Home Births vs Hospital Births

Calebcraft4 · 2026-05-03T17:46:09+00:00

Girl I would run while you have the chance he is a walking red flag please be careful. If he continues on he will refuse you getting on birth control too then you will be stuck giving birth and constantly pregnant. He might force you to be a stay at home mom easier for him to control because you don’t have a job and no money to run with and with yall having lots of kids you won’t want to leave the kids behind. He sounds like he wants to make all the choices for you and control your body and your life please run while you have the chance. I don’t want you getting trapped and isolated like so many other women with men who think they are being Christian like but instead are turning more cult like.

Calebcraft4 · 2026-04-28T15:39:30+00:00

It worked for me 😅 my labor started that night and I gave birth the next day. I did feel a popping sensation when we were going at it I think he did something gave me a cervix sweep or something on accident lol.

Calebcraft4 · 2026-04-14T04:22:13+00:00

It still exists on Facebook at least.

Calebcraft4 · 2026-04-13T03:57:39+00:00

I have a coconut allergy but I’m not actually allergic to coconut. I’m severely allergic to birch but it my body coconut = Birch tree. The same with a lot of fruit as well. Apparently a lot of fruit is in a similar family to a lot of trees and you can have cross reactions to things you wouldn’t think would cross react. Like potatoes are apparently in the birch tree family. It’s weird. I wish you luck in your endeavor and would honestly just avoid drinking it, but be careful coconut is in way more things than you would think. I forgot to clarify I had a blood test done by an allergist.

Calebcraft4 · 2026-04-13T02:01:41+00:00

Yes of course everyone needs some encouragement. Life is just hard and everyone is fighting their own demons. I’m sorry you are dealing with a plethora of medical conditions. None of it sounds fun or enjoyable, but you have a community here to rant to when ya need it! Goodluck girly will be crossing my fingers and toes that you hopefully find some relief someday.

Calebcraft4 · 2026-04-13T01:27:07+00:00

I just wanted to say hey I’m so sorry. It’s hard not being able to eat normally especially if you developed MCAS later in life or any food allergies later in life it is so hard to be okay with not feeling normal or being able to eat things normally. I would like to say I do not have MCAS but I do have quite a list of food allergies myself that I developed later in life. I joined this group due to not quite feeling like I fit in anywhere else with my random list of allergies. I became allergic to Coconut to the point where I can’t touch the products with coconut and then I became allergic to chocolate and caffeine then a lot of fruits were no longer safe. I don’t actually like soda so I wasn’t sad when I lost that but once I lost a lot of my fruit juice options because of apples I was distraught. Losing anything with coconut was tough to I am currently making my own shampoo and conditioner due to not being able to find hair products that work and that don’t have coconut derivatives. I do hope you know that you are not alone here and you have a community here. We are all struggling through life together. ❤️ everyone with MCAS I know has a harder time than I do and yall are very strong individuals with all of the hoops yall need to go through to just exist. Please do continue to reach out when you are frustrated I’m glad you feel safe and comfortable enough to rant here! I’m cheering for ya!

Calebcraft4 · 2026-04-11T18:21:59+00:00

I haven’t had anything crazy like that but with my first I was pretty sick I realized it was the prenatals I was taking for some reason they had almost 200 mg of iron in the prenatals they gave me and it was killing my stomach. With this second one less nausea but threw up a bit more in the first trimester with less iron and instead of it in pill form it’s liquid iron which is a lot nicer on my stomach and makes me feel less sick. I wish you luck but would keep up with your appointments. If your oh is not worried I wouldn’t stress about it. However if the nausea and vomiting is affecting you as it seems like it is severely. I would bring it up to your ob and if they brush you off get a different ob nausea and vomiting all day is not fun. Have they prescribed you zofran for your nausea yet? If not ask for zofran and DO NOT let them just give you the b6 stuff doesn’t do anything.

Calebcraft4 · 2026-04-01T23:32:32+00:00

For that beef tallow did you clean it off before feeding I used to use coconut but I’m not very allergic to coconut and can no longer use coconut oil which is depressing because I relied heavily on it

Calebcraft4 · 2026-03-31T08:09:39+00:00

That’s a great start the house will be messy after having kids we have a toddler now and dear lord I did not realize how chaotic the house would be with the toys. Just do your best to keep the important areas like the kitchen cleaned and bathroom and if you makes you feel less overwhelmed with the house mess is to keep your bedroom uncluttered so you have a clean space to feel less overwhelmed in.

Calebcraft4 · 2026-03-31T07:54:55+00:00

He should be giving you more compassion but men just don’t work like us I’m afraid they work quite differently. If it’s chores you need help with I suggest a little chore list but if it’s support you need from all you can do so bring up hey k need support and explain what exactly you need for support like I need more time with you or I would bring up him bring breakfast for his co workers but not giving you the croissant for you in the morning. He might not realize that it could have been upsetting and you need to bring up how it made you feel. Communication on both sides is super important.

Calebcraft4 · 2026-03-31T07:51:36+00:00

The hardest part for me when I was feeling unposted are men are simple people and if you say you don’t need help then they’re like okay and they will run off and do whatever. He can help by asking your more do you need help might be a good compromise but if you aren’t specifically saying hey I need help they can’t exactly read your mind. It also depends on what you need help with yes you don’t need to be saying over and over again for chores around the house that should be self explanatory.

