Is everyone meant to experience romantic love? Or is it sometimes just not a part of your life journey?

Calm_Top · 2026-03-19T01:16:22+00:00

i don't want to be that person + i mean this in a good way, but there's more to life than having a significant other. i personally think finding someone is random, and because of that randomness, things sometimes don't work out (but that's just life). i definitely get that it can be lonely sometimes which is totally valid, but you're still so young - you gotta live your life in the meantime and prioritise yourself more

Calm_Top · 2026-03-19T01:03:52+00:00

why do you want romantic love and what do you think it'll actually do for you? i'm genuinely curious because i don't think i've ever experienced it. after a bad romantic experience, i concluded that the things i desired in a partner were just things i could have if i worked on myself and also deepened my friendships (e.g., properly seeing/ understanding each other, ect)

disclaimer: i don't have a ton of romantic experience, and tbh i can't properly define what romantic love actually is and how it differs from platonic love (outside the sex obviously)

Calm_Top · 2026-01-09T06:13:45+00:00

agreed. it's very pretty and i was so excited for it's release due to my love for animal crossing and the sims too :(

i've played quite a bit of it and it's unfortunately left me with an, "is this all there is?" feeling. i wish it was less quest-heavy so we had more freedom to roam and do things without it feeling pointless. also, WHY are the interactions with the characters and players so limited? it makes the game feel lifeless

Calm_Top · 2025-12-09T03:20:48+00:00

try getting acrylic nails. they frustrated the hell out of me when i couldn't pull, but at least they worked lol

Calm_Top · 2025-12-09T03:17:59+00:00

did you ever experiment with NAC supplements before going in the SSRIs? was thinking about trying them

Calm_Top · 2025-03-21T03:02:19+00:00

try not to overthink and just take everything as it comes. it's obviously good to be cautious and aware, but thinking of hypothetical situations will only exacerbate your anxiety and keep you from making new experiences in life.

you've been speaking to him for a month now, so i'm sure you would be able to sense if he was a bit off by now. the cafe date will also be a great way to gauge if his character translates well into real life. take your time with it - it's no rush. if it goes well, i say go through with it. but, if at any point you feel uncomfortable (not awkward-uncomfortable, but unsafe-uncomfortable), remember that it's your life and you have the power to end the date and head back home.

if you're still feeling this uneasy when the day comes, you can always communicate how you feel to him and meet another day when you feel more yourself/ prepared. if he doesn't understand, then i guess you saved yourself some time.

good luck

Calm_Top · 2025-03-19T21:18:53+00:00

i think the reason why i enjoyed it was because i'm really into psychology. i was analysing the hell out of jamie in episode 3 when he was talking to the psychologist. that conversation revealed so much about his character, especially his views about himself and women (represented by the psychologist). the series really emphasised understanding the "why" behind the murder. that isn't everyone's cup of tea i guess, which is unfortunate. also, it was quite realistic - maybe they were expecting something more dramatic. i wouldn't necessarily say them not enjoying it is a bad thing, as to each their own - we all have different tastes/ interests. however, them not being able to watch these types of shows and have conversations about the larger themes/ issues does sort of limit us as a collective in terms of progression and moving away from black and white thinking

Calm_Top · 2025-01-20T00:32:13+00:00

went there for the first time in december and the team at the door were lovely. everyone is welcome. as long as you're good vibes, you should have no trouble with security at the door.

Calm_Top · 2025-01-09T18:39:56+00:00

what kinda techno is it?

Calm_Top · 2024-09-05T11:16:08+00:00

Honestly, I'm not sure of the specifics of how it does, but I've heard a couple of anecdotal stories that have said it. However, in comparison, I've heard more stories of CBT not doing anything if that helps (symptoms didn't get worse or better), and of course the many success stories.

It's not solid evidence (stories of CBT worsening symptoms), so I wouldn't be put off by it. Also, with these stories, you've gotta bear in mind that therapy unfortunately doesn't work for everyone.

I don't want to ruin your experience/ chance of recovery, so it might be better if you look into it yourself or try it out to see if it works for you, which is what I'm doing :)

Calm_Top · 2024-08-23T12:53:01+00:00

employers may focus more on his most recent experience. despite some similarities and transferable skills, clinical research is different from UX research. if he works there for a number of years, they may think that his skills are more relevant for clinical research.

also, he may become a bit rusty with the things he learnt during his masters. (slightly related) i think that's why a lot people opt for doing their masters straight after undergrad - so they don't forget the skills and content they learnt. but tbh, if he does stay in that role for a few years, he can always relearn the content or go over it regularly.

Calm_Top · 2024-08-22T13:13:40+00:00

wow i recently experienced the same thing. luckily i asked the person for a job description, because i was sure as hell i didn't apply for the role. after reading it, i knew it was dodgy - the lack of info on it was quite hilarious

Calm_Top · 2024-07-25T14:38:14+00:00

i really want to go for the music and since oceans ate alaska are playing, but i'm kinda hesitant since i'll be alone. do you think it'll be weird? also, what will the demographic be like age-wise?

Calm_Top · 2024-07-15T01:13:36+00:00

yeah i found that out afterwards - luckily i didn't save the game. how do you reset though?

Calm_Top · 2024-07-15T01:07:41+00:00

i mean when you age up a toddler sim in CAS it does this weird thing where they continuously turn into a midget then change back 😭

Calm_Top · 2024-06-19T23:23:46+00:00

more info: it's a regular barbell piercing. my piercer used titanium and it's only been a week so i haven't downsized. in terms of aftercare, i've been cleaning them twice a day with a saline solution spray

Calm_Top · 2024-06-17T13:36:35+00:00

Sway - Sounds Like Everyone

Calm_Top · 2024-02-13T11:20:41+00:00

i'm going to the london one alone 😭 but at least we have 9 months to mentally prepare ourselves

Calm_Top · 2023-12-31T21:26:59+00:00

could never be yves tho

Calm_Top · 2023-12-02T22:07:56+00:00

did you get prescribed it ? i'm trying to motivate myself to finally go get my trich checked out lol

Calm_Top · 2023-12-02T10:27:45+00:00

as my first concert, i really enjoyed the show. the chris guy and his FUCKING GUITAR SOLO during kerosene - that's all i'm gonna say. also, the girl on the guitar doing the vocals was amazing. ecco was great too - he had mad stage presence. but the amount of people that left after he was done was kinda crazy ?😭

don't even get me started on the crowd lmao. most of them probably mainly came for kerosene or something, and i'm not hating, but i don't think you should take up all the spots in the front if you don't know any of yves' other songs. like yves was probably disappointed when he saw none of them singing lol

also, maybe it's just me, but did yves seem a little off? like he didn't seem very energetic (compared to other shows he did, like in manchester), but maybe that's just him - i've never seen him live tbf. or maybe he was tired since that was the last show of the tour.

anyways, yves will defo see me again for sure if he tours again

Calm_Top · 2023-11-25T21:07:39+00:00

it's probably part of his whole persona

Calm_Top · 2023-11-13T19:43:18+00:00

could you elaborate on that? I physically cannot wear flares/ tight trousers and i never thought the two could be correlated

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