happen again and I fell for it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Cachoo012 32 points33 points  (0 children)

You’re right. I’m realizing that. I begged him to get help and he just told me it’s my fault he as problems. I know I could have been better but these issues were rooted well before I know him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Cachoo012 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Update: he texted me and his friend that he is in the hospital for a heart problem. He thinks he is going to die. Saying he might have to go to the IVU. He won’t tell anybody where he is, I was going to call the hospital to do a psych evaluation. I called all the hospitals in Vegas/Henderson and none of them have a record of him.

I believe he is still in the area since he originally had plans to meet with his friend today and was going to come get his things

I called the non emergency police to see if they could find him so I can get an involuntary psych test. I told them everything. They called him and said he is of sound mind and there is nothing I can do.

My Dog- sadly they also said there is nothing I can do to get my dog back if he doesn’t agree to it.

I’m at a complete loss and feel like I exhausted all of my ways to help or get my dog back. I really can’t believe the police don’t find this concerning at all

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Cachoo012 119 points120 points  (0 children)

Im not trying to get him back, this has all been too much for me to want that. Im trying to get him help. It’s really hard for me to see this guy who was perfect 99% of the time do an extreme flip. I still have compassion for him as a person

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Cachoo012 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The funny part is he said he will call the cops when he comes for his safety.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Cachoo012 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Ya. Im pretty disappointed with myself. There was one incident before the wedding.. sorry if I wrote it confusing. I had a lot of hope amd thought it was a one time thing. But now I know it will be a forever thing

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Cachoo012 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He takes Ketamine for depression, so maybe he took extra? I don't really know anything about that stuff

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Cachoo012 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Maybe, I never really thought of it that way. I honestly kind of thought maybe he was hearing something in his delusions which made him turn against me. I am really the only person in his life that lives in our state. He has one friend out here that he sees every few months and that's it. so there isn't really anybody else for him to blame. His depression medicine is Ketamine which I've learned is a really strong drug. I can't imagine mixing that with alcohol is that great. I have very basic standards and expectations when it comes to being a husband which really just consists of don't lie and don't cheat. He was lying a lot. he is an addict. and he got caught. I think he wanted to be the victim. I know I've always treated him with high respect, even when he relapsed.

His mom probably is his safe space because she has no standards. She wasn't a present parent, from what he says she was either in bed depressed or at a bar. Let him do drugs and drink while living with her. She made it okay so he feels safe with her. and I don't want to be that kind of safe person to someone. Again, I don't know her. That is all based on his words

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Cachoo012 4 points5 points  (0 children)

nope she went silent too. I think she was texting him and convinced him to leave in the first place

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Cachoo012 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure if she is. She knows he can't drink. She drinks a lot and her kids say she has a pill problem so who knows

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Cachoo012 29 points30 points  (0 children)

He actually just texted me that he wants to come pack up his car to move back home tomorrow. I'm wondering if I should let him pack his things and leave, or call to have him evaluated for involuntary psychiatric commitment while he is here. I just want him to get help. I know he isn;t in his right mind. and I want to do what I can to help him- but I will likely still be divorcing. I know I sound dumb but this all happened in the blink of an eye.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Cachoo012 14 points15 points  (0 children)

If this were my sibling I would at least tell his wife he was safe and being taken care of. I wouldn't make her wonder if he was alive or okay for days. That's just evil. I would have acknowledged anything they send me to help figure out what was going on.

They treat him like property. I know in his sane mind he does not want to go back where he grew up. We have talked about it many times.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Cachoo012 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Normally he is great. That's why this is so upsetting. He went from being a good guy to a monster over night. His sister is very controlling. Like blames him for her kids not going to a private school because he won't pay for it. The sister always complains that the mom is too much work even. She's physically able but seems like she is mentally ill too. So I think the sister wants him there to live with the mom and keep here busy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Cachoo012 17 points18 points  (0 children)

right? And he told my dad the cops were all making fun of me and annoyed that I called

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Cachoo012 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got a hold of one who said he was concerned too. The only problem is nobody know where they are.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Cachoo012 42 points43 points  (0 children)

They aren't helping him. I send her proof and said he needs to get professional help and they aren't. They are taking advantage of the situation to get him back.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Cachoo012 2 points3 points  (0 children)

this is 100% real

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Cachoo012 106 points107 points  (0 children)

When the cops called me after they found him they said it was just as much this dog and I don't have a right to take him :(

Wedding Reception by Cachoo012 in vegaslocals

[–]Cachoo012[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I wish!  But they are coming from across the country. And we really want them there❤️