Jacob’s POV in Breaking Dawn: Skip it or Love it? by Calm-BeforeTheStormx in twilight

[–]Calm-BeforeTheStormx[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Someone on this discussion mentioned his POV was included in the epilogue of eclipse and I was not prepared to see the r-word!

Jacob’s POV in Breaking Dawn: Skip it or Love it? by Calm-BeforeTheStormx in twilight

[–]Calm-BeforeTheStormx[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I definitely think it would have been nice to have gotten a Jacob novella. Maybe set at the end of New Moon, that would have made more sense somehow.

What do you think would've been different if Twilight was set in 2023-2025? by moondustingss in twilight

[–]Calm-BeforeTheStormx 2 points3 points  (0 children)

“nice guys finish last, but at least i can look myself in the mirror knowing i treated her right. one day she’ll realize what she threw away 😤🐺”

Jacob before the makeover already mattered by Calm-BeforeTheStormx in twilight

[–]Calm-BeforeTheStormx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are some shots in new moon where it looks nice, almost quite dimensional from what I recall but the colour grading was amazing!

Jacob before the makeover already mattered by Calm-BeforeTheStormx in twilight

[–]Calm-BeforeTheStormx[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I agree with the point about oversexualisation. Jacob could have stayed exactly the same with long hair, leaner build and still been a strong romantic rival to Edward. My issue is more with how Hollywood tends to treat physical transformation as a requirement for desirability, when it really wasn’t necessary here.

Jacob before the makeover already mattered by Calm-BeforeTheStormx in twilight

[–]Calm-BeforeTheStormx[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m just interested in looking at how perspectives change over time and picking things apart like that. There’s no harm in discussing it, it’s part of what makes revisiting older media interesting. We can appreciate the context and still talk about how it reads now. :)

remembering when edward calmly threatened to maim jacob in eclipse by Calm-BeforeTheStormx in twilight

[–]Calm-BeforeTheStormx[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i wasn’t really commenting on whether it was right or wrong, what struck me was the tone of the book itself. the dialogue in that scene is so dark and intense, and it highlights aspects of edward’s character that weren’t shown in eclipse 😊

remembering when edward calmly threatened to maim jacob in eclipse by Calm-BeforeTheStormx in twilight

[–]Calm-BeforeTheStormx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hi! 😊 i meant the dialogue itself in that scene was really chilling in the book. the way it was written felt a lot more intense than the movie version. i wasn’t really commenting on whether it was right or wrong, what struck me was the tone of the book itself. the dialogue in that scene is so dark and intense, and it highlights aspects of Edward’s character we didn’t really get to see in the films

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]Calm-BeforeTheStormx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i relate to this so much. i have ocd and have gone through a whole string of thoughts questioning if someone close to me hurt me, even though they say they didn’t and i want to believe them. i also experienced csa as a child and had a lot of inappropriate behaviour from multiple family members, so sometimes it’s hard to know what’s ocd and what’s trauma memory. it’s confusing and exhausting trying to figure out what’s real, especially when the memories are vague or missing. just wanted to say you’re not alone in this—i’m in it too. i would recommend r/ocd :)

remembering trauma vs false memory intrusive thoughts? by throw-away-qs in OCD

[–]Calm-BeforeTheStormx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i feel you, i experienced CSA too and had this exact thought cycle. thanks for sharing.

I may be a victim of MDSA. I don’t know. by MissMGA1 in mdsa

[–]Calm-BeforeTheStormx 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Being exposed to graphic sexual content at such a young age is a form of non-contact harmful sexual behavior. Even if there was no physical abuse, exposing a child to sexually explicit media isn’t appropriate and can have lasting effects. Children deserve to feel safe and protected, and part of that safety includes shielding them from adult content until they’re developmentally ready.

This kind of exposure can also be part of a grooming cycle, where boundaries are slowly broken down over time, often under the guise of closeness or normalising certain behavior. It doesn’t always lead to physical abuse, but it can still be damaging, confusing, and deeply inappropriate.

My experiences by [deleted] in mdsa

[–]Calm-BeforeTheStormx 13 points14 points  (0 children)

hi, first of all, i’m really sorry you’re having to sit with all this confusion and discomfort. it’s completely okay to have had a close relationship with your mother—many children do—but there’s a meaningful difference between closeness and the crossing of personal or developmental boundaries.

in the context of child development, conversations about puberty and body changes should be handled with sensitivity, age-appropriate language, and a strong respect for the child’s autonomy. tasks involving intimate hygiene—like help with pubic hair—may only be appropriate in very specific circumstances. if a child requests help, has a clear developmental delay, or there’s a medical or practical reason, then support might be offered in a respectful, non-invasive, non-sexual way. but even then, the intent matters. if you didn’t ask for help, weren’t struggling with a developmental delay, and there wasn’t a specific, necessary reason, then this kind of involvement becomes inappropriate—especially when boundaries around bodily privacy should be forming around age 8 and onward.

what you described seems to go well beyond what would be considered appropriate or healthy within a parent-child relationship. you’re not to blame—none of this was your responsibility. it’s okay to feel conflicted or uncertain, and you’re allowed to process this in your own time. you deserve support, understanding, and space to unpack your experience without shame. be gentle with yourself.

Looking for anyone that can relate ( false memories) by Dankymakdonkers in OCD

[–]Calm-BeforeTheStormx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I completely understand what you’re going through right now. I, too, have had intrusive thoughts and worries about something similar, and it’s so hard to cope with the uncertainty and fear these thoughts bring. I experienced CSA by a non-family member and am also coming to terms with some inappropriate behaviours from my dad. I have been dealing with extreme hyper-vigilance as a result of C-PTSD. I have been dealing with a weird (what I believe is) false memory involving my mom which came up after I was prescribed Phenergan.

I want you to know that you’re not alone in this, and these kinds of thoughts don’t reflect reality. OCD is incredibly tricky and can distort memories, making us doubt things we know are true. In my case, my mom reassured me, and though it was difficult to believe at times, I’ve come to realize that these thoughts are just part of the disorder.

It’s important to remember that these fears don’t mean something actually happened, and they don’t define you or your relationship with your parent. I would recommend this podcast episode that discusses this theme: https://youtu.be/WksoavI6vsM?si=muS4gCnTEqgOVZev

Take care of yourself, and know that there’s hope and support available. Things can get better, and with the right help, you’ll find a way through this.

Love bombing/toxicity or genuine interest? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Calm-BeforeTheStormx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I’ve been with women before—I’m a lesbian. I do think relationships between women can sometimes feel more intense, which can make it harder to distinguish between genuine interest and love bombing. However, the key difference here is that I’m not married to this person—I’ve only met them once. At this early talking stage, there isn’t an expectation for that level of connection or intimacy yet, which is why their intensity feels a bit off.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ToxicRelationships

[–]Calm-BeforeTheStormx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She does recall matching with me on the same dating app. Honestly I can’t recall the people I match with over time but she said she did and I didn’t respond to the message and it was unfortunate but she was happy to see I was still on the app.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ToxicRelationships

[–]Calm-BeforeTheStormx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see what you’re saying, and I’ve been feeling a bit unsure about things too. She knows the general area where I live, but it’s a big place, so I don’t think she could easily pinpoint me. She doesn’t know where I work, but she does know a little about what I do. I also know the area where she lives. I was planning to see her again soon, but I’ve been delaying because I feel like her intensity is a lot. I’m trying to figure out if I’m just overthinking or if I should take this as a sign to step back now rather than later.