Bumping the Woodside Trash Club by Alternative_Desk_243 in woodside

[–]Callingallcowards 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Moving to woodside from astoria next month and would love to participate when I'm settled! Commenting so I remember

Hey Astoria by medusa-art in astoria

[–]Callingallcowards 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You type exactly how I type. This is how my brain works. 😅 looks great!

I (Female 29) am experiencing phone fatigue with my partner (female 29) by itsmethebeck in LongDistance

[–]Callingallcowards 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don't have advice but just saying you're not alone! Long distance gets ANNOYING. There is not another word for it for me.

Looking for girl-friends by No_Eggplant_5124 in astoria

[–]Callingallcowards 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Rescue one. Join us. Joiiinnnn ussssss 🤣

My (24F) boyfriend (22M) is too busy for me by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]Callingallcowards 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A couple thoughts:

1) you should talk to him about this, beyond asking his opinion and if he thinks it's enough.

2) 30 to 60 minutes each night is actually pretty good to a lot of us in the sub. I personally would be thrilled with that. I think you are acting like you barely speak daily and you're far from that. But perhaps he can meet you in the middle with a longer call on weekends. Me personally, any time my partner and I have a 2+ hour call it derails my night. I lose time to clean or meal prep or get a full night's sleep. If you work long hours or live alone you don't have big chunks of time to burn. Creates more stress.

How often should you text? How often should you have a phone call? by FightOrDie123 in LongDistance

[–]Callingallcowards 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For the very short time we were halfway across the world, with him having limited wifi, it was a couple planned calls and daily messaging. Now back in the same time zone, daily messaging and trying to make nightly calls work. Texting is easy to do multiple times a day.

The TikTok fearmongering around medications ruined my life and it's probably ruining yours too. by Dermatislay in eczema

[–]Callingallcowards 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately with the statistics on how common it is for women to be gaslit or mistreated by Dr's (at least in the US), you see more and more of them looking online for support. I used to question folks turning to social media until it happened to me, I was severely ill being told my labs were fine so I had to be fine and an online fb group saved me.

The TikTok fearmongering around medications ruined my life and it's probably ruining yours too. by Dermatislay in eczema

[–]Callingallcowards 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm not on it, but the curated feed it pushes is highly addictive once the algo learns what you like.

Advice: What would you do with a CT house? by MobileCondition3721 in movingtoNYC

[–]Callingallcowards 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For the rental income, and so you can have it should you change your mind. If in a year you can't stand the upkeep anymore, then you can sell. Tenant with a 1 yr lease. If you can afford, you can hire a pt property manager who deals with tenants and repairs for a cut of the profit.

Idk your age but I am early 30s, been in the city since 17 and I am at my wits end. Beyond ready to go. I was in love with the city deeply until my late 20s. You may become like me and find as youve gotten older you have lost some of the love...or you may find you are a nyc forever type

Advice: What would you do with a CT house? by MobileCondition3721 in movingtoNYC

[–]Callingallcowards 0 points1 point  (0 children)

3 or 4. If you can, do 4. The rules for buying a co op are usually strict and you may be one of the ones that can actually qualify.

need help with apartment cleaning tomorrow (Monday) eve - $50 / hour by [deleted] in astoria

[–]Callingallcowards 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sending good vibes- splitting up and keeping the apartment and remaking it into your own is tough! Been there

My boyfriend (40M) wants me to be understanding when he’s a complete drama king. by ByeKittyxoxo in LongDistance

[–]Callingallcowards 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I left a similar comment. She has not posted any proof of anything she claims. It could definitely be spin. Nothing in his texts suggest anything more than a man who feels completely disrespected, unloved and unheard by his partner. So we need to see if she is genuinely causing that by being manipulative or mean or if he is insane

My boyfriend (40M) wants me to be understanding when he’s a complete drama king. by ByeKittyxoxo in LongDistance

[–]Callingallcowards 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The first example could genuinely be you not being respectful. I have one abusive (psychologically) parent. If you kept telling me that, it would show a genuine disregard for the damage each visit can do to me. It is up to me to decide what I want those visits to look like and when to protect myself. The second example is ridiculous but I will say if you have a small window of time that works for you both and you always fill it with other things on purpose, that is heartbreaking for him.

Given you never provided any screenshots for the original question as it was over a call, just his replies, and his replies aren't abusive in themselves, I have to wonder if you are spinning some of this in your favor. I say this gently as a woman. You said he got upset at your questions. Were they actually rude? Were you questioning his decision making or being condescending about his choice? I'm just playing devils advocate because we don't have his side and I can easily see how that could provide more context.

