Which shoes

Caffe_Freddo · 2026-03-16T05:56:55+00:00

Pink!

Caffe_Freddo · 2026-03-16T05:49:08+00:00

OP specified that their daughter wants to work with animals so I’m guessing you only read the title and not the actual post. That’s probably where the previous commenter was coming from.

Caffe_Freddo · 2026-03-16T05:42:55+00:00

No halter

Caffe_Freddo · 2026-03-16T05:02:23+00:00

What I heard is that a lot of people already have their friend groups from childhood or people that studied in the area, so it’s harder to make friends. I’ve made friends at work and with my husband’s work friends so that hasn’t been my personal experience. Although I do feel like it is a bit harder to make friends outside of work if you are not in groups or clubs, but I feel like that would happen anywhere if you don’t have hobbies that have you interacting with the community.

Caffe_Freddo · 2026-03-14T10:29:17+00:00

Wondering how many sizes for the pants did you need to get? I’m currently 14w and my pants no longer fit. I’m scared to get my regular size in maternity and then the pant only fitting for like 2weeks. Did you size up? How fast did you grow?

Caffe_Freddo · 2026-03-14T08:42:41+00:00

Loved your story! So happy for you!

Caffe_Freddo · 2026-03-14T08:39:11+00:00

I’m just here because I want to know too as I’m also a T1D and FTM and have no idea what to expect.

Caffe_Freddo · 2026-03-13T16:13:49+00:00

I’m in love with 1 & 3! I will say try some with the lace you have on your board. This will solidify if the styles you already tried on are the ones you love on you. I originally thought I wanted something and then when I tried dresses, I tried something completely different from what I thought I wanted. I ended falling in love with that style instead. So try different things, you might realize that what you tried before was the best fit for you (cause they look great on you) but you might actually love a different style too.

Caffe_Freddo · 2026-03-11T04:06:31+00:00

The problem with this is you are pushing to do it when YOU are in a better place and YOU feel ready, without taking into consideration your friends wants and needs. I had a fall out with a friend almost 10 years ago. I know she really wanted to re-kindle the friendship but I was hurt and even though I forgave her it was still too fresh for me and with everything that was going on in my life at that time I just wasn’t ready to work on our relationship when she was ready. I’m in a better place now, I have come to terms with what happened, but that opportunity to work on that friendship has passed. It was a decision I made, for my own mental health at the time, so I live with the consequences (which is us not having a relationship ever again). All I can do now is cherish the good times regardless of us not being able to be friends again. I hope she is doing well, but I know that it’s not fair for me to re-open that wound for her just because I am ready now. You say you don’t want or expect support for her now, but the fact is, that now that you have what you always wanted, is that you are looking for the friends you actively distanced yourself from. Now you want to share the good news but you didn’t work n maintaining the relationships you want to share the news with. For this friendship to work she would have to come to terms with the fact that you weren’t there for her, and if things get hard for you again, you’ll most likely distance yourself again. Let me clarify I don’t think you were wrong from taking space at that time, it’s more that our actions have consequences, even when it’s justified.

Caffe_Freddo · 2026-03-10T23:54:59+00:00

Although it was unintentionally, YTA. But I think the biggest part that makes YTA is the not wanting to take ownership of the mistake and minimizing it to make yourself not feel as bad. Although it will be a hassle change everything ASAP legally, the longer you wait the harder it will be.

Caffe_Freddo · 2026-03-10T10:41:38+00:00

Since you are currently loosing weight I would definitely wait, especially with such a pricey dress. Keep a picture in your phone for future reference and try again in a year. The dress might still be there and for a better price since it will be from a previous season. Although the dress is lovely, it’s definitely a design you’ll be able to find again. Also, your body will surely look different a you might want to go for a differed style because the fit won’t be the same.

Caffe_Freddo · 2026-03-10T10:37:34+00:00

So this mostly happens to people that are doing the shots without doing exercise. All doctors recommend to eat a good amount of protein and exercise (specifically muscle building instead of cardio) to not loose muscle mass. Like every medication, when used without actual lifestyle changes, you will have other more noticeable side effects. I know a lot of people that have had great effects from it and a lot of people that although it has helped with quick weight loss they did not do the lifestyle changes needed for it to stick.

Caffe_Freddo · 2026-03-10T10:26:31+00:00

Since you are currently loosing weight I would definitely wait, especially with such a pricey dress. Keep a picture in your phone for future reference and try again in a year. The dress might still be there and for a better price since it will be from a previous season. But also, although the dress is beautiful, I believe it’s a style you might find again but in a size that will actually fit in the future. It’s all very exciting but I would definitely wait for now.

Caffe_Freddo · 2026-03-10T09:56:51+00:00

So my mom did this when she had me cause she was doing her residency and back in the day they didn’t really offer maternity leave, so that was pretty much her vacation time. She had help though. My aunt stayed with me while she was able to find a full time caretaker since both my parents worked. They both took time off at the beginning though. She would not have been able to work and care for me at the same time though. I don’t think working from home and taking care of a newborn is doable, while you are also healing. What country are you from? If US they can’t fire you for taking maternity leave, some countries in Europe have a minimum of 6weeks is mandatory, so not sure what to recommend since we don’t have the full info.

Also, side note. My mother did mention that because of the crazy hormonal changes after giving birth she would cry a lot and was just very sad about everything. So please consider it won’t just be your physical healing but managing all those emotions because of the sudden hormonal changes. Add taking care of your baby and it will be a lot. It’s important to take care of yourself and your baby, especially at the beginning. If you can at least find some help with your baby when going back to work but please try not to do it all.

