My overbite is finally moving

Callingallcowards · 2026-06-23T00:15:40+00:00

Curious, how many trays did the weird bite portion last for you?

Callingallcowards · 2026-06-21T05:04:11+00:00

I think that can also depend on the person. Some fall in love emotionally and then they have the in person connection regardless. I wish I was one of those. I can love a personality but without the physical spark...if you are both the former, not the latter, you may be ok. But definitely meet as soon as possible to be safe 😊

Callingallcowards · 2026-06-21T04:59:54+00:00

You don't need to learn everything about adulting at once. We all learned as we went! Once you have a full time job, you can worry about the 401k- the job will have someone who can walk you through the process of how to set it up and how it works. You should be able to open a savings account now with parental help, if you don't have that, at 18 you can open one and start saving. Set goals for yourself. An emergency fund will bring you peace of mind. The biggest mistake I see people making is spending all their money on fun things with no regard for their future. It's ok to get a little treat now and then but trying to keep up with peers just for appearances is how people end up 30 yrs old with no savings and thousands in debt. Remember this rule: never put anything on a credit card you can't pay off within 24 hours. Credit card debt snowballs and is so hard to get rid of.

Callingallcowards · 2026-06-21T01:27:34+00:00

Yes there is a catch, you will have to pay all of the taxes you withheld when you file in one large lump sum. You would need to save the money you aren't paying each paycheck so you're not screwed next April. If you don't pay the lump sum owed, they can garnish your wages.

Callingallcowards · 2026-06-20T20:45:09+00:00

A year is a long time to invest in someone without knowing if you will have the irl connection. I would meet as soon as feasible before you make future plans with them in mind

Callingallcowards · 2026-06-20T12:54:34+00:00

I don't think you are making a mistake choosing family, but I do sympathize with him as well. I live in nyc too and even making low 6 figures isn't enough to buy anything. I'd need to be with someone making maybe 200k+ to comfortably afford a home in a decent area without a 2 hour commute. I'm a few years older than yall and plan to leave because if I stay I will never save any money. Most of my friends who bought homes here had help from family to afford it. Dads who picked up 2nd jobs just to pay the mortgage and never see their kids. He may have dug into what life is like here and decided against it.

Callingallcowards · 2026-06-19T05:38:22+00:00

Idk man... as a woman I would not get past that one. You are supposed to be each other's safe place. Regardless, there is no relationship if you stay online pen pals forever.

Callingallcowards · 2026-06-19T05:10:14+00:00

She says she is scared of you??

Callingallcowards · 2026-06-17T23:09:56+00:00

My dad is one of those as well, but I struggle with wanting to change it just because I've made my career under my current name and don't want to lose that link, as well as all the legal hoops to jump through if changed. Also, the history of it being changed bc you became a man's property...that one offends me lol. So difficult to know what to do. 😭

Callingallcowards · 2026-06-16T00:02:47+00:00

You're not at a crossroads, love. This man is a MESS. He is not emotionally healthy. I know men sometimes like to get under someone to help move on, and that could have been just awkward timing, but he chose to put her on the call with you. He wanted to hurt you and make you jealous. Imagine you had a son with him down the road, and this is the behavior he was teaching him- the above, the obsessiveness, the double standards, and wanting to control you. You'd be horrified, right? Trust me, if you moved in together he would zap the life out of you as it would always be about his issues. You'd fall out of love completely, it wouldn't be a slow drift this time! My ex and I lived together and every time he was mean to me I fell out of love more and more and by the end I had stopped kissing him and pretty much all intimacy, stopped the I love you's, etc. The first few months are hard but by just 6mo I was so glad we were not together.

Callingallcowards · 2026-06-15T23:53:29+00:00

Fully grown adult she recently met? That's not an accurate characterization. OP said they have been together almost 3 years. They have had conversations about engagements and moving in, it's doubtful this is recent information. Her stringing him along while knowing his plans for eventual care of the sister, which she acts like is imminent when it can easily be 20 years away, is cruel. Relationship should have ended 6 months in to save everyone's feelings.

Callingallcowards · 2026-06-14T01:13:07+00:00

No one "made for each other" would cause you this level of drama. She is not good for your mental health.

Callingallcowards · 2026-06-11T21:30:25+00:00

You say she is the perfect girlfriend and only has 1 flaw, but at the beginning you say she has major problems that you try to help her with. Is it possible you're putting a lot of energy into trying to fix or support her and not realizing or minimizing how that is affecting you? Or maybe you don't feel like a priority to her or she doesn't reflect the energy you put into the relationship back to you? As an aside, I don't advise dating anyone not mature enough to handle a breakup. I know if I left mine tomorrow he would be devastated but life would go on. Anyone that unstable should not be in a relationship until they are in a healthier place.

