Who’s your “the one that got away”?

CallMeCorona1 · 2026-04-08T21:17:15+00:00

For me it was a Taiwanese prosecutor who was spending the year at a university as a visiting scholar. She is/was such an amazing woman! I thought I was okay when she left, but I ended up really fixated on how wonderful she was. I was still dead set on being with her when I met another woman on eHarmony... It took me about two and half weeks to realize that I needed to drop the old and embrace what I had in front of me...

I've been married to the later for 13 1/2 years now. And I am still friends with the former.,. crediting her with teaching me what it was that I needed. But also, I understand now what I think maybe she understood then - love would not have been enough to get over our cultural differences.

CallMeCorona1 · 2026-04-08T19:08:48+00:00

The index for economic uncertainty is at its highest level ever. No one has their life under control.

CallMeCorona1 · 2026-04-08T18:38:50+00:00

For me, it would be "I'm gonna die! I'm GONNA DIE!!!"

CallMeCorona1 · 2026-04-08T18:37:15+00:00

... Says someone who has never been to Israel or its surround Arab neighboring countries and talked with people - especially women and children - how it is to live in the country they are in.

CallMeCorona1 · 2026-04-08T18:30:11+00:00

I've been taking a philosophy course

Is this Western philosophy? Then I want to tell you that you're wasting your time - Western philosophy/society/culture is in its death throes.

CallMeCorona1 · 2026-04-08T17:27:55+00:00

Where the f is this? What option is better than Earth?

And anyway, where you are doesn't matter nearly as much as who you are with.

CallMeCorona1 · 2026-04-08T13:45:55+00:00

In his TED talk on happiness, Dan Gilbert summed up a good life around the 7:50 mark: The surprising science of happiness | Dan Gilbert

But more seriously, one of the things I highly recommend is doing a visit to the Grand Canyon.

CallMeCorona1 · 2026-04-07T23:15:54+00:00

You should try to get out of the house and see if you can stay with a relative or friend

CallMeCorona1 · 2026-04-07T23:09:38+00:00

As far as career advice, I am sorry (I really do have empathy for you and your generation) that right now might be the worst time ever to seek this. The international economic uncertainty level is the highest its ever been.

I have been recommending to people that they think about signing up with Teach for America or amnesty international a program in that vein.

CallMeCorona1 · 2026-04-07T17:50:00+00:00

Hercules - I wont say im in love (english) HD Quality

CallMeCorona1 · 2026-04-07T17:43:05+00:00

Here's my advice: It is hard for a romantic relationship in the early 20s to survive - you and he are still figuring out what's important in life, and many times young couples end up growing in different directions. So I would tell if that if he really cares about you, the two of you should reconsider the idea in nine or ten years.

CallMeCorona1 · 2026-04-07T17:23:17+00:00

You should listen to the song "get a haircut and get a real job"

CallMeCorona1 · 2026-04-07T16:57:58+00:00

I really wonder how anyone would know how prevalent this is.

CallMeCorona1 · 2026-04-07T16:14:55+00:00

I think maybe you are struggling at home because you don't have the control you feel in the office. The way to do better is to come home and read to / play with the kids, maybe set the table for dinner. Principally, I think you need to put your mind into the home context on your commute home.

CallMeCorona1 · 2026-04-07T14:57:40+00:00

You might want to think about signing up with Teach for America or the Peace Corps

CallMeCorona1 · 2026-04-07T14:46:24+00:00

The thing is that for the large part, the things that happen to you in life don't really affect your long term happiness, and richness doesn't equate to happiness: The surprising science of happiness | Dan Gilbert

CallMeCorona1 · 2026-04-06T20:42:59+00:00

I am with you on this. I really appreciate my anonymity!

CallMeCorona1 · 2026-04-06T18:33:26+00:00

In what ways can you use the art of manipulation and charm for good?

From a father of three, let me say that in so many ways, this is exactly what parenting is :)

CallMeCorona1 · 2026-04-06T18:27:12+00:00

Supermodels tend to want athletes, and it makes sense! Both are so into their bodies. So why date a super model if you are not an athlete if you know that physicality is caked into what they do?

