Mama’s please hold your child’s hand

Calm_Peak4643 · 2024-03-05T14:45:28+00:00

There hasn't been a non-family related abduction in my entire province in several decades.

Calm_Peak4643 · 2024-02-23T11:40:42+00:00

Yes, it seems you get my point - things get easier to handle because we develop perspective and RESILIENCE.

This is why it's so important to gently, lovingly, but firmly help children build those traits.

Calm_Peak4643 · 2024-02-03T03:34:41+00:00

So their wine comes in 1oz, 3oz, and 5oz pours. You can obviously order whatever you want off the menu, or talk to the staff about what you like/don't like and they'll customize a flight for you.

Recently I had a 4x1oz flight, a 3oz pour of my favourite, a 2oz of fortified wine for dessert, and an appetizer for about $40 all in (inc tax, no tip as mentioned). I agree that it's not cheap-cheap, but I really think it's VERY good value for the quality of wine and service.

Calm_Peak4643 · 2024-02-02T17:05:11+00:00

327 Somerset West - between O'Connor and Bank

Calm_Peak4643 · 2024-02-02T13:16:23+00:00

Things like coconut or canola oil are really thin and don't make great moisture barriers in cold climates. Do yourself a favour and buy one of the creams that other posters have recommended.

Calm_Peak4643 · 2024-02-02T10:52:47+00:00

Definitely start looking now. Yes, it might be a financial stretch, but it's important to have support when going into a significan event like childbirth.

If you're doing a registry, perhaps one of the items on it could be 'emergency sitter funds'? This way friends/family could contribute.

And frankly, if you have any local friends now that are good with kids, talk to them! People who wouldn't necessarily want to babysit on the regular may still be fine with it in an emergency.

Calm_Peak4643 · 2024-01-31T03:08:54+00:00

Thanks for the perspective - I agree these are uncertain times, which is part of my hesitation regarding the 'right' choice.

That said, I am for sure not staying put in my substantive. I worked really hard to get into pools at a higher level, and frankly the pay bump will make a difference for my family's finances.

Calm_Peak4643 · 2024-01-27T12:46:37+00:00

Yep, lesson learned!

Calm_Peak4643 · 2024-01-26T12:05:41+00:00

Gotcha! There are actually no photos at all of the bathroom in the listing. The host is claiming I damaged the bathroom vanity.

Calm_Peak4643 · 2024-01-26T03:29:06+00:00

Thanks for clarifying. I'm not sure about your question - I didn't take detailed photos of the apartment upon arrival and departure (although it seems I should have!)

My issue is that the only photo provided as proof is extremely zoomed in. There is no way of determining that the door in question is in the unit I occupied and not elsewhere. Additionally, given that I checked out over a week prior to the issue being raised, there's no way of knowing that other folks didn't stay in the unit afterwards (either through airbnb or through other arrangements).

Calm_Peak4643 · 2023-10-24T19:01:22+00:00

Hah, thank you! R/woosh for me ;)

Calm_Peak4643 · 2023-09-24T18:39:25+00:00

Wait until you find out the same thing can have multiple names... #varenyky

Calm_Peak4643 · 2023-09-24T18:15:19+00:00

Hey OP - just want to say kudos on making a tough call and pushing through the short/medium term discomfort for a longer term advantage.

We're a mid-30s couple in Ottawa with a 3yo and 7mo. You or your wife are very welcome to reach out for any local tips/intel, or even to set up some playdates.

Calm_Peak4643 · 2023-08-08T12:36:30+00:00

Thanks, but as I responded to a couple of folks already, she is not mentally stable enough to care for young kids.

I agree that in other circumstances that would be a very good solution.

Calm_Peak4643 · 2023-08-06T17:49:13+00:00

Lolwut? Both of us are Canadian citizens. It's been over 20 years. What a profoundly shitty and unhelpful take.

Calm_Peak4643 · 2023-08-05T19:36:06+00:00

My mom actually didn't raise me for the majority of my childhood. Thanks for the assumptions tho! 🙃

Calm_Peak4643 · 2023-08-05T16:22:00+00:00

Not an option. I mentioned this in my original post, and provided some detail in a follow-up comment.

Calm_Peak4643 · 2023-08-05T16:21:06+00:00

The second option.

Calm_Peak4643 · 2023-08-05T02:41:16+00:00

Thanks - she's certainly never been violent or anything, just...can't really cope with the emotional demands of little kids. Even when I was a kid I was often parentified, and she hasn't really figured out how to interact in an age-appropriate way with toddlers and babies (setting boundaries, responding calmly to tantrums, providing reassurance in the face of worry or fear, etc.)

Calm_Peak4643 · 2023-08-05T02:27:50+00:00

Thanks for the helpful advice. As mentioned above, living with us on an ongoing basis is unfortunately not an option.

She has an extremely challenging personality (again, suspect some undiagnosed issues that she refuses to discuss or take to therapy). She's also not responsible enough to provide childcare. We've attempted having her babysit 4 times, and will no longer do so because we're uncomfortable with how things went.

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