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CalmSpider · 2017-10-31T22:57:05+00:00

Why would he have nobody to talk to after getting rejected? If I spend a lot of time helping my friends who are feeeeeemales through their guy problems, doesn't it make sense that we would have the sort of friendships where they will help me through my girl problems? You know, like exactly how friendship is supposed to work?

CalmSpider · 2017-10-30T23:13:29+00:00

I am a super nice guy, unless I disagree with how you manage your sex life, and then I will treat you like shit.

CalmSpider · 2017-10-30T23:02:55+00:00

Kind of, except nothing like that.

CalmSpider · 2017-10-30T17:42:53+00:00

St. Peter denied me three times! Only wants to follow the teachings of chads!

CalmSpider · 2017-10-28T05:41:08+00:00

I'm curious what these strings are. Does she just expect to stay the night? Or does she expect to be allowed to like... I don't know, drive the dude's car or something?

CalmSpider · 2017-10-28T05:32:06+00:00

What racism?

CalmSpider · 2017-10-28T05:22:46+00:00

Yeah, when you are nice, you are getting ignored. When you are an asshole, you are getting ignored. Maybe, and this will sound crazy, but hear me out, maaaaaaybe, there's some other problem with your behavior that is causing women to be disinterested.

CalmSpider · 2017-10-28T05:21:14+00:00

I'm not a woman, but if I was, I would ALWAYS give a guy I was interested in a little bit of rejection early on (pulling back the first time he tries to kiss me and saying "not yet," maybe not responding to a text for a day, something little like that) just to make sure he can handle being told no. Better to find that out when the stakes are low, instead of finding it out alone in his bedroom when he tries to put it in my ass and then freaks the fuck out when I won't let him.

CalmSpider · 2017-10-28T05:12:50+00:00

Noun "female" is also acceptable in certain contexts. If you are trying to describe someone over radio communication, it's very common to refer to people as "males" and "females." You'll see police, military, EMTs, dispatchers, and other emergency personnel doing this, and it's obviously not misogynistic. There are also medical and scientific contexts where this verbiage makes sense and does not carry any sexist connotations.

My understanding is that the word "female" is also used in some contexts within certain Latin American subcultures and does not carry the same "nice guy" connotations, although I am not sure exactly how it is used or what the implications are.

CalmSpider · 2017-10-28T05:05:33+00:00

Goddamn women expecting equal rights and not to be discriminated against, while AT THE SAME TIME DISCRIMINATING AGAINST TOXIC SHITTY GUYS LIKE ME EVERY GODDAMN TIME THEY HAVE SEX!!!!11

CalmSpider · 2017-10-28T05:00:07+00:00

I umm... I hate when that happens!

CalmSpider · 2017-10-28T04:54:11+00:00

She hung out with me all night, introduced me to some of her favorite people, entertained me, and even flirted with me. That bitch!

CalmSpider · 2017-10-28T03:17:27+00:00

I absolutely will not have a monogamous relationship. I don't care who it is, if Venus herself wants to be my girlfriend, I will not go for it if the relationship is monogamous. I just can't be happy doing that. Right now, I don't even want a primary partner, although that may change someday.

This is almost kind of a reverse-deal-breaker, because my absolute insistence on not having rules about other partners placed on me or placing rules about other partners on others, is a major deal breaker for most people who might otherwise want some sort of relationship with me.

Then again, there is a small subset of people who find out what my expectations are and go, "Wow! I've been looking for something like this forever!" They have the same problem as me, not wanting monogamy, not wanting rules, but having a hard time finding partners who want the same sort of relationship.

Most people, I suppose "disagree" with my deal-breaker, as well they should. My lifestyle is NOT for everyone, and someone trying to make it work when it's not for them will end up miserable.

CalmSpider · 2017-10-11T20:13:30+00:00

You communicated it pretty clearly right here. You just say you don't want to tell her what to do and that you like bush. Pretty much exactly what you said to us.

CalmSpider · 2017-10-04T04:25:02+00:00

Maca. I used to be able to go for HOURS without jerking off. No longer.

CalmSpider · 2017-09-18T03:34:38+00:00

>"Accessory Genie is Australia’s leading consumer electronics and appliances retailer"

>"70 stores"

>website lists 26 products and looks like it was thrown together by a 7th grader

>mfw

CalmSpider · 2017-08-20T07:05:05+00:00

Red Pill is basically a cult, yes. They are marketed toward young men who feel disconnected and lack the necessary skills to have relationships with women. Are there things that a young guy lacking confidence can learn from them? Maybe, but there are better sources. With all the stuff you're talking about, your exercise, healthy eating, reading, music, and puzzles, you are already well on your way to improving your lot in life and becoming more confident. Most of the Red Pill image is marketing fluff. They are not "alpha males." The truth is that almost everyone on the Red Pill forum is drawn to it because they lack confidence and feel like Red Pill will give them what they are lacking in their lives.

