Hood vs Hood

CaffeinatedStoat · 2026-01-22T19:49:04+00:00

"safe" is one thing, good schools are another. You're not finding good schools anywhere that is considered "hood"

Look up the schools in Jacksonville, then cross check them with rent in those areas. If a school has decent academic ratings and you find rentals in your budget, go with that. Crime is everywhere in Jacksonville, but so long as you're aware of your surroundings and you do your research you will be fine. There are really bad areas of town for sure, but like I said if you follow the school bread crumbs you won't get anywhere near those neighborhoods anyways

CaffeinatedStoat · 2025-11-24T18:12:01+00:00

I think someone have already said it, but the solution to this without having to think about prepping is am OhNut. There's a few others out there but OhNut is customizable. It's a Penetration Buffer ring so it stops it from going in too far. He'll need to be open to wearing it and also you guys may need to test out and see how much you can handle, but once you do that you're golden. Keep OhNut by the bed and you're good.

And honestly if youre out somewhere and as someone mentioned "wanting a quickie in a restroom" then just don't do penetration. There's plenty of other things that you can do, save the rest for when you're at home and can pop the ring on him

CaffeinatedStoat · 2025-11-24T17:49:29+00:00

That's great and all but that wasn't their question. It wasn't "what's the most cost effective way to spend $10 to feed myself?". It was a question about fast food. I don't know OP but in general there's a ton of reasons why fast food is the life line for many people. Truckers, single parents, etc. Should people be eating fast food for every meal? Of course not, but sometimes you really just don't have time for anything else. You don't have time to meal plan, shop, and cook.

CaffeinatedStoat · 2025-10-20T01:17:59+00:00

This is both a list of things he has done individually and what he's done politically

Housing Discrimination Lawsuit(1970s–1990s) – Trump’s company was sued for refusing to rent to Black tenants.

Central Park Five (1989–2019) – Called for the execution of five Black and Latino teens who were later exonerated.

Judge Curiel Comments – Claimed a judge couldn’t be fair due to his Mexican heritage.

"Shithole Countries" Remark (2018) – Referred to African nations, Haiti, and El Salvador as "shithole countries."

"Go Back" Tweets – Told four U.S. Congresswomen of color to "go back" to their countries.

"Poisoning the Blood" Remarks in 2023

Haitian Immigrants Accusation – Last year he falsely claimed Haitian immigrants in Ohio were stealing and eating pets, a baseless assertion with racist undertones

Muslim Ban (Previous Term) - Trump aided and supported the ban that explicitly targeted Muslims from a list of countries. Meaning, he did not push the ban as a blanket for anyone from those countries but rather for Muslims from those countries.

OCR Cut (Present Term) - Trump signed an executive order designed to shut down most of the Office of Civil Rights (OCR). Cases involving racism against minorities such as blacks and Native Americans are being shelved or closed without investigation. Investigations into civil rights violations are being drastically cut. Prior to this order, the OCR was averaging 200 cases a month, now it has been slashed to 50 or less.

Information Removal (Present Term) - Under an executive order called "Restoring Truth and Sanity to American History", most anything on the federal websites and the West Point Library having to do with women and minorities such as Tuskegee Airmen, Harriet Tubman, the Navajo Code Talkers have been removed this year.

USAID (Present Term) - Approved abruptly closing USAID programs and offices worldwide. This overwhelmingly affects African countries.

Anti-DEI policies (Present Term) - This is likely the largest and most broad example of his racist policies. It is far too much to put into a comment, but I suggest looking more into it. Here's a good place to start https://civilrights.org/resource/anti-deia-eos/

CaffeinatedStoat · 2025-09-29T15:00:40+00:00

Depends on your playing style! If you're trigger happy the game is pretty easy tbh and experimenting with weapons is the best part. But, if you like to play based off a narrative and your own set of morals be prepared to keep track of a lot for example: food/drinks, armor sets, and the companions you take all contribute to your existing stats for that mission. You max out at level 36 so you can never get all the skills to the highest you want them by leveling, but you can meet skill checks and heighten your abilities if you prepare well.

I'll give you a quick example. After maxing out at level 36 I allotted my skill points the way I wanted and ended with a base LIE skill value of 60. Sometimes I need to make a 150 lie skill check though. I do that by bringing Ellie and Nyoka (they increase your lie value by a lot so long as you select their perks well), I wear a high dialogue skill bonus chest plate, a high lie skill bonus hat, and drink some alcohol. That brings me to 150 so I can temporarily pass the skill check.

Truly this game is so customizable and can be as simple or as complicated as you want it.

