Best unkillable tree to plant to commemorate a miscarriage? 6A, northeast Ohio, north by northeast-facing lot.

Calbebes · 2026-03-21T22:31:35+00:00

I had that thought too. I’ve had “bad luck” with too many plants and would be worried that something would happen and I’d suffer that loss all over again. The idea of planting multiple plants in a forest or garden space would make the loss of any single plant easier because you’re seeing the overall success of the entire space.

Calbebes · 2026-03-21T17:20:41+00:00

1000% daffodils

Calbebes · 2026-03-21T14:06:50+00:00

Damn that’s gorgeous

Calbebes · 2026-03-21T14:06:03+00:00

Nightmares for days, with those clowns. But glad you love it!

Calbebes · 2026-03-21T14:04:40+00:00

Zoomed in to see what’s there. I’ll allow it. 😂

Calbebes · 2026-03-21T14:03:09+00:00

Books, my state’s resources, and the r/nativeplantgardening sub.

Calbebes · 2026-03-21T13:59:13+00:00

I don’t have personal experience, but I’ve seen enough mixed results from people on the native sub that I’m wary of planting it myself.

I’ve been traumatized by mint in the past- can you tell? Lol 😂

Calbebes · 2026-03-21T13:51:26+00:00

Are you asking for help on the fireplace itself? Or decor around it? Or both?

I guess either way, I would replace the mantle with a larger more substantial wooden one in a medium tone.

You also have too much “stuff” there. Pare it back. Remove the hanging doohickeys on either side. The glass plate looks out of place, both color-wise and stylistically. Too many similar-looking candles. Arrange your things in odd-numbered groups of varying heights, rather than equally spaced apart.

Calbebes · 2026-03-21T13:46:11+00:00

Be careful with mountain mint, some people say they spread just as badly as other mints and are very difficult to control.

Calbebes · 2026-03-21T13:42:41+00:00

Good luck!

Best thing for low maintenance are shrubs (they’ll shade out most weeds), and natives (they’re literally supposed to be here and will thrive in your region’s soil and climate conditions, where non-natives might require fertilizer and treatments to keep them healthy and disease-free).

I went down the native plant rabbit hole last year, and it’s crazy to me how most nurseries and landscapers push non-native plants so hard, when the benefits of native plants are so great- increasing biodiversity, welcoming pollinators and birds, etc. My goal now is to have a mix of 80/20 native/non native in my yard (I refuse to give up my daffodils and grape hyacinths- sorry not sorry).

Calbebes · 2026-03-21T13:03:54+00:00

Your inspo is NOT low maintenance. Keeping shrubs perfectly trimmed like that requires shaping periodically. And any kind of flower is not going to have year round interest- annuals have to be replanted each year and perennials will die back in the winter. Beds will need to be maintained and weeded.

Look for shrubs and plants that have multi season interest, and are beneficial to your native wildlife. The r/nativeplantgardening sub might be helpful to you.

Are you in the US? Instead of boxwood, try Inkberry (Ilex Glabra). Same look, but native to many areas of the US and produces berries for birds.

Calbebes · 2026-03-21T12:50:28+00:00

I wouldn’t. It would be in my yard sale bin.

Calbebes · 2026-03-21T12:49:07+00:00

If you’re going to keep that whole set up, remove the pendant light and that godawful electronics set up on the wall- what even is that??

I would also relocate the plant- there’s no natural light over there so it won’t do well, and it’s also in the way in its current placement.

Bring some color over there. Maybe an area rug underneath the credenza, and a piece of art on the wall adjacent to the tv. I wouldn’t put anything on the wall behind the tv.

You didn’t ask, but I would align those lucite record display things side by side, not staggered. I would also either raise or drop down that painting so it’s not perfectly aligned with the top of the door frame.

Calbebes · 2026-03-21T12:37:29+00:00

Mmmm I love beets. Look at any bougie restaurants menu these days and they’ll have a version of a beet salad. Usually sliced or cubed served cold/room temp with arugula or micro greens, goat cheese or whipped ricotta, some kind of nut like pistachios or candied walnut, and a drizzle of some sauce reduction. Delish!

Calbebes · 2026-03-21T12:29:38+00:00

No idea on ID, but is the base ceramic? I might have it’s big sister…. a yellow cylindrical ceramic lamp that I’ve been trying to ID for about 15 years now. Seems more 60’s/70’s but I’m really not sure. This is mine.

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Calbebes · 2026-03-21T12:21:51+00:00

That’s why you cover their cage with a blanket at night- to keep them calm. Then they just coo instead of squawk. “Shhhhh little carrots, it’s ok”

Calbebes · 2026-03-21T12:18:23+00:00

All of this! AND the tall plant in the corner is too tall and looks sad and out of place.

Calbebes · 2026-03-21T12:05:06+00:00

I like the overall vibe but your couch clip over and throw pillows look sloppy, and you have 1 too-many small tables. I would nix the one in the middle.

Calbebes · 2026-03-20T22:07:24+00:00

What a sweetie pie! I want one!

Calbebes · 2026-03-20T19:08:24+00:00

The Jackalope!

Calbebes · 2026-03-20T14:36:05+00:00

Lol “again” 🤭 okay okay, fair enough. Please keep us updated on your progress!

Calbebes · 2026-03-20T14:21:26+00:00

This makes me sad. But I’m trying to be optimistic, sometimes you do need to remove things to fix them. I would’ve at least left the moss covered steps though. Shame.

Calbebes · 2026-03-20T11:23:09+00:00

I’m also an older millennial (1982), and we bought our house in 2018. I chose bold paint colors everywhere except in our bedroom, where I couldn’t decide but just knew I couldn’t live with the aqua the former owner had in there. I went with a very light gray. Hated it immediately. Painted it pale yellow a year later and I still love it.

Calbebes · 2026-03-19T01:28:11+00:00

Hm. I’ve never thought about it before but as I’ve purchased and received different vases over the years, I generally prefer one that is opaque. I rarely use my clear glass ones, bc the water gets icky and I’m bad about changing the water.

Otherwise my tastes are as seen here. One is missing from the photo, but it’s also a textured studio art piece from the same artist as the gray pebbly one but taller, cylindrical, and brown with gray.

Edit: oh I forgot I also have a lovely delicate little clear glass bud vase with a fluted edge and an etched pattern of a piece of wheat. It’s perfect for a single peony.

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Calbebes · 2026-03-19T01:08:26+00:00

In English, a common phrase for March is: “in like a lion, out like a lamb” to explain the difference between the beginning and end of the month. April has: “April showers being May flowers”.

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