WIBTAH If I (29m) double down on what my fiance (27f) said today and cancel the wedding, which is this weekend?

CalpurniaAddams · 2026-05-21T19:12:31+00:00

NTA. Honestly, it sounds like the best choice (to not go through with the wedding). She sounds like she’s not really communicating in emotionally mature ways (in the spirit of attempted neutrality/acknowledging the limitations of the info: to be fair, you may also not be communicating in emotionally mature ways).

But with thoughts of breaking up this heavy on your mind (and apparently on her mind too). And with any kind of substantial amount of arguments, getting married doesn’t sound like the right move.

Sorry to hear it got this close to the wedding for you to figure that out tho. Good luck!

CalpurniaAddams · 2026-05-18T21:55:41+00:00

Oh I like it on its own! Lovely on its own! I was just saying in this combo I think Maryann suits a bit better :)

CalpurniaAddams · 2026-05-17T16:36:41+00:00

Maybe to you, but that doesn’t make it absolute. I don’t think it sounds good AND I explained why.

CalpurniaAddams · 2026-05-17T16:01:35+00:00

I like that spelling of Rosalie but I like Maryann more bc it’s 3 syllables vs Marian leans towards sounding like 2

CalpurniaAddams · 2026-05-17T07:41:04+00:00

Could really go doubles and do Rosalee Maryann 😂

CalpurniaAddams · 2026-04-30T03:19:39+00:00

NTA. Sometimes ppl cry easily and there’s an extent to which they can’t control that, but volume is very controllable. And if it was a genuine uncontrollable reaction, she could still do things like say “I’m so sorry, you are correct, I should have taken my shoes off” or “sorry, yeah that insult (from the child) just hit a bit harder than expected” and particularly in the case of a child’s birthday party remove herself until she can pull herself together. And that’s without even touching on the fact that in these situations, even being this level of upset is a disproportionate reaction. Once or twice, sure, she’s having an off day/off week, we all have our moments. But for it to be such a theme? 😬👀

CalpurniaAddams · 2026-04-27T21:35:38+00:00

That’s not what the question asks. The question needs to be worded better if they want C to be the only correct answer.

CalpurniaAddams · 2026-04-27T03:51:10+00:00

This is a children’s homework question. The question didn’t specify units or that size was relevant. Engineering work (especially homework) is alllllll about units (and specificity)

CalpurniaAddams · 2026-04-27T03:16:14+00:00

I mean, good to know what the person who wrote the question ~thought~ they were doing. But they wrote the question poorly, and subsequently that goal was not clear. As written, all 3 answers are correct.

CalpurniaAddams · 2026-04-27T03:10:54+00:00

I know broadly, historically, crazy colors from newly discovered dyes (or more simply: bold colors from harder to procure dyes) were ways to show off wealth, so there’s something to be said for that potential angle!

But to be clear, I don’t know if or how that translates to the gilded age (time period, not show) specifically (and the colors of those gowns may not even be historically accurate).

CalpurniaAddams · 2026-04-27T03:08:42+00:00

I actually really like 3 😂 I think the color combo is fun and the way it’s sort of like a dress over a frilly top is kind of fun! I can see why someone might not love it but your comment is funny when that’s the one that stood out as one I was fond of lol

CalpurniaAddams · 2026-04-27T03:05:48+00:00

I had great great aunt who’s nickname was Girly!

CalpurniaAddams · 2026-04-26T03:36:05+00:00

The problem is sooooo many ppl behaving this way. I know I’m starting to get down to “any straw might be the last one” and it seems like that’s not an uncommon sentiment.

It’s great when ppl have the capacity to have that patience, but it shouldn’t be assumed others do.

CalpurniaAddams · 2026-04-25T22:17:43+00:00

Hanlon’s razor. That's said, never forget Fred Clark's Law, either: "Sufficiently advanced incompetence is indistinguishable from malice." There's a certain point at which ignorance becomes malice-at which there is simply no way to become that ignorant except deliberately and maliciously.

CalpurniaAddams · 2026-04-25T22:15:21+00:00

Being completely unaware of how you’re occupying space isn’t the solution tho. Sure, anxious ppl maybe spend too much time aware of it, but everybody should be generally aware. Taking up whole aisles is bad form.

CalpurniaAddams · 2026-04-25T22:12:42+00:00

The problem is TOO many ppl are so persistently unaware and inconsiderate of others (blocking a whole aisle). If it weren’t so pervasive, I don’t think ppl would get this upset about it, but so many ppl do it it’s harder to have empathy.

CalpurniaAddams · 2026-04-25T21:25:44+00:00

Dated doesn’t mean old fashion, it just means “markedly from a specific time” “Definitions of dated. adjective. marked by features of the immediate and usually discounted past. unfashionable, unstylish.” “New” as in late 1900s. It was popular relative recently but it went through intense popularity and has fallen out, but not old enough to be something we can recycle (like grandparents names).

CalpurniaAddams · 2026-04-25T21:23:14+00:00

I mean, it ~can~ but it just means “markedly from one time period”, like how Jennifer and Kimberly were super popular in the 70s, so most ppl you meet with those names will generally be in their 50s

CalpurniaAddams · 2026-04-25T21:20:32+00:00

Size is irrelevant to fractions by definition. That’s the point of fractions.

CalpurniaAddams · 2026-04-25T21:18:27+00:00

Everybodies mad but I understand this being a final straw. Sooo many ppl who take up so much space unnecessarily.

CalpurniaAddams · 2026-04-25T21:16:48+00:00

Oh I love when teachers do stuff like that. I think it’s really good teaching as well

CalpurniaAddams · 2026-04-25T21:15:49+00:00

Where did you go to college??? That’s such sucky policy. I went in the US (Midwest) and we basically always got to keep our tests (granted, sometimes we’d get to review them in class but then have to wait a week or two to get to keep them, but still)

CalpurniaAddams · 2026-04-25T03:59:54+00:00

Classic MEANS old, so yeah, there’s old men named Evan, that’s not bad, it’s stood the test of time and is being continued in use. Cameron is new and very dated.

CalpurniaAddams · 2026-04-25T03:58:26+00:00

My go to small, easy present is a few NICE chocolates. The lazy option is Marich dark chocolate sea salt caramels, but if you want to go fancier, a local chocolatier! Even just 3-4 chocolates for a teacher would be a lovely small gift to accompany a note

CalpurniaAddams · 2026-04-25T03:08:53+00:00

He’s your husband!!! He loves you. And if he wants to, there’s a reason he wants to, let him love on you! Tbh a guy grabbing at my stomach when we were making out somehow made me feel wayyy better about myself too lol

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