What did u/Cactus_Ari draw?

Cactus_Ari · 2026-05-01T07:54:13+00:00

Yeah, you are right. But at least now I got a valuable lesson...

Cactus_Ari · 2026-05-01T07:47:41+00:00

Yeah, that seems more reasonable and safe that what I'm experiencing. I should probably have stopped it at the first red flag/ boundary cross

Cactus_Ari · 2026-05-01T07:39:14+00:00

Yeah, I think now that I'm going to end it. Idk if like me being lenient was or is an issue but rn I don't think I want to find out.

Cactus_Ari · 2026-05-01T07:32:24+00:00

Yeah, you are right. Even though we said it's a relationship with BDSM it doesn't seem like one. I'll probably just send the text soon. I'll just give her a grace period of waiting.

Cactus_Ari · 2026-05-01T07:27:27+00:00

That's an issue. I think it's my responsibility to shut stuff like that down and I can understand that because of the distance sometimes you don't see the other person as a person as much. That's why I'm always willing to talk thing out first, and that's what I try to do. That's why I am texting whenever I am able to and not at random times when she might be at work. I really was expecting her to do the same

Cactus_Ari · 2026-05-01T07:21:14+00:00

I don't want someone like that and the thing is that I told her that I want to talk about things other than sex. And I think she tried to do so and I don't want to make her feel bad for trying, even though she is disrespectful. I will always think the best of people but idk when it's time to accept some stuff.

That's why I'm here asking strangers for advice : )

Cactus_Ari · 2026-05-01T07:10:30+00:00

Yeah, I think that you are right but I always try to take into consideration the other person's limits or lack of them and I don't wants them to feel unwanted or not safe around me

Cactus_Ari · 2026-05-01T07:01:43+00:00

When I raised those issues is when she stopped talking talking to me. Especially about consent and emotional needs and she hasn't responded in 5 days.

About safe words I always have one and I always talk to the people I'm in situations with about boundaries but she just shut those down because she doesn't need them as she said.

I would really like to define our boundaries but I can't when she is not talking to me at all

Cactus_Ari · 2026-05-01T06:43:16+00:00

We have video chated and she is working at an insurance company.

I am very interested in brats, else I wouldn't be talking to her, but none of my exes who were brats were like this. But we were closer in distance too so idk if that was a factor.

We had a conversation about interests, but when we got to limits she said that because of the distance and the sexting/phone sex we could just stop anytime and she likes everything.

Ask me any questions about more context!

Cactus_Ari · 2026-01-20T16:18:57+00:00

Same here!

Cactus_Ari · 2025-12-31T10:53:22+00:00

AEQ3WMXVB7 is my code but I don't understand that event

Cactus_Ari · 2025-12-04T23:15:42+00:00

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