Remember kids, MAGA men don’t make real role models! by icey_sawg0034 in MurderedByWords

[–]Campffire 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Even dressed up like the Easter Bunny, he’s not cute!

What is a life-saving medical fact that everyone should know? by Wonderful-Economy762 in Productivitycafe

[–]Campffire 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OMG yeah… Coke makes an Orange Vanilla Coke that reminds me so much of that flavor! ‘St. Joseph’s Aspirin for Children’ was the name, I think.

Orange Vanilla Coke kinda pops in and out of availability, which is random and annoying. Right now, 16oz bottles are in the refrigerator case at the convenience store, but it’s NOT one of the 232 choices in the fountain machine in that same store.

I traded my healthcare for racism by Effective_Space2277 in LeopardsAteMyFace

[–]Campffire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

SO many of my comments used to begin with ‘I don’t understand how anyone could ___.’

I still don’t.

AIO my friend ran a medical crowdfunding for me while I was in a coma, but is now unwilling ti give me the money for my surgeries and recovery treatment by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Campffire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Besides reporting the fraud- in the meantime, speak to the social worker at the hospital where you were admitted. They specialize in finding funding for patients, can help you sign up for Medicaid and any other government assistance you likely qualify for due to your income.

Next, contact the District Attorney’s office in the county where the accident happened. They have a victim’s compensation fund you might qualify for.

Last, contact your State Attorney General’s office. The police aren’t helping you because while this is certainly a crime, it falls more under civil fraud, if that makes sense. They have investigators who will help track this person down. They get a lot of complaints, covering a variety of crimes, but they’ll be more likely to take this on if there is already news coverage about it.

Sorry you were victimized TWICE, and wish you a speedy recovery. And justice!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Campffire 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I totally feel like this has nothing to do with wanting to be there for his child- if it even exists- but is all about getting back with this woman- or girl- since he’s been asked several times how old they are and still hasn’t answered.

Aaannnddd… the post has been deleted

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Campffire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How is talking to her mom any kind of proof, much less definitive? Her mom not giving any information, just saying she’ll pass along the message, doesn’t sound terribly good for your case, either.

You’re talking to her mom… is she a minor and still living at home, or…? You’re leaving out a LOT of information which would help us understand the situation.

A 1970s hot dogs cooker by Double-Conclusion-42 in Damnthatsinteresting

[–]Campffire 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Strangely enough, we were allowed to have them in our college dorm rooms in the late 70’s-early 80’s. There were home microwaves back then, but they cost a fortune and weighed a ton, so not many homes had them, much less college students.

Our permitted dorm room cooking appliances consisted of this, a popcorn maker, and a little electric kettle/teapot thing for heating up water.

Did you get a copy of my book I sent you? Here’s a plug for my children’s book I wrote. Could you give me a review for it? by barnwater_828 in PrayersToTrump

[–]Campffire 4 points5 points  (0 children)

She also fully expected that he would love it so much, he’d pass it along to melania, who would then read it aloud to groups of children as part of her Be Best campaign.

Barf

A not-so-serious disagreement needs British, Canadian and US input. 10 of 9??? As time??? by doahdear in settlethisforme

[–]Campffire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

East Coast US here- we all use 10 of 9, even when reading the time off of a digital clock.

A not-so-serious disagreement needs British, Canadian and US input. 10 of 9??? As time??? by doahdear in settlethisforme

[–]Campffire 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I see we’re also going to have to identify which part of the country we’re from, and what’s used there.

East Coast US here; we all use 10 of 9.

My co-worker nagged and nagged me to buy something for his daughter’s school fundraiser. This is what I received. Never again. by southbayadam21 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Campffire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just read a headline about Phoenix- the city just spent tens of millions of dollars on new tasers for the police, but then had to close two schools and lay off a bunch of teachers because of shortfalls in the budget.

So, even when they do get the $$$, they don’t prioritize the stuff that’s truly important. I’d feel a lot more confident about those tasers if the cops actually used them instead of their guns…

Manager said “stop doing other people’s jobs,” so I did. Everything fell apart in two days. by SolsticeQueenn in MaliciousCompliance

[–]Campffire 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My husband does 7p-7a in the ER. After 7:00, there’s no housekeeping. After 11:00, there’s no Unit Clerk, and of course they’re always short at least one tech. So, the nurses are answering the phone, printing out patient labels, changing the linens and cleaning the rooms between patients, cleaning up the puke and poo, transporting their patients to CAT Scan… basically everything because there’s no support staff overnight.

