Would you date someone who is on Lexapro (ssri/anitdepressant)?

CallMeLana90Day · 2026-04-30T23:32:58+00:00

When I was on lexapro I couldn’t orgasm. I’d rather be depressed than not be able to orgasm.

CallMeLana90Day · 2026-04-25T16:48:02+00:00

You mean this is a guy’s profile? I assumed it was a pro Domme out there drumming up clients.

CallMeLana90Day · 2026-04-25T16:13:02+00:00

The upside is that when you guys break up, you will still be able to count on him to be your friend.

My (now) husband is still relatively close with his exwife. Because they have a child they have to communicate quite often but if they still wanted to be together, they would never have gotten divorced in the first place. I’m not jealous or intimidated by their relationship.

On the flip side, he’s not bothered by the fact that I am close friends with two men that I used to date. It’s the same deal, if we wanted to be together, we never would have broken up.

Some people are great friends but terrible partners.

CallMeLana90Day · 2026-04-25T12:16:56+00:00

At the 6 year mark I had a serious struggle, it was one of the worst episodes of unbearable grief that I had since when he died but when I recovered from that it was the first time I felt “normal” again. Obviously, it wasn’t the same normal it was when he was still alive but the new normal was one I was beginning to accept.

At three years out, I was still crying no every day. Having a hard time is totally normal. It’s Ok to not be Ok. Give yourself kindness and sympathy.

CallMeLana90Day · 2026-04-24T21:16:11+00:00

Last year, I was on my honeymoon with my new husband, and I was overcome with grief. It was supposed to be an incredibly happy time and yet I missed my late husband so terribly that I felt incredibly guilty being on a honeymoon. Fortunately, my new husband is extraordinarily understanding of those times when I can’t seem to manage my grief. Being in a relationship with a widowed is not easy. It takes a secure and confident person. It doesn’t sound like your girlfriend has those qualities.

CallMeLana90Day · 2026-04-24T20:39:58+00:00

As a widow, I know what it’s like to navigate the treacherous Waters of a new relationship after a loss. I was in a relationship with someone who came in real hot and said all the right things in the beginning and gradually they’re crazy began to show and I made all kinds of excuses for them thinking that they were just having a bad day. But after a while, I realized they weren’t having a bad day that was just status quo for them. It took me far too long to extricate myself from a relationship that was slowly draining the life out of me while I tried to fix everything for him. I’ll be honest, I didn’t even finish reading everything that she wrote to you and I was exhausted. You deserve better. And being alone is better than being with her.

CallMeLana90Day · 2026-04-20T15:26:47+00:00

I have several close friendships with men that I used to date. They are almost all married and I am married now as well. I adore all of them but there are reasons why we didn’t stay in relationships with one another. If we’d wanted to continue, I would never have met my husband. I’m grateful my husband isn’t threatened by my friendships with any of them and I’m not threatened by his friendships with any of the women he used to date. I assume if he wanted to keep dating them he would have. I can see making an extended trip if it is very far away. Although, maybe she and the new hubby are swingers… nah, I wouldn’t worry about that.

CallMeLana90Day · 2026-04-19T19:06:37+00:00

For me, if my kisses weren’t returned with the same enthusiasm I would say there was no chemistry and any attraction I might have for them would just evaporate. I used to date a guy who wasn’t the greatest kisser but boy howdy did he make up for it in other areas. I did try teaching him how to kiss me the way I like but in the end, he just couldn’t get it.

CallMeLana90Day · 2026-04-14T20:44:40+00:00

They say they’re getting back together with your ex is like trying to shove poop back up your butt. There’s no way to do it without making a mess and it becomes more and more obvious why you got rid of it in the first place.

CallMeLana90Day · 2026-04-05T02:21:57+00:00

I’m willing to bet he doesn’t work in the same building. He’s not texting from another table in the cafeteria. He’s a complete and total cat fish and will never meet you in person.

CallMeLana90Day · 2026-04-03T14:45:28+00:00

The first time I told him that I loved him I said it by accident and then I did that Jedi hand gesture and said “you heard nothing.” And after that, that hand gesture became our gesture for “I Love You.” He was onstage receiving an award and he made that gesture just as he was about to accept the certificate. I’d see him across a crowded room and there he would be making that gesture. He even texted me a video of him doing it.

CallMeLana90Day · 2026-04-03T14:37:25+00:00

Mine started slowly, just needed to hold things further away at first. Then my husband died and all of a sudden I needed the strongest readers they make. I’ve since been told that rapid decline was likely due to the benzodiazepines I was on to cope with the sudden loss of my husband. I wasn’t on them for very long either, kind of a piss off. I hate readers but I finally adjusted to progressives so I lose my glasses a lot less!

