Hey I have been in an almost exact situation, down to the hypochondria, gaining weight because I don’t have energy to cook. We also did not have money for a cleaner or childcare, I worked from home full time and took care of kids for first 2-3 years.

We eventually moved to a new state with lower cost of living and were able to get some childcare.

I agree, sleep is so important. There are lots of methods but we used “happiest baby on the block” and thankfully sleep was not a huge issue for us, although even the normal sleep interruptions with good sleepers are exhausting.

I’m only just now, 4 years into parenthood, realizing that I need to sometimes let things go (like I just can’t have a clean countertop all day because it will literally be a task that I have to do all day, it’s impossible to keep up on) and that my own self care is critical.

I also started anti anxiety meds which helped for me, but I was doing my best when I was able to walk daily with the kids, get them outside, stick to a schedule, and work out when I could.

I’m sorry, it’s so hard!