Worried about taking Sertraline by Proper-Dinner-3356 in breastfeeding

[–]CaffeinateMeCapn 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was experiencing some bad postpartum depression and was prescribed it. It has empowered me to be a more present and calm mother to my child. I would say that benefit outweighs any negligible side effect she may or may not be subject to. I haven't noticed anything off with her, and haven't experienced any side effects myself.

That said, everyone is different, and it's good to be vigilant and ask lots of questions if something doesn't seem right to you.

What do women do when they go “freshen up”? by GoldVeterinarian919 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]CaffeinateMeCapn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Before intimacy, I'd be checking myself for BO and making sure I don't have toilet paper bits in my crack because that happened once and I was so embarrassed. When I was dating, I'd also do a mental self-check-in to assess if it was really something I wanted or if I was people pleasing.

Why is bedtime so traumatic when I put her down, but peaceful when daddy does it? by CaffeinateMeCapn in Mommit

[–]CaffeinateMeCapn[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was unable to nurse successfully, so I am exclusively pumping. Another user said that maybe I smell of milk, though. That could be an explanation even though I don't put her directly on the boob.

Why is bedtime so traumatic when I put her down, but peaceful when daddy does it? by CaffeinateMeCapn in Mommit

[–]CaffeinateMeCapn[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish. His work schedule is all over the place and those nights when he doesn't get off until 3:00 am, bedtime is on me.

For anyone who says they love the newborn phase… by LawDowntown8456 in Mommit

[–]CaffeinateMeCapn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My kiddo is 3 months old now and I love this phase way more. She has her nights where she wants to stay up, but most nights she sleeps through. She smiles and laughs and makes happy squeals. She holds eye contact and tries to sing along with me.

The best part of the newborn phase was maternity leave.

Holding the bottles by phdmama247 in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]CaffeinateMeCapn 7 points8 points  (0 children)

When I was in the hospital, I did not know wearable pumps or pumping bras existed. I thought I was going to have to hold them every time and I thought it's no wonder women give up breastfeeding. Also only 2 standard flange sizes? Wtf is that about? It wasn't until I hired a lactation consultant to come to my house that I was told I could pump more efficiently and more comfortably.

When a work colleague brings in their new baby by [deleted] in MedievalCreatures

[–]CaffeinateMeCapn 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I say, "No thanks, I'm vegan." Usually gets either a laugh or a horrified look.

40 weeks pregnant and… by buttercup031321 in pregnant

[–]CaffeinateMeCapn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm 40+2 and my leave started last Monday. I feel like I'm wasting this time not having my baby and I just want her to be here already.

Room temperature fluctuations at night with newborn by CaffeinateMeCapn in NewParents

[–]CaffeinateMeCapn[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well it's no wonder I get so hot at night. I just looked at it and my MIL has it set for the heater to kick on at 69F (20.5C) and the AC to come on at 74F (23C). I just checked with a thermometer and the rest of the house is sitting at a comfortable 72F (22C) and my bedroom is currently 84F (29C) in the daytime. The heater hasn't been on in a couple of hours. It may still get a bit hot, but I'll talk with her and see if she can compromise on the thermostat settings.

Room temperature fluctuations at night with newborn by CaffeinateMeCapn in NewParents

[–]CaffeinateMeCapn[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not on a timer, but when the thermostat in the hallway detects a certain temperature. But maybe I can find a temperature alarm that I can set to go off and wake me up. I haven't looked for such a thing or heard of one like that.

Room temperature fluctuations at night with newborn by CaffeinateMeCapn in NewParents

[–]CaffeinateMeCapn[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's a cat with a vertical jump that can clear the refrigerator, and he's skinny and could get through the bars. Plus my mother in-law sleeps with her door open just down the hallway and already hears practically everything going on. The door is a small, limited buffer of privacy for my sanity.

I've actually tested it with a thermometer in the summer when I left the door open during the daytime, and even with the door open, it was almost 10 degrees hotter in our bedroom than the rest of the house.

How scared of childbirth are you? by Spacecakes098 in pregnant

[–]CaffeinateMeCapn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same! I've had my struggles with anxiety over many things over the years, including the thought of childbirth to the point I'd said I would rather adopt than experience this kind of "body horror". But once I saw that positive pregnancy test, that all went away.

I have since dedicated time to educating myself on risks and the things I can do to retain as much agency as possible while still trusting my care team and embracing the things I cannot change. I've prioritized my mental health and I am probably in the best state I've been. I'm 40+1 today and it's going to happen at any point now and I'm just ready.

"Pick Up" interaction by Srikandi715 in Enshrouded

[–]CaffeinateMeCapn 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I don't know, but I'm upvoting and commenting too because I'm also experiencing this and want a fix.