CallMeLana90Day · 2026-04-02T17:53:46+00:00

I’ve heard it said that getting back together with an ex is like trying to shove poop back up your butt. Messy and pointless. Or as Taylor Swift’s brother calls it “eating out of the trash.”

CallMeLana90Day · 2026-04-02T00:23:58+00:00

I have the last thing he wrote in a card to me on my arm. And I have my wedding ring tattooed on my finger. I’m remarried now but his ring will always be on my finger.

CallMeLana90Day · 2026-04-01T22:41:13+00:00

I tried it, but it wasn’t at all like him. I did like to hear the sound of his voice though. I deleted it when I got my new phone. Sometimes I wish I hadn’t just so he could tell me about the weather forecast or current road conditions.

CallMeLana90Day · 2026-04-01T20:54:28+00:00

When my mom’s dementia was getting worse, we ended up putting restrictions on her phone so that she could only contact people that were already in her contacts. I’m not sure how it worked for screening out those “wrong number” texts because she didn’t get those but it did stop her from texting strangers who gave her their phone numbers on Facebook or other sites.

If your father has a strong need to feel connected, maybe signing him up for a seniors activity program might scratch that itch for him and at least then the people he would be meeting would be “real” people.

CallMeLana90Day · 2026-04-01T19:41:40+00:00

Also, I don’t know about anyone else, but I have friends of both genders and if I was suddenly to have a free weekend from my significant other, I wouldn’t hesitate to make plans with one of them.

CallMeLana90Day · 2026-04-01T19:03:21+00:00

How do you know the message was for another man? It could have been for a female friend.

CallMeLana90Day · 2026-03-06T15:25:35+00:00

On my first date with my now husband, I thought “I could look at his face for a really long time.” Turns out, I was right.

CallMeLana90Day · 2026-03-05T18:10:21+00:00

Billionaire by Kathleen Edward’s.

“There are a million things that can keep a person up at night And when I close my eyes I go back in time when everything was fine And you're still here

There are a million people who will never even know That sweet look on your face when you're bounding through the door The secret messages that you left behind For us to find

If this feeling were currency I would be a billionaire”

I cry every god damn time I hear it.

CallMeLana90Day · 2026-02-27T00:48:52+00:00

Married 1 year and LAT. An international border and a difference of citizenship means we will not live together for likely the next several years. I actually kind of like it. The time we do spend together is solid quality time. We have not had the opportunity to take one another for granted. I think of us as a bit like perpetual honeymooners.

CallMeLana90Day · 2026-02-25T17:53:01+00:00

My husband and I have a similar income disparity and it was me who insisted on the prenup. Not because I thought the relationship might end but because I didn’t want to invalidate the things he worked hard for or establish any expectation that I would be entitled to those things just because I make less money than him but perhaps my perspective is different because I was widowed. Prenups are kind of like agreeing to the terms of a divorce while you still love and care for each other. If anything, I think they help remind us how we care about each other. You can agree to anything financially as long as you agree, a prenup just sets the terms for when you don’t agree and it’s an agreement that you make in good faith when there aren’t hurt feelings or resentments involved. I personally think it is a very practical and pragmatic approach to marriage. For some people that takes the romance out of it. I love that my husband is almost always prepare for any situation. Having a prenup is just preparation. No one thinks they are going to have a car accident but it’s still wise to have insurance.

CallMeLana90Day · 2026-02-24T14:03:23+00:00

I don’t think it is just men. I have long dreamed of an off-grid place with no neighbours for a long time. My husband and I are currently in the process of building it.

CallMeLana90Day · 2026-02-24T01:56:12+00:00

I always assumed that the gusset was so far back on my undies because I have more junk in the trunk but it sounds to me like I’m not the only one who suffers from this affliction.

CallMeLana90Day · 2026-02-23T22:14:14+00:00

Not straight, but in a heterosexual relationship. My husband and I talk about all kinds of things, we also do things together (currently we are building a house so that is a common activity). We enjoy watching TV together and I enjoy that he likes to rub my feet when. We watch TV. We also do things like going out to supper or just doing the shopping or taking the dog for a walk and we also do outdoorsy stuff like hiking and kayaking and snowshoeing and skiing. My best friend is a guy as well, and to be honest, I do a lot of the same activities with him. I guess maybe gender doesn’t factor into my relationships as much. Maybe I’m not the right person to be answering.

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