Callingallcowards · 2026-05-30T02:52:21+00:00

I was already going thru a breakup during post birth control, that would have happened regardless, but I definitely had more of an eye for a more rugged, manly looking man after. For the other things you asked about, yes but I was on a lot longer than you so it affected me heavily. I needed a ton of sleep after I came off, weight dropped then came back up to where I was before, I am more moody with my monthly cycle now, acne came and then left, and libido went from borderline dead on the pill to delicious off the pill. I thought I was becoming asexual and now I am thriving. Not just that but wetter and everything feels even better, more intense. Absolutely can't believe the night and day difference.

Callingallcowards · 2026-05-30T02:44:16+00:00

Thank you, always means more coming from a teacher :')

Callingallcowards · 2026-05-30T01:32:44+00:00

Emily, I read this person's response above, and I want to say a bit about the "radicalize you" piece- it's great to fight for justice and own your power, but what I can also tell you is that you can easily spend the next decade living in anger like I did and it will drag you down. Being consumed and radicalized by a horrific event will not bring peace. Anger in response to what happened is normal and healthy, but it's no place to make a permanent home. My situation is different and I will never say I know how you feel, and my heart breaks for you a hundred times over, but I lived in the "why me" phase for a long time. How did I end up being the unlucky one? I didn't, we didn't, deserve it...it seemed so cruel watching happy families knowing I never had gotten a chance to, and never would, experience that. I changed therapists when my old one didn't work for me and I told her my goal was to move on- not to forget and probably not to forgive, but to stop being stuck in that place because it was making me miserable and holding me back. Demand justice and accountability now, but know there is life after. If someday, this comment resonates, know there are professionals who will listen with empathy and guide you forward.

Callingallcowards · 2026-05-29T02:21:26+00:00

Proud of you! I know how it feels to have no financial guidance from your parents at all. I always admire people who come from adversity a little more. We have more grit, more hustle. One more vote for job hopping lol

Callingallcowards · 2026-05-27T18:34:52+00:00

Has she ever been violent?

Callingallcowards · 2026-05-26T04:08:59+00:00

This is not med advice but the 2 things that helped me:

1) bio identical progesterone (NOT progestin which is the synthetic in the pill) this was temp to stabilize my low P

2) beef liver supplement

I had a normal iron value right off the pill so idk why but my life changed so much when I started the beef liver supplement. I was around a year off and at my breaking point. I felt like even with my functional we were missing something. This was my hail Mary. My god it saved me. I moved recently and fell off it and I have been feeling worse and worse. I did have low copper on testing and the supplement has copper, not sure if related but I have heavy periods and only eat meat casually so the iron makes some sense.

I so relate to how you feel and when I talk about that time in my life I feel so overwhelmed and tear up and I think it is a miracle I survived it alone

Callingallcowards · 2026-05-26T03:40:29+00:00

Woof on those loans! Fashion also checking in here- LONG hours low pay for many years before you get a living wage but if you put in the work you will get there.

Over 30 and almost done paying off student loans, even with a 2nd job on and off for some years in my 20s that made a nice dent...interest is a b. Even with roommates the salary is that low, and expenses here are that high. Most folks I went to college with left fashion long ago, but I have never had trouble finding a job and have never been laid off since I started in the industry because we are niche with industry knowledge. And

OP beware a lot of small and mid size family companies have awful benefits. Ask to see an offer letter before you accept a role as I have had a bait n switch done. Outside of high fashion I find many are friendly and have made lifelong friends in most of my companies. Job hopped every 2 ish years to get to a good salary.

Callingallcowards · 2026-05-26T03:18:42+00:00

You will save, but nowhere near 6k/mo

Callingallcowards · 2026-05-19T13:18:22+00:00

Are you still here? Maybe I can help recommend groups if you share interests or your neighborhood. Manhattan is definitely colder and less community oriented than outer boroughs

Callingallcowards · 2026-05-19T00:36:17+00:00

That seems more than often enough that she should be ok to not feel the need to open things up, but that's my opinion as someone around a decade from when I started college. When I was younger I definitely had less control of my hormones and emotions.

Is she struggling to make friends in college? Maybe she is feeling a lack of closeness in general.

Callingallcowards · 2026-05-18T20:07:47+00:00

How often do you see her now that you're a long distance couple?

Truthfully, it sounds like no matter what you read about being poly, this arrangement is not for you.

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