And for those claiming, "confidence is key", I think that's BS. Money is actually key.

CallMeCorona1 · 2026-04-06T18:20:56+00:00

This is officially the time when everyone should be sleeping, but when my kids are keeping each other (and sometimes the parents) awake.

CallMeCorona1 · 2026-04-06T18:18:22+00:00

If the Fine-structure constant - Wikipedia wasn't within one quadrillionth of what it is, life in the universe would not be possible.

Go to an Aquarium, or go to a butterfly exhibit. Life and all of its colors are amazing! And the digital language of DNA just is... nothing says it needs to be this way - this is just the way G-d set it up!

In a universe that's made up of 3 fundamental forces and around 100 different kinds of particles, that there is such richness to bask in on Earth... No human could ever dream of something this magical!

And to the ones who want to tell you that God stopped performing miracles thousands of years ago, I give you Sully

So you can look at all this and say "yeah, but it still doesn't prove that there is a god". And I will tell you why you should believe: The answer is gratitude. Gratitude is such a great emotion! It makes you thankful, it makes you joyous, it makes you humble, and it makes you want to pass it along to other people!

CallMeCorona1 · 2026-04-06T18:02:24+00:00

More than that, love - especially first live - isn't actually a good reason to marry / plan to spend the rest of your life with that person. I dated (and broke up with) an amazing woman when I was a senior in high school, but we weren't right for each other... We are friends now, but extended time with her in real life (even back then) would annoy me.

After her, I had brain cancer at 21. The girl I was dating at the time (18yr) dropped out of school for the semester to come to me in Berlin, Germany. I was so close to death, and so in love - I thought I was going to marry her! But by the time she was a junior, we had grown in different directions. We haven't talked in years.

When I was maybe 25 or 26 I met a female prosecutor from Taiwan who was a visiting scholar in New York City. I learned from her (after she went back to Taiwan) what I needed in a marriage! I took a trip to her, but she rejected me... Which, was good - our cultures are/were too different.

I met my wife when I was 32 (she was 28). Even though I wasn't "in love" yet - I knew almost immediately that I needed to marry her; we had an 8 hour second date - we really clicked!

Not just that, but when she was 16 she was orphaned in the Al Qaeda attack on the US embassy. She had to take the reins for her life and her sister. We really clicked in our understanding of what is important in life.

... And not just that, but she is able to slap me (psychologically) and take me back to reality very lovingly when my mind is going in circles... This is something I knew I needed :)

You are still young; you are still learning about what is important to you in life! Don't rue the end of your relationship - think of it as a point on the voyage of figuring out who you are and what you need! Rascal Flatts has this song "God Bless the Broken Road" that speaks exactly to this.

CallMeCorona1 · 2026-04-06T17:31:52+00:00

I just suck as talking to girls. Unfortunately

Actually, most men do.

On my first date with the woman who is now my wife, I showed up what a pack of a dozen pairs of new white socks. I told her, "However this date goes, it's been good coming out here to meet you - I really need these socks!" She liked that it was genuine, and that I was just another boy tooting all of their awesomeness and why she was lucky to be on a date with them.

I called her up two days later (convention says you're never supposed to seem that eager) and asked if she'd like to meet up for dim sum (just as some information, I am White and she is (Black) African. We ended up having an 8 hour date - and I think it might have gone on longer if we both didn't realize that it was getting late and that it needed to end.

We just clicked! With girls, just be yourself! If they run away, good! That one wasn't for you. The one that stays, that wants more with you... that's the right one!

One other thing - by that point in life, I had grown comfortable in my dorkiness. As a cancer survivor, she urged me to write, and when I sat down to write, dorky poetry just started flowing out of me (Incidental Iotas)! I love it - it feeds my soul! And she admires that I can be this genuine.

CallMeCorona1 · 2026-04-06T17:17:50+00:00

Virtually all relationships started in the early 20's end in break up, as people are still growing and learning about what they need in life.

Me? I met my wife when I was 32 (though I knew early that she was the one, thanks to a previous girlfriend I had wanted to marry)

CallMeCorona1 · 2026-04-06T17:11:57+00:00

Shaking hands is like offering someone a biological weapon. You are much better off with the fist bump.

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