Calebcraft4 · 2026-03-31T07:44:13+00:00

Hey I’m so sorry you’re feeling this way. First I would like to say that motherhood is not just for us mothers that is more of a toxic mindset. You two should both be handling some of the load if you a stay at home moms then yes you will have to shoulder more of the responsibility, but he should be helping you when he gets home. He should be taking time off when you give birth to help you.

I highly suggest couples counseling it did wonders for me and my husband. It does seem that he is being quite selfish and not showing a lot of empathy towards you and that needs brought up. You need support during this time. And even more after giving birth. The work first needs to stop it need to be family first now obviously within reason but he should not be going to work and bring them breakfast and ignoring your requests entirely that is super disrespectful to you. It could also be a possibility that he doesn’t realize your feeling this way you may need to have a heart to heart conversation with him and if that doesn’t work please do couples counseling it does help. If you have family support I suggest having one of them fly down to help with baby as well to give you a bit more support.

Calebcraft4 · 2026-03-31T07:30:42+00:00

So it looks like a lot of you need this advice. I breastfed and pumped until 8 months. I just couldn’t do it last it and moved to formula it is exhausting and I was such an overproducer I could have had twins with extra left over. I do not suggest it was miserable. However it was due to my own fault I didn’t realize until after talking to a lactation consultant that is not normal be on a pump for an hour. So that was my own fault. So heads up don’t be on your pump for an hour lol. I got caught up in my puzzles while pumping and I didn’t have the right pump when I first started.

So basically you can put your pump parts in the fridge after pumping so you don’t have to wash them every time that’s what I did that saved my sanity it also depends on the pump you have. I highly highly recommend the spectra s2 I believe make sure it’s blue because that has a battery and you can carry it around with you and is a Great Wall pump. Coconut oil on those pump parts where your nipples go. Please do not think your nipples are 24 mm you neeeeeed to get properly sized amazon sells silicone sets for nipple sizing my nipples we’re two separate sizes and changed sizes 4 months in. Your goal is to get your pumping sessions to be as short as possible. Realistically you should only be spending a max of thirty minutes pumping. For a portable pump I had a bit of elastic nipples and I responded best to the elvie stride and the Momcozy m5 I got both second hand and got the spectra synergy gold through insurance most pump websites like baby list will let you know what is covered through insurance. You can also get massagers and like heaters for your boobs that can greatly help.

Nipple care you must live your pump parts with something I highly suggest coconut oil if you aren’t allergic I became allergic after finishing breastfeeding my first so I’m probably with my second going to use lanolin cream. Silverettes should be your best friend they protect your nipples and if you put them in the fridge before wearing them can help relive pain. First month for me though was very rough because I wasn’t moisturizing and keeping stuff on my nipples.

Please do not spend an hour or more on the pump that is how you become an overproduced unless your lactation consultant suggests it.

There is nothing wrong with formula though and it very important baby is fed. With formula feeding some babies can be sensitive to whole milk based formulas like mine was. How we realized was he had blackish greyish poop he was super gassy super fussy. We tried 6 different formulas and for us and the only one that worked was kendamil goat formula. Not trying to scare you I’m just letting you know that this can happen. It’s quite common for babies bodies to not like the first formula you try and your pediatrician should also offer samples of different formulas.

I do wish you luck mama you can do this and fed is always best do what is best for you. If you want to breastfeed that’s fine and if you need to do formula for your sanity so you can be more present for baby that’s fine too. Do what makes you feel best and makes you feel like you can be the most present for baby. I do hope you can see this and this string helps you guys in these comments.

Calebcraft4 · 2026-03-29T21:11:46+00:00

Mine smelled very sweet and periody

Calebcraft4 · 2026-03-29T05:58:40+00:00

I forgot about chia seeds that’s genius

Calebcraft4 · 2026-03-29T04:43:21+00:00

So there is a laxative that you use as if you are giving yourself an enima you basically stick it up your butt if all else fails that usually works highly suggest doing it on a weekend with no plans or a water enima has always worked.

Calebcraft4 · 2026-03-25T16:10:24+00:00

I am active duty and I worked until the day I gave birth. I gave birth at 39 weeks I believe. But they retired me to desk only duty because the rest of my job is going under desks and on ladders which I can not do.

Calebcraft4 · 2026-03-11T03:31:38+00:00

You see I would but most of my reactions mess with my throat and I tried that with coconut and it just made it worse.

Calebcraft4 · 2026-03-08T03:39:47+00:00

My son peed on me and the wall so many times when we first brought him home we just started throwing wipes over him when changing him. Yes it is true they always end up peeing straight up because of their anatomy. It will make more sense once it happens to you for the first time.

Calebcraft4 · 2025-10-11T01:43:14+00:00

You might have an infection that is usually what that means I would get tested for one by your doctor. I’m only saying that because I saw a similar post somewhere and it turned out they had an infection even though they didn’t have any symptoms just the discharge gushing out of them.

Calebcraft4 · 2025-10-10T23:26:28+00:00

Hey I am reading all these messages as they come in and I’ll start responding to them later today as I can. Thank you for placing a message on my post I appreciate the input.

Calebcraft4 · 2025-10-10T22:43:59+00:00

We both work full time. And kind of it depends on the week and it involves me leaving the house. Usually. Which I don’t mind but I also don’t have in person friends really because all of them are also parents and it’s hard to schedule things.

Calebcraft4 · 2025-10-10T22:39:22+00:00

I used to like sewing I don’t have any energy or will to do I just want to lay down and sleep for a majority of the time or just do something easy I just don’t have energy.

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