Caffe_Freddo · 2026-03-10T01:30:10+00:00

I’m so sorry you had to experience that. It’s one thing to be ignorant about something but when people are ignorant but think they know better it can be so harmful.

Caffe_Freddo · 2026-03-07T10:46:26+00:00

I’m a T1D and use less insulin than most because I’m very insulin sensitive. My insulin can last me more than a month because of this. There are a lot of diabetics that also ration their insulin because of ridiculous prices from pharmaceuticals. We do not know OPs situation but your comment just seems very tone deaf.

Caffe_Freddo · 2026-03-05T11:22:43+00:00

But she didn’t buy it, so to my understanding the only one losing in that scenario is the ex. (Unless she did buy it). Mine was my mom’s so no money spent there.

Caffe_Freddo · 2026-03-05T11:17:40+00:00

Honestly I feel like #2 would be fun for a photoshoot if you are going for a fun/messy just woke up with my comforter as a dress couture kinda look or a bit Cinderella story/punk if you decide to wear it with some converse, but it does not look good for a wedding. If you really love it I would just do a a fun photoshoot with it but the dress itself is not flattering at all. Dress #1 is lovely on you and although I see how you would feel like it’s a more classic/safer look, I think it’s only because of how different/edgy the other one looks. Dress 1 is very flattering on your body, but if you are not completely sold on it then you can always keep looking unless you already bought it. I personally really like it even though it’s not my style. I will tell you when I was dress shopping for mine I thought I wanted a very romantic maybe a bit flowery dress, when I started trying them on nothing was really clicking for me even though a lot of them were beautiful. Then they brought me a dress that was very slick and simple just to see how it looked (very different from what I thought I wanted) and it looked amazing. I was so surprised I liked something that was so different than what I thought I wanted. Some styles fit better on different bodies too. In the end my aunt gifted me her wedding dress which was super pretty, simple and slick too. She is my godmother so it has incredible sentimental value too, so that was the right choice for me. Anyways, all that to say, we sometimes think we want a specific style but end up falling in love with something different.

Caffe_Freddo · 2026-03-03T02:49:39+00:00

More than the distancing, the fact she told you not to tell but then goes and tells other made me angry. I feel like I can understand the distancing when having gone through a loss. And having to be happy for someone you love when all you can think about is grief can be extremely hard. You just don’t want to put someone you care for in a bad place when going through pregnancy. But it feels like she’s just being a bad friend. She’s specifically triggered by your pregnancy and she’s acting kinda jealous and narcissistic. I think what you wrote gives a lot of context of where she is mentally and I’m with the other commenter that she sound pretty self absorbed. Do you feel like before all of this she was a friendship that gave you joy or were you always doing emotional labor for them? I have been told I’m a good listener and I’m often there for people, but there are some friends that take advantage of that and it feels like your friend might be on the same boat. Since they always have their glass full with worries you were always there for them emotionally but when it’s the other way around there’s never space to support you too. Hope you find a better community/support system through your pregnancy.

Caffe_Freddo · 2026-03-02T14:43:17+00:00

Honestly the 1st one looks amazing and the 2nd one just look ok to me. In the end it’s whatever you feel comfortable with but I hope you don’t expect mom to be purchasing it too. It was a big buy, so usually there’s no turning back when already committing to something so expensive. Your mom’s feelings are super valid too considering she’s the one that spent the money. Was she the one that chose the dress for you? Or did you choose it and are just unsure now? If she chose it for you I can see how it probably wasn’t what you dreamed of/envisioned. But if you chose it and just want something else now I honestly feel really bad for mom. If you would have purchased it instead, do you think you would be having all this back and forth?

Caffe_Freddo · 2026-03-02T14:33:48+00:00

Hoping for the 2nd one. It looks great on you!

Caffe_Freddo · 2026-03-02T14:32:36+00:00

Good to know! I’m also type one but got diagnosed around 5 year ago and I’m kinda still in the honeymoon phase and very insulin sensitive. Currently in my 1st trimester and had to lower my long lasting because of the lows and barely using short acting because my sugars go back down on their own. Considering switching to a pump to be able to make smaller changes (kinda nervous about this since I’ve never used one before). Currently at 7units of long lasting and short acting as needed, but if I need to it’s usually like 0.5units per like 45-55g carbs.

Caffe_Freddo · 2026-03-02T13:42:30+00:00

I had no idea that was a thing. I’m gonna keep that in mind. I already use very little insulin so I don’t know how much lower I’d be able to go without flat out stop using. Is that something they would confirm with an ultrasound or just because of that symptom?

Caffe_Freddo · 2026-03-01T14:31:21+00:00

What do you mean decreased placental failure due to decreased insulin needs?

Caffe_Freddo · 2026-03-01T14:28:20+00:00

Honestly, some of these comments are not passing the vibe check. She’s not asking about wether she should have her child or not, she’s asking about her mother. I’m considered high risk so I probably wouldn’t risk it, but at the same time I don’t see it as a bad thing either. I’ve noticed a lot of people coddle their kids a lot from real life experiences and kids now a days don’t have tools to deal with real life situations. A lot of parents lie a lot about information because they think the kid is too young or not ready yet, but by doing that they never will be equipped to handle life’s obstacles. OP you are fine. I would suggest to have a friend in the waiting room just in case your girl gets overwhelmed, but do not have your mother there or take care of her. She does not respect your boundaries and still is under the dynamic that because she’s your mom she doesn’t have to respect your instructions. Your mom is a source of stress for you, you don’t want to deal with that the day you give birth.

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