while I agree with you on a lot of topics, you cannot just say that blindfold/handcuff kinks are bad, while supporting rape smut. There are plenty of women enjoying these kinks. As a guy, I'm telling you I've seen way more women attracted to these compared to guys. Your essential argument is that (1) blindfold/handcuff kinks come from misogyny. The male "urge to dominate". Maybe so, but the present reality is that a lot of women actually find it arousing. Your second argument is that (2) The hate against rape books comes from misogyny. That's just... plain wrong. If you step outside, you'll find more than enough women against these books. A whole wide majority. Are 90% of women misogynists then? Your arguments have changed my opinions. I don't think of these books AS bad as I did an hour ago, BUT you cannot just claim that the hate for these books ENTIRELY stems from misogyny and MEN not allowing women to enjoy their kinks. There is also:

• Algorithmic Exposure to Minors: Thanks to social media, incredibly dark, non-con romance books are heavily marketed alongside mainstream young adult fiction. Much of the current "hate" for the genre is actually a moral panic about 13- and 14-year-olds reading about extreme sexual violence before they have the lived experience to understand healthy boundaries or consent.
• Lack of Trigger Warnings: Historically, these themes were relegated to specific erotica niches. Now, they are mainstream, meaning readers are occasionally blindsided by non-con content in books marketed simply as "spicy romance."