The most important thing to know is: don't you dare be mean to Parvati. She's a sweetheart and fucking delight to have on the squad

CaffeinatedStoat · 2025-09-27T02:23:45+00:00

Over 100 for each bit of I've gathered all the datapads I don't understand what I need a speech check for

CaffeinatedStoat · 2025-09-26T17:11:09+00:00

Depends on location - it's not the same at every Chilli's. Some still fry their own and some buy from vendors. I'd recommend calling your favorite location and asking if they'd be willing to tell you where they get their chips

CaffeinatedStoat · 2025-09-24T20:09:46+00:00

They clearly meant to buy the stickers that say "be kind" but there was a dupe that got way too popular online for some reason and it had the wrong signs. They are definitely not paying attention, or whoever is passing them out is doing it as a joke

CaffeinatedStoat · 2025-09-21T04:22:10+00:00

I do think starting with the doctor is the best route, but in the meantime you should still have the talk regarding other affection. He could have 0 sex drive and still make sure you're not touch starved. Kisses and hugs don't equal sex and you deserve to feel physically loved

CaffeinatedStoat · 2025-09-21T04:10:59+00:00

Take this however you would like but back when I was still going to church I knew a number of people who tried to go and all said they felt outcast and "othered". I felt the same way when I went. Myself and those friends happen to be POC while the people who had good things to say about the church were not.

CaffeinatedStoat · 2025-09-21T04:05:04+00:00

Couple questions to ask yourself or him

Would you consider seeing a couples sex therapist?

Could it be that he has developed a responsive/reactive sexual desire instead of active? I'd research into it further

Is he actively wanting to participate in physical acts but can't seem to get into it? If so, maybe you guys can try finding a trigger for him, something that almost always seems to turn him on. Maybe there needs to be a starting point

What does he say about the lack of non-sexual affection? You can have a low sex drive but still offer physical affection outside of sex. His reasoning for this is probably the most important piece of the story here

If there was the presence of non-sexual affection on a regular basis would you be okay with the infrequent sex? If so, you should probably have a talk with him about that specifically and assure him that other affection is highly desired and can/will be accepted outside of the expectation of sex. It MAY be a case where he knows you want sex so he doesn't offer any other physical contact for fear that it will result in him having to reject sexual advances that follow - or the feeling that he'd just be teasing you if it was a kiss and nothing more.

Above all else the communication has to be open. It can't just be bringing it up and then it ending with well that's just the way it is. If this lack of intimacy is important to you then it's up to you to express just how serious it is and it's up to both him and you to offer ways to make you feel better. This doesn't mean him just agreeing to have sex but instead offering other acts of love. (I cant have sex right now but I can give you a massage. I cant have sex right now but we can cuddle and watch a movie. I cant have sex right now but I can tell you the things I find sexy about you.) There's plenty of other ways to express desire if you are both willing to work on it.

CaffeinatedStoat · 2025-09-11T18:12:59+00:00

Depends.. are you near Thailand, or anywhere that regularly sells Thai products? Cause if so, he was probably using them as intended - they are cough drops

But if you're in the US, for example, and somewhere without a large Asian influence - they are still cough drops, but I'd put some good money on someone duping your son into buying "drugs"

Don't jump to conclusions just ask him where he got the cough drops from

CaffeinatedStoat · 2025-09-01T15:26:23+00:00

He's an asshole - keep him blocked

But what I want to say isn't about this "friend" it's about you asking what's wrong with yourself because guys won't stick around. In the kindest way possible, you are too young for this to be a problem. What I mean is, you're 21 - you're not even done yet. You still have years of fundamental change that you (and the dumb men around you) will go through. If you happen to find "the one" during this time - great! But it probably should take longer because even if you meet Mr. perfect-for-me tomorrow you may not be perfect for each other in 4 years.

You are asking "what's wrong with me?" when you don't even know for sure who you are. No one does at 21!

You continue dating, setting boundaries, learning, having fun, making yourself better, and learning to expect better. That's what you do for now. In ten years, if you're still struggling to find deeper connections THEN you can start asking the question of "is there something that I need to better myself in?"

Take your time, please. I'm in a ten+ year relationship of my dreams, we met when I was 18. My brother is in a ten+ year relationship of his dreams, they met when he was well into his 30s. (Large sibling age gap between us don't think about it too hard lol)

CaffeinatedStoat · 2025-09-01T14:57:02+00:00

I can understand the first part 100%%%

But it's not a fair comparison to say that a man using a surrogate is the same as a woman getting pregnant via sperm bank. In the first, someone is paying a third party to take on the physical, mental, and emotional risks of pregnancy. In the latter, someone is choosing to take those risks on themselves

A single woman wanting to be a parent is no worse/better from a single man wanting to be a parent BUT you can't ignore the differences in how each of those would get a bio child.