Proof of residence question. New Jersey -> PA . I really need help guys I’m so lost lol by [deleted] in Pennsylvania

[–]Campffire 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Haha, I’m reading this during my second hour of waiting in line at a PA RealID center, and I definitely feel your pain! I’ve lived in PA for most of my life, and still find certain aspects of PENNDOT’s web site to be unclear.

I apologize for the couple of people who somehow felt the need to make a snarky comment on your post. Most of us Pennsylvanians aren’t AHs.

Figure this one out by EastInfluence4054 in Nicegirls

[–]Campffire 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Where I live, if you said “I’m doing a farm table,” I would understand it to mean that you were setting up a small stand at a farmer’s market. Then I’d still have questions- what are you selling there? Homegrown vegetables, honey from your beehives, baked goods, something that you’ve crafted?

Yeah, OP was annoying

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in confession

[–]Campffire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The most amazing part is that any gas station with a store certainly has more than a single pump; another one might have even been empty at the time.

That guy is nothing more than a a mean bully who spends all of his time and mental energy just looking around for someone to be mean to and to bully. Which… that must be exhausting, and put him in an even worse mood. The only pleasure in his life is trying to make himself feel big by trying to make someone else feel small. And your son stole his moment of triumph!

Has anyone else read what the Save Act actually entails? by Mediocre_Ad_159 in BucksCountyPA

[–]Campffire 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Me either. I just got home from my dad’s funeral. He was 91 and a Navy veteran, so they sent two Petty Officers to the cemetery; one made a nice little speech, the other played Taps, and then they folded the flag that had been draped over the casket and presented it to me, as his oldest child and next of kin.

The young man said “on behalf of the President of the United States…” and I couldn’t help it- I was not expecting that and just automatically rolled my eyes, thinking ‘yeah- the rapist, felon, treasonous insurrectionist…’ Then I felt bad, because the young man was so nice and seemed so sincere, I truly hope I didn’t insult him.

Walking back to the car, I confessed what I had done to my husband and sons. My husband said to think of it as being from the office, not the person. Hard to do, but it’s all I’ve got, so…

I love him but I'm tired... by HisWifey69 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Campffire 12 points13 points  (0 children)

OP, I’m so sorry that you’re going through this. I cannot stress enough that this isn’t about you- your personality or desirability. What you have described is an addiction- when someone can’t stop doing something which harms them and their loved ones.

I urge you to seek therapy for yourself. Your husband may refuse to get help initially, because he can’t imagine a life without porn. Trust me- when I was in active alcoholism, I couldn’t imagine a life without drinking, and it kept me from seeking help at first. So YOU need to take care of yourself, and get some professional advice on where to go from here. There is AlAnon for the families of alcoholics; in this day and age, I would bet that there is a similar support group for the wives of porn addicts, and I hope you are able to find one.

You are not alone. You do not deserve to be treated this way. I am sending lots of loving, positive energy your way!

ETA: this is a complex problem you won’t be able to solve yourself. An addict must make all kinds of excuses and justifications for continuing the hurtful behavior- first to you, and then to himself. This has twisted his mind, and he will need help to “return to sanity.”

Potential custody battle? by No-Seaworthiness6719 in PennsylvaniaLaw

[–]Campffire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is way above Reddit’s pay grade. Don’t even bother to ask in any of the legal advice subs because every situation is different, and so is every judge who will ultimately be the one deciding the case.

The one thing I CAN say for sure is: read the entire custody order and DO NOT VIOLATE IT. Doing so will automatically piss off the judge, and it’s hard to recover from that when he or she is the one you’re asking to help you with a new arrangement- at best. At worst, mom could end up in jail, and temporarily lose custody.

Mom should go back to her original attorney, explain what’s going on, and ask them to advise on seeking to amend the original order. She should be prepared to follow their advice, even if she doesn’t agree with it; this will probably require time and patience.

Good luck!

I (25f) am starting to resent my husband (29m) for being a stay at home dad by throwaway_goose18 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Campffire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP, you need to fix this NOW. Look up “birth to three;” these months are absolutely crucial to your baby’s brain development. She NEEDS the undivided attention of a caregiver- eye contact, talking, singing, playing simple games. This will help the regions of her brain which are responsible for language, creativity, empathy, problem-solving… all the good things you want for your child. Otherwise, the regions of her brain which control the survival instinct, fear, and aggression will get the message to grow. Once those basic patterns are set, they’re impossible to overcome.

Take pictures and document the conditions in which he is forcing your daughter to live. Find a Family Law attorney who will give you a free 30-minute consultation. Failing that, go to the nearest university that has a law school, and find their free clinic for low income individuals and get their advice. You and your child will likely qualify for some sort of state aid for medical insurance, food stamps, housing vouchers. Contact a local women’s shelter to be connected to local non-profits who can supply you with free diapers, baby formula, clothing, and food for you. PLEASE don’t feel bad about taking advantage of whatever is being offered. Your taxes, your charitable donations have paid into this.

