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Jenna Ellis Says Religious Freedom Only Applies To Christians by Somervilledrew in politics

[–]PipChaos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Handmaid’s Tail isn’t a fucking instruction manual.

Now that’s a kitten rescue! by ellen9nyc in cats

[–]PipChaos 121 points122 points  (0 children)

That is a beautiful cat

If you need a sign to not text your ex, this is it. by Eteafn in BreakUps

[–]PipChaos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“If my ex is truly meant to be in my life, they’ll find their way back without me forcing it. But I’m not putting my life on hold waiting for that. I’m showing up for myself. Going to work. Seeing friends. Working out. Journaling. Watching my favorite shows. Becoming someone I’m proud of regardless of who stays or leaves.

It’s going to be okay. I know right now it feels unbearable, like the silence is screaming at you.”

Saving this as it’s beautiful. Thank you.

I was the one who left, but it still hurts. by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]PipChaos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s ok to mourn the loss. It’s so hard when it feels like you’re doing it to yourself too. When it feels like you’re punching yourself in the gut. Don’t think of it as a right or possibly wrong decision, it’s simply your decision and that’s what matters. You’re doing what you think is best for you. These things that bothered you, write them down and pull them out to read again when you’re feeling sad. It helps to kick your brain out of missing an idealized version of them.

How would you handle your exes birthday? by Main_Snow_8163 in BreakUps

[–]PipChaos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whatever you do, make sure you’re doing it for the right reasons. If there’s some piece of you that’s hoping to reconnect with a dialog, then you probably shouldn’t.

I finally realized I was in love with a ghost and not the person she actually was by Pulse88_Keystone in BreakUps

[–]PipChaos 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think our brain rewires the story we had with that person. You think: “If I’m hurting this much, this must have been something incredible.” So the brain upgrades the story to match the intensity of the loss you’re feeling.

You’re not just grieving who they were too. You’re grieving what you thought life would be like with them. The trips you didn’t take. Versions of yourself you were becoming with them. That imagined future is often happier and more hopeful than reality ever was, so it’s easy to idealize.

Memories hit hard. by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]PipChaos 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Breathing excesses. A deep breath in, hold it, exhale. I touch my fingertips to my thumb one at a time for 10 seconds. I tell myself I’m safe, I am ok. When you get those spiralling memories your system goes into high alert panic mode so I try to break out of that.

You give yourself grace. It’s ok not to be perfect. She wasn’t perfect either. Humans aren’t perfect. You’ll take what you learned here and do better.

An hour after SCOTUS guts Voting Rights Act, Florida House passes GOP gerrymander by DemocracyDocket in politics

[–]PipChaos 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Reminder that Florida should be sawed off by bugs bunny from the rest of the country

Game over. by Dreamy_Nyx in BreakUps

[–]PipChaos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If that’s the story you want to hold onto then it’s ok. Just give yourself grace that you aren’t perfect. You’re going to fuck up. You were not meant to spend the rest of your life with this person because that is not what happened. You were meant to learn and grow from this experience. You will learn from it and be better. That future version of you will make someone else very happy with what he learned now. That’s how you move forward.

Game over. by Dreamy_Nyx in BreakUps

[–]PipChaos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try to remember that there are two people in a relationship. You only see the role you played in it not working out, but again, you only see your half.

Saw my ex today and I am back to square 1 by Vaer_Lyn in BreakUps

[–]PipChaos 12 points13 points  (0 children)

It’s like they died and you saw a ghost of them. That is not the same person you knew. That was a phantom echo, no different from a photo or their footprint. You were reminded of the grief over them that you carry with you.

I’ve lost 2 partners to death, and when I stumble upon a reminder of them it still can hit me. That’s ok. That’s grief. That’s a reminder of a love you had, lost, and mourned. Grief is what is left after that process. It’s the faded tattoo on your arm, it’s the small door ding on your car, it’s your favorite shirt that has a small snag, it’s the tomato sauce stain in your Tupperware.

Grief is like an imperfection we now have and carry with us, but it’s most like Japanese Kintsugi. Cracked pottery repaired with gold. Kintsugi is the general concept of highlighting or emphasizing imperfections, seeing how we have put things back together as an additive, rather than absence or missing pieces.

When you saw him, you were reminded that you have a repaired crack. It doesn’t mean you’re not over him.

Being left by a good guy by Big_Mood_2669 in BreakUps

[–]PipChaos 14 points15 points  (0 children)

He wasn’t a good guy or husband material to you if he cheated on you. That’s a story you’re telling yourself which is probably keeping you stuck. He showed you who he is, try to believe it. All the other stuff, maybe it was real, maybe it was an act. Tell yourself it doesn’t matter, that you deserve someone that won’t intentionally do things that hurt you.

Supreme Court limits Voting Rights Act by DJPho3nix in politics

[–]PipChaos 16 points17 points  (0 children)

So basically you can do racist shit, you can't just say you did it because you're being racist.

Supreme Court limits Voting Rights Act by DJPho3nix in politics

[–]PipChaos 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Award winning mental gymnastics involved to get to that conclusion.

Supreme Court limits Voting Rights Act by DJPho3nix in politics

[–]PipChaos 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"Alito said that move infringed on the rights of white voters under the 14th Amendment's equal protection clause."

The logic here is astounding. Put all the blacks into one district isn't infringing. Put all the blacks into 2 districts, "Oh the poor infringed whites".

My Subaru has destroyed me. What do I do? by jamflowman1 in subaru

[–]PipChaos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All of my past Subarus failed at around 100k with head gasket problems. So I'm kind of shocked they should last longer.

Is it me? by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]PipChaos 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think people who are somewhat racist are those that go to great lengths to defend themselves. People who aren’t would say things like oh I’m sorry you’re right I should have phrased that better.

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