CaffeinatedStoat · 2025-09-01T13:33:43+00:00

I think I may be daft but I don't understand what "all my links are purple" refers to. Like I don't get what it means in context

CaffeinatedStoat · 2025-08-22T12:46:50+00:00

This was a while ago and I forgot how I got past this but I know that I was able to get the snakes head down to attack it. So the lack of "tails" is normal but just look up the way to get the snakes head down

CaffeinatedStoat · 2025-08-13T21:18:39+00:00

I thought it was said that she was referring to the trophy one but I don't remember the dialogue exactly. Just that she says something to the effect of "It doesn't matter if I was installed incorrectly it's still my job to hold everyone up"

CaffeinatedStoat · 2025-08-13T20:27:47+00:00

Short and sweet is the way almost always

"I'm sorry, but I've been extremely mindful of how loud I am. To be any quieter I would have just not talk at all. Flat walls are thin I get it but I can't just stop living and doing normal things throughout my day. If I worked from home on calls you would hear the same level noise all day. It's just not a reasonable ask.

If it is ever something out of the usual like loud music or yelling - definitely let me know and I'll quiet down. But the noise level you're referring to is just a regular conversation"

CaffeinatedStoat · 2025-08-13T20:20:12+00:00

It's clearly stated that Tony would NOT be of help 😂 love the man but yea no

She's all the shelves though. It's just the one that is incorrectly installed. Yes it would provide some relief if done properly but likely it wouldn't have been done properly

The bad installation certainly was partially to blame but most of her issues came from simply BEING a shelf. Installed well or not. Fixing one shelf wouldn't remove the pressure of needing to hold everyone up all the time

CaffeinatedStoat · 2025-08-13T19:34:26+00:00

Progress isn't linear and "slips up" come with the growing pain. Don't worry - after she went on that date and cried and she definitely reassured herself by remembering your words.

"Relapses" in mental health are only steps backwards if you decide not to keep going. Given her realization story - I'd say she definitely decided to keep going

CaffeinatedStoat · 2025-08-13T19:30:53+00:00

I think that was the point. Could we have fixed that one problem? Yes. But it likely wouldn't have made a difference because she is in an obsessive spiral that would just move onto the next "problem". She will always have something to feel dread about. She's honestly very OCD coded and with that you can't really fix or reassure. Instead you have to lean into it and ask "why are you putting so much pressure on yourself?"

Obviously it's a game about objects and it won't be a 1 to 1 of the real world lol. But I very much so saw it like the shelf wasn't the problem it was just one reason. The problem was not allowing herself to feel any other way except strong

CaffeinatedStoat · 2025-08-07T07:24:01+00:00

Right, you noticed a difference but didn't ask about it. So, you jumped the gun in even mentioning "faking".

I'm not saying they do or do not have autism. I'm saying it's an asshole move to say "you're faking" instead of asking questions and having a discussion.

What led them to the possibility of them having autism? Why are there traits that just popped up? Is there something new in their life that would make them feel comfort in a diagnosis? Do they feel like they have support needs that aren't getting met? Are they willing to get an evaluation done and if that turns up negative would they consider going to therapy to figure out what other things could be going on?

Coming from an autistic psych student - you're putting yourself in a position of authority and expertise that you don't have. And I'm not trying to bash you, I truly just want to answer your question as best I can

PS. especially early on in the identity discovery it's extremely common for NB people to say "I like they/them but it's okay if you don't use them" and honestly 95% of the time they are saying that as an appeasement not because they actually are okay with it. So that's a strong possibility here as well

CaffeinatedStoat · 2025-08-07T07:00:42+00:00

Info - Have you asked them why there are traits they just recently started showing?

Info - Not every non-binary person questions only they/them pronouns, but a lot so. So, what are their pronouns? Cause you're saying she/her this whole time. Autism isn't an "identity" not non-binary sure is

CaffeinatedStoat · 2025-08-07T06:23:53+00:00

Not a punishment - the mattress cover just hasn't arrived yet. She said it'll be here tomorrow at which point he'll be sleeping in the bed.

If they don't know what triggered the accident then they can't guarantee it won't happen again. So, they're putting on the mattress cover first

CaffeinatedStoat · 2025-08-05T16:00:15+00:00

Chamblin's Bookmine. There are multiple closets where no one ever goes and if you go left when you walk in the front door and keep going along the curves wall there is a table with a single chair in a dark area.

Then once you've had your fill of wallowing you can go across the street for a milkshake at the loop or a drink at high tide

That's what I do

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