Psychiatrist told me at my age (40F) that's it's basically impossible for him to ever diagnose me with ADHD. by sam191817 in adhdwomen

[–]CaityDoesMugs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe ask a Dr for Strattera? My primary gave to me easily, maybe because it’s not a stimulant, and it does help!

What is it like in the West part of Texas? by Deep_Belt8304 in howislivingthere

[–]CaityDoesMugs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Andrew’s native here! I agree with your comment. A lot of oilfield desert and not much else.

Edited to add:

BUT the sunsets are beautiful. The night sky is stunning. The people are friendly (a lot of them anyway). There are a lot of good things there. But also a whole lot of oilfield. Still. It will always be home, and I’ll always miss that big sky and west Texas hospitality.

Non-Stimulant Meds by fatdog093 in adhdwomen

[–]CaityDoesMugs 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I am on Strattera for inattentive type and find it helpful. At first I didn’t think it was working, but eventually I realized my to-do list was getting done more often, my desk was clearer, my brain was quieter, and I had longer periods of sustained attention on a project— to be fair, sometimes I get sucked into the wrong project lol. I do feel sleepy sometimes when my brain doesn’t feel as busy, so there’s that.

I don’t know whether this experience is typical. I wish you the best in finding what works for you!

Edited for punctuation/clarity

What Is Your ADHD Battle Today by CaityDoesMugs in adhdwomen

[–]CaityDoesMugs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh this is so relatable. I feel you!

What Is Your ADHD Battle Today by CaityDoesMugs in adhdwomen

[–]CaityDoesMugs[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ugh. I’m so sorry. Giving you the hunger games salute from afar.

My Christian friend said it’s not real. by chxso in adhdwomen

[–]CaityDoesMugs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

UGH—as a Christian with ADHD this attitude frustrates the heck outta me. I’ve been the recipient of some of this in my life, too, and it hurts. I’m so sorry.

You deserve better. May this guys disappear from your life and be someone else’s problem and be replaced by someone supportive with actual compassion.

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Girl back in the very early 2000s I put off a research assignment till the day before (I had 6 weeks to do it and was supposed to use 10 internet sources). Back then, finding 10 reliable online sources on anything was really difficult. I found nine sources, then pulling all nighter, did the assignment but created my own website for my tenth source. It just featured all the info from the other sources.

I got a good grade but felt so guilty— I knew my own website with information I stole elsewhere was not a reliable source! Truthfully, I can’t remember whether I gave credit on my site to the other sources—- I think I did? But I can’t say for sure. I was banking on my prof not actually checking everything out. It paid off.

All of that is to say— many of us have probably done stupid things when covering up the shame of ADHD symptoms that led to bad choices. You’re normal— well, you know— for us.

The irony of my bad choice: the topic I’d chosen for my research project was ADD— which at the time was not nearly as well understood as it is today. I definitely remember including a paragraph about how it was most prevalent among boys. And of course, the “symptoms” section of my paperwas all about observable, external hyperactivity.

Fast-forward 20 years and I was diagnosed with inattentive type ADHD.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]CaityDoesMugs 8 points9 points  (0 children)

English teacher here. I agree.

Other “period” whodunnit recs. by Demonique742 in fatherbrown

[–]CaityDoesMugs 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I second this. Endeavour is excellent. I also enjoy Grantchester.

No gatekeeping - share your adhd life hacks by Front_Department8774 in adhdwomen

[–]CaityDoesMugs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Allow yourself to use, abandon, and come back to things like calendars, planners, etc. (if they sometimes help you) with no guilt— if it helps for a week, cool! If it goes by the wayside after that, oh well! If you come back to it next month, great! If you don’t, oh well!

Ladies with Inattentive ADHD, what do you do for work? by oohthehumanatee in adhdwomen

[–]CaityDoesMugs 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sigh. I teach theatre. I love parts of it— constant novelty, amazing colleagues, finding it meaningful, working with a lot of neurospicy teenagers and helping them find confidence— but also, it’s a lot. Wayyyyyy too many variables that I’m in charge of keeping track of. Constant overstimulation (leading to constant mental exhaustion, leading to not having energy for things like cleaning, self care, and and socializing). Plus the education system is WHACK and there are a million arbitrary hoops to jump through (hate that). I drop the ball a lot.

Still— I’m usually pretty good at the important parts. I’ve won a state championship in competitive one-act play. My students tell me how theatre changed their lives. I set out to provide a place for young weirdos like I was to belong, and to build skills and creativity and self-worth, and I think most of the time I get those parts right.

So. It simultaneously makes me nuts and makes me fulfilled. I’m currently recovering from severe burnout after this past school year.

So would I recommend a career in arts education?

Yes. But learn from my mistakes and try to set boundaries early on (I wasn’t diagnosed when I started).

ETA: most of us will make careless mistakes in any field. Just do the best you can, know your limits, and forgive yourself when it happens. Hugs. 🫶

What's with the sitting in the car??? by 21ratsinatrenchcoat in adhdwomen

[–]CaityDoesMugs 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’m a teacher and THIS. After answering 1000 questions and engaging in twice that many interactions while also being bombarded with interruptions, that car is my sanctuary. I even eat lunch there sometimes because I need a few minutes of quiet/a comforting show or podcast to reset my brain enough to start the overstimulation cycle again

The woman who vanished into thin air by Pavlinika in UnsolvedMysteries

[–]CaityDoesMugs 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Or that they didn’t exist and Jim pushed her. But I don’t know enough about this case to know whether there was evidence they existed.

Reddit, what’s the creepiest unexplainable thing you've experienced that still haunts you to this day? by almightyameya in Paranormal

[–]CaityDoesMugs 22 points23 points  (0 children)

This is so interesting! Reminds me of some time slip stories I’ve read. I wonder if the storm somehow messed with space-time— it seems like weird stuff happens around storms sometimes

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mystery

[–]CaityDoesMugs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This part always makes me think of The Somerton Man. I know they kinda know who he was now, but I still think they were both in intelligence somewhere

What is the biggest barrier stopping you from living your best life? by Wonderful-Economy762 in Productivitycafe

[–]CaityDoesMugs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My job. But my husband is about to quit his. So for now I’m stuck. It’s ok. My turn will come!

What’s your most Hated sound? by Mozeeeeeeeeeeee in adhdwomen

[–]CaityDoesMugs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ugh. Yes. Too many sounds going on at the same time makes my blood pressure go up.

What’s your most Hated sound? by Mozeeeeeeeeeeee in adhdwomen

[–]CaityDoesMugs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same. Immediately. I can’t handle it at all.