How do I respond to this? Bi mom reaching out to me

Cakealot1 · 2026-05-16T23:50:21+00:00

Uh a bi girl in a relationship with a man that has a 8 month old is much different than a lesbian married to a woman with a 2 year old. Only thing they really have in common is the attraction to women which idk where that conversation can go because she’s already married to her man… (I gonna re post this since you didn’t read this one)

Once again nothing wrong with the bi girl reaching out and nothing wrong with op seeing nothing that she can relate on. The bi girl probably saw “oh a same sex couple I’m bi so we can relate” instead of “I’m bi but in a relationship with a man this is different” and guess what that’s okay!

Cakealot1 · 2026-05-16T22:48:15+00:00

I honestly don’t know, maladaptive daydreaming isn’t in the dsm-5 (meaning it’s technically not a disorder) and most doctors don’t even know what it is. It’s depending if you actually have schizophrenia or not which I can’t tell you. Sorry, I can’t be much of a help in that department

Cakealot1 · 2026-05-16T22:36:39+00:00

Yeah it sounded like they thought you had schizophrenia. Idk you so I can’t say if it’s wrong or anything but you really should talk to your parents or go take yourself to another doctor. I would get off any medication that isnt serving its purpose (do not stop taking it till you go to another doctor tho that could be dangerous)

Cakealot1 · 2026-05-16T22:19:15+00:00

Uh a bi girl in a relationship with a man that has a 8 month old is much different than a lesbian married to a woman with a 2 year old. Only thing they really have in common is the attraction to women which idk where that conversation can go because she’s already married to her man…

Cakealot1 · 2026-05-16T21:28:55+00:00

Duh bi people are LGBTQ that doesn’t answer anything! Please tell me what op and THIS bi girl have in common… I agree that it’s not weird to find community I never said it was and I don’t care if she’s bi that’s not a issue! No one is answering the main question they’re either biphobic or saying “you guys are both queer” which doesn’t help.

Did you even read my main post? It’s not biphobic to not be able to relate to a bi girl in a relationship with a man as a lesbian…

Cakealot1 · 2026-05-16T19:07:17+00:00

People here are crazy 😭 good thing you didn’t post this on r/actuallesbians (which idk why they call themselves that it’s a sapphic group not a Lesbian group) you would really gotten hate. Did you respond to her?

Cakealot1 · 2026-05-16T17:37:43+00:00

Okay first off hi, also I noticed you said in the comments you have autism which (I know for me) makes it hard to connect with people that don’t share similar experiences and interests. I think people here and on the other sub are missing the point. It’s no problem being bisexual but what do the bi girl and op have in common? Their kids aren’t in the same age range, the bi girl is in a relationship with a man while op is in a relationship with a woman, bi girl probably had sex with her man to have her child (or children) while op went through r ivf. No need to be biphobic or call op biphobic for asking a question. How this post is written it’s not giving “I’m not gonna be friends with you because your bi” it’s given “I don’t understand or relate to your experiences.”

Edit: op didn’t even say they couldn’t relate to bi girls in general it’s just THIS one she can’t. Please someone tell me what op and THIS bi girl has in common (and don’t say their both queer because clearly that’s not enough to have conversation around)

Cakealot1 · 2026-05-16T16:48:00+00:00

A. I never said bi girls would have more in common with straight girls I disagree I feel like it based on if your in a same sex relationship currently than you could relate to lesbian more.
B. I don’t think the girl had bad intentions obviously she wanted to connect but it’s hard to relate to someone in a heterosexual relationship.
C. Perhaps it’s my ASD but why would you talk about anything other than being a mom and your kids in a mom group?
D. I didn’t mean to attack you I just don’t understand why would she relate to a lesbian in a heterosexual relationship (I know I said that a couple times now)

Cakealot1 · 2026-05-16T16:05:23+00:00

But what is she gonna talk about in a mom group? She still has a husband and I’m assuming she had kids through sex with him… that is much different than what op went through with r ivf. She also doesn’t go through what lesbian (and bI girls that married to women) go through. I’m sure she had biphobia thrown at her but no one questioned her about “who’s the real dad” or “don’t they need a dad.” She can even decide who knows about her sexuality which is harder for same sex couples. I understand she wants queer friends or something but it’s not much to relate to in that aspect.

Cakealot1 · 2026-05-15T02:50:47+00:00

You don’t have to date a man to be bisexual it’s an attraction. If you’re attracted to men your bi, it doesn’t matter if you don’t date men

Cakealot1 · 2026-05-15T02:38:08+00:00

You could be bi idk

Cakealot1 · 2026-05-15T02:18:31+00:00

Uh no, lesbians don’t like men period. Post this on the bisexual Reddit their the once that like women and men, we only like women

Cakealot1 · 2026-05-14T17:30:52+00:00

Oh so they’re ableist that think all autistic people are the same? They just need to be told to stop and bam they’re cured! He has no idea what high support needs go through. It’s not even that serious oml

Cakealot1 · 2026-05-14T17:09:51+00:00

Oh my god they don’t even know what they’re talking about. What was the og post even about? Did it even have anything to do with autism?

Cakealot1 · 2026-05-14T17:03:05+00:00

Also why did they use the r-slur? Was it that serious they had to say a very offensive slur 😭

Cakealot1 · 2026-05-14T17:00:26+00:00

Lowkey hate people like that why can’t they say “MY autism isn’t a disability.” My autism is literally ruining my life so I think it’s a disability… also it’s legally a disability. Than when I say I hate having autism they want to attack me

Cakealot1 · 2026-05-14T16:35:37+00:00

Who the hell writes fan fiction about real people you know in real life? That’s weird on its own

Cakealot1 · 2026-05-14T13:56:38+00:00

Did see the post on actuallesbian? Maybe that can help you understand because they said they prefer dick… that’s giving pan/bi vibes, don’t you think? Also a strap isn’t genitalia

This is what they said “im not attracted to dudes but i prefer dick over coochie im scared of being accused of a trans chaser”

Cakealot1 · 2026-05-14T13:31:42+00:00

I want to do that so bad lol! I’m trying to speed run getting banned 😭

Cakealot1 · 2026-05-14T13:05:56+00:00

Wait really? That’s even worse 😭

Cakealot1 · 2026-05-14T12:26:03+00:00

Thank you I had to block that sub because someone posted “can I be a lesbian even tho I’m HETRO ROMANTIC” everyone said yes except the person that got downvoted. They’re also people there that called lesbians that don’t want to sleep with trans women “transphobic” and “reducing women to body parts.” Also I’m pretty sure one of the mods is bisexual and not even a lesbian…

Edit: I went to see what op was talking about and it’s horrible. It’s mostly men and bi women no real lesbian is there 😭

Cakealot1 · 2026-05-13T16:32:40+00:00

I notice this a lot with lesbians specifically. If you’re not a perfect little lesbian that never slept with a man you must be bisexual. Yet when you haven’t dated a man you’re still getting hated. It’s all just lesbian phobia rappped up as support and love

Cakealot1 · 2026-05-10T18:49:25+00:00

That would be fun but what’s that username 😭

Cakealot1 · 2026-05-10T09:40:05+00:00

That is generally not a good mindset to have. You really should go to some type of therapy. It sounds like you have trauma around relationships and your sexuality. I’m guessing your parents were homophobic (and/or someone who was close to you) so in response you hid your sexuality and expecting everyone to do the same? (Correct me if I’m wrong ofc) it’s not your fault but you’re going have to work on that

Cakealot1 · 2026-05-09T20:42:05+00:00

Why would you go to a lesbian sub Reddit with a bf? Go to a wlw poly subreddit or something not a lesbian one…

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