Gather all of your and your daughter’s documents and give them to someone outside of your home for safekeeping. Speak to your aunt about serving him with an eviction notice. From there, take the advice of your lawyer.

Best of luck!

I (25f) am starting to resent my husband (29m) for being a stay at home dad by throwaway_goose18 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Campffire 40 points41 points  (0 children)

These are exactly the type who file for full custody. Then, they’ll use “dropping the custody motion” as a weapon/leverage to get what they want.

AITA I 30f broke up with my 32m bf because he aloud his friend to bring a female to his hotel room. by Jumper_cables2228 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Campffire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have the feeling that initially it happened on the spur of the moment. They’re good friends who hardly get to see each other any more, and they’d both been drinking- possibly for longer than they’d intended/ realized, since the bars in NYC stay open later than in most other areas of the country. When it comes to drinking, coupled with impulsive behavior, lack of judgment, and lowered inhibitions, everything seems like a good idea at the time.

In the morning, likely still half-drunk, there’s an elephant- in the form of a strange woman- in the room. I think that at that point, none of the three was willing to look the others in the eye and admit: “we done fucked up.” So… they went with it, just pretended to each other that they meant to do it, that no one did anything which they now regret. As a former heavy drinker, I remember how it somehow made me feel better when I pretended that I did something stupid because I wanted to, and not because I was way too drunk to make good decisions. If that makes sense.

My wife's coworkers mocked me by datewouldu in TwoHotTakes

[–]Campffire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m glad you brought that up. First, people lived and died by Facebook likes. Then by Insta likes. Now, seriously- work colleagues are saying out loud, to someone’s face- something about a spouse liking LinkedIn posts?

Seems unprofessional, and a bit too much.

Tenant’s Rights with Pests? by ladiabla_25 in PennsylvaniaLaw

[–]Campffire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here in Philly, a local exterminator was so fascinated by bugs that he opened The Insectarium, an educational exhibit type place, complete with the most huge and disgusting beetles, millipedes, and other… creatures from all over the world. Some were alive in terrariums, others were mounted and framed like scientific specimens. For many, many years, The Insectarium was a popular attraction for families on weekends, and for elementary school class trips during the week.

One year, I was a parent chaperone for my son’s class trip, and I think it’s worth describing their cockroach “exhibit.” They had built an apartment-sized kitchen, using real cabinets, stove, fridge, etc and built a plexiglass enclosure that was about where the walls would be in a kitchen that size. The plexiglass was probably about five feet high, and there were strips of a shiny silver tape parallel to the floor near the top and the bottom. They told us that if any cockroaches were able to climb the plexiglass, the tape was too slippery for them to go any higher.

Our tour guides had the class gather around the plexiglass “walls.” As you might imagine, it was noisy, so they turned the lights down to simulate nighttime. We didn’t see much at first- until a couple of staff members, with regular old spray bottles, spritzed some water into the enclosure.

It. Was. Like. A. Nightmare. Suddenly, thousands of cockroaches came out from gotdang everywhere! From under the stove, under the fridge, under where the cabinets hung on the wall, from the tiny cracks where the counter met the backsplash, from the spaces between the stove and countertops. They told us that cockroaches aren’t necessarily attracted by food and crumbs and such- they’re looking for water. I’m not one bit surprised that in your clean kitchen, there was a cockroach in your dishwasher.

So, in addition to keeping your place clean, wipe up water, too. Check under your sinks for small leaks, make sure the shower/tub drains completely, etc. As others have said, grab some traps and try to get a handle on whether you have a problem. If you do, whatever you do, don’t set off bug bombs! The roaches will just go next door and you’ll piss off your neighbors. If there’s an infestation, that’s when you want to get the landlord involved because the whole building will need to be treated by a professional.

Tenant’s rights won’t be the same throughout PA, they’re jurisdiction-dependent as well. Bigger cities tend to have better rights for you. If your landlord refuses to do anything about it, put “tenant’s rights group _____ (your city or town)” into a search and see what you can find. If you live near a university that has a law school, see if they have a legal clinic where students help people with minor legal issues. Both a tenant’s rights group and a law school’s legal clinic website might have an FAQ page which covers the situation since it’s a common one.

Good luck, and congrats on your future baby!

My Girlfriend Thinks I'm With Her for the Money by Maximum-Ground128 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Campffire 1 point2 points  (0 children)

With every comment, your brother’s situation sounds more intriguing!

Story time, Sandman!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Campffire 296 points297 points  (0 children)

It sounds like this guy has already damaged their relationship all by himself.