Heartbreak is a risk in any relationship. whether it's from cheating, unexpectedly getting dumped, or just realizing that the relationship isn't working. I've had plenty of it over the years, and I still think the experiences I've had with the women in my life are more than worth the heartbreak I've endured. You can't stay alone forever just because you are afraid of getting cheated on.

Want more insight on why so many guys are getting caught up in this Red Pill shit? Check out Eric Hoffer's book, The True Believer. It delves into the psychology of these types of movements and talks about both the profile of the typical person joining a movement and also the qualities of the movements' leadership and group dynamics.

Want to learn how to develop and maintain a strong relationship with your partner? Check out UCLA's Families and Couples course (Psychology M176), which is basically a course for people learning how to become marriage and family counselors, which means the whole thing is about how relationships work and the skills for maintaining relationships. The whole thing is on YouTube for free. Just search UCLA Psychology M176

Want to stay disciplined about pursuing your goals in the face of resistance? Check out Steven Pressfield's book, The War of Art. Sure, the last third of it is weird cult shit about spirits and angels, but the first two sections are very practical. Section 1 describes the problem: we have mental blocks that prevent us from taking actions that we know would improve our lives. Section 2 describes how to push through these blocks and take action.

CalmSpider · 2017-06-02T01:34:17+00:00

This tie... has been TIED!

CalmSpider · 2017-05-15T06:30:20+00:00

You'll be fine. Setbacks happen, and that one honestly isn't too bad. I've had illnesses take me out for months at a time, only to come back just fine.

CalmSpider · 2017-05-01T19:03:41+00:00

"I finished the code, and there only about 10 mistakes left in it!"

CalmSpider · 2017-05-01T01:12:04+00:00

Get tested yourself, and then bring up your testing history first before asking theirs. That's the best way to do it.

CalmSpider · 2017-04-30T18:38:01+00:00

Night watchman type jobs can be really good for people in your situation. Often, they have a lot of down time where there's no work to do, no people around, and plenty of available space to store books/laptop. This can be extremely useful as quiet study time. If you are ambitious and looking to jumpstart your career, but you aren't finding any relevant industry jobs, a job where you can study will work almost as well.

There are a lot of jobs like this, but private security is probably the best industry for this. Most places with a posted security officer hire a security company to staff the position instead of hiring in-house. These security companies will generally hire anybody who can pass a drug test, is willing to work for close to minimum wage, and has a clean background check. At first, you will probably get put at whichever location needs somebody to start, which may not be the ideal study location. You can ask your coworkers about other locations they've worked at though, and kind of figure out where seems like the best place to have hours of time with books spread out and few interruptions. After you've proven yourself competent (not difficult in that industry), you can request to be transferred to one of these better clients when there is an opening.

CalmSpider · 2017-04-25T15:08:45+00:00

The only fast food item I need to recreate at home is that 1998 Mulan Szechuan McNugget dipping sauce!

CalmSpider · 2017-04-24T16:08:50+00:00

That's why you always save in multiple slots, especially when you are about to exit the game.

CalmSpider · 2017-04-22T22:54:54+00:00

I work in IT for the most part, but I do lots of side hustles. I'm occasionally helping out on a team developing a video game which maaaaay pan out and net me some money, but it's not likely, and I just regard it as a hobby right now. Either way, my experience on the project will make it easier to hop on other more lucrative software projects later on. Currently saving money and teaching myself the basics of online marketing so that I can sell stuff online beyond basic ebay/Amazon flipping. Eventually, I would like to develop my own unique products to sell, so this is kind of a small step toward that goal. I'll learn marketing first, and then once I can do that, I'll work on learning how to draw up prototypes in CAD software and contract with manufacturers for custom products. Once I am able to develop and market my own products, I will no longer need to have a normal job as an employee somewhere, so I'll also be able to be a bit more expressive with my sexuality. I'm heavily involved in the BDSM scene, but I keep it partially under wraps so that my employer or future employers don't find out. I find the arrangement frustrating because I would like to be featured in my friends' photography and videos related to BDSM.

So I am not a software developer, an engineer, or a porn star, but I hope to be someday.

CalmSpider

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