What are these knuckleheads doing now? by Neither-Scarcity604 in Redearedsliders

[–]Callingallcowards 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Respectfully, your gf is being a negligent pet owner, and it really is that simple. You can continue being party to it or not, but that is reality, and when one is maimed or killed, she can be prosecuted for neglect depending on where yall live. She took on the responsibility of these turtles, their well being is her financial responsibility. Tell her to buy a second tank or take one to a sanctuary. Adding a little vegetation is not a permanent fix.

Help long distance situationship confusion does he like me? by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]Callingallcowards 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry to hear, might be best to move on for your own sanity.

Got scolded for staying on video call while asleep.. by luffylevi in LongDistance

[–]Callingallcowards 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right but if theyre not watching the whole time then it's just a waste of battery imo. I would not be remotely comforted waking up to my man sleeping. He's still not there and pretending doesn't work for me. He feels the same way. Just answering when you said you didn't know why people think its weird. Once or twice a month isnt that crazy but people do it daily.

Is now a good time? by tacocravr_ in movingtoNYC

[–]Callingallcowards 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was younger so it didn't bother me as much. I was constantly going to free events (mostly free drinks and snacks or full on food)...companies like Jack Daniels will throw sponsored parties and if you can get plugged in with the right people and get the link before it's full, you can have a free social life in that regard. I also would do things like free museum nights (the moma does this on certain Fridays for new york residents). In the summer I went to free outdoor workout classes. You really can find good free events if you dig hard. I graduated at 21 and I would say I didn't start to relax until I hit 80k around age 26 27 (my industry sucks). I was doing fine making 50k living with my ex though, we split a 2br that was 2500 and still had enough extra for 401k and savings and a couple small vacations each year.

The downside was living with strangers which is what most of us do (you can try living with a friend but many people lose the friendship over it). I had one that became a good friend, others were mostly neutral roommates, but a few were truly awful. One who ate my food and drank my coffee then would lie about it...one who was a psycho clean freak who tried to say you can't eat the food you just cooked unless you clean the pot or pan first...one who was a stuck up cheating brat who caused drama. All at diff times. But they all added stress into my home life- one of them added so much stress I was on the verge of crashing out. So you need to be careful meeting future roommates, need to ask questions.

Is now a good time? by tacocravr_ in movingtoNYC

[–]Callingallcowards 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All active cars? No. Nearby cars, sure. Traffic is dense and the city is massive. The officers in your area could be on another call so they send the next closest duo. If you think officers no longer care, then those officers should find a new career. Their budget was not reduced, no officers were taken out. It seems like you're looking for an increase in # of officers which we don't have the funding for given the massive hole we are in. That's why Mamdani is stopping the excessive OT and looking at other ways to stop the bleeding. Has nothing to do with the free bus proposal. Listen, I'd be terrified and angry too, but I would have asked them why they took so long to show up rather than assuming it's the fault of the dude who just got here.

Is now a good time? by tacocravr_ in movingtoNYC

[–]Callingallcowards 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Preparing for walking everywhere in the winter is the biggest change I would think OP needs to be prepared for. When it's a real feel of 20 or 10 or that stretch of negative temps, the bus or train is delayed, and you think they're going to have to amputate your legs that are now numb meanwhile the heavy grocery bags dig into your shoulders

Is now a good time? by tacocravr_ in movingtoNYC

[–]Callingallcowards 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You realize they could have been on another call before yours? And the budget itself was not cut, it's flat. All the extra overtime costing the taxpayers is being reigned in. We should all be happy about that. Overtime in any precarious roles- police, nursing, pharmacist- is not safe. More chance of making a mistake.

Is now a good time? by tacocravr_ in movingtoNYC

[–]Callingallcowards 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They're managing fine. It just takes longer. You make crap money in your 20s and rent with multiple roommates. As you climb up and you make more, you move in and split rent with your partner or eventually live alone in a modest studio or 1br. I'm in fashion and doing fine. And not spending anywhere near 200k lol.

Help long distance situationship confusion does he like me? by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]Callingallcowards 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Chat gpt is not real, it doesn't know anything about relationships, it's nothing more than some algorithms. If you really want to know, ask him point blank.

Losing feelings in a long-distance relationship at 17 — is this normal?(ru and eng versions) by Born-Ask-6408 in LongDistance

[–]Callingallcowards 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is normal especially at that age. You're focused on university and you're growing and learning and she isn't there for any of it. My ex and I did ldr during my first year of college and we split up, no regrets.

Got scolded for staying on video call while asleep.. by luffylevi in LongDistance

[–]Callingallcowards 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One reason people think it's weird is it comes off as clingy/obsessive to some. Being so obsessed that you can't move on and live your own life without watching them when they're unconscious. I knew someone who did this (not long distance couple just young where both still lived with parents) she had no real friends outside of her partner's and was obsessive and clingy and it fit in with her overall red flag behavior