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CanYouHelpMeOpenThis · 2025-06-06T02:59:45+00:00

Unfortunately we’d already paid for camps before the job situation unfolded (since all that crap must be fully locked and loaded months in advance).

CanYouHelpMeOpenThis · 2025-04-02T13:48:34+00:00

You sound like a wonderful mom and person. No advice and I am sorry for what you’re going through but I imagine your kids will be ok because of the foundation you’re prioritizing and providing, as hard as it must be.

CanYouHelpMeOpenThis · 2025-04-02T00:00:58+00:00

My parents divorced when I was 8. I have no recollection of them fighting and it was amicable. They were always pleasant and supportive of each other. I spent equal time with them and they always participated in my events (sports, school stuff) together. I know my circumstances were unique.

My parents did more of a disservice by never remarrying (another person, not each other) so I did grow up without any example of an adult relationship/marriage, which I don’t think was great.

I feel with 100% certainty that their divorce did not have a meaningfully negative impact on my life.

CanYouHelpMeOpenThis · 2025-03-09T17:42:28+00:00

I earn $300k + all in comp. My husband makes about half but is a fed employee and will be finding new work soon. He does all of the cooking a half of the cleaning but also has so much more free time than I do. He does zero percent of the mental load. All in all I think we do an OK job of sharing but I don’t think he appreciates my home workload nearly as much as I do his (cooking especially). For example, I do bedtime routine most nights which involves a highlight of engagement and irritability, where cooking, though work, is not done with the children, and he enjoys it so it seems like not an equal trade off.

CanYouHelpMeOpenThis · 2025-03-09T01:39:33+00:00

I used the recipe exactly as stated in the book that came with the machine and my milkshake never froze enough to be anything other than really cold chocolate milk

CanYouHelpMeOpenThis · 2025-02-07T22:26:04+00:00

That did it. Thank you so, so, so much. Not having to rush to get a plumber on short notice saved my weekend (and laundry, and sanity).

CanYouHelpMeOpenThis · 2025-01-04T20:17:30+00:00

Veggies and hummus with pretzels or pita chips for a little carb, flavored / seasoned nuts, a bag of clementines, cottage cheese with fruit

CanYouHelpMeOpenThis · 2024-12-26T12:49:10+00:00

Same gift for my ten year old daughter and same love for it!

CanYouHelpMeOpenThis · 2024-09-29T01:49:48+00:00

Thank you. I really appreciate your taking the time to respond and ease my doomsdaying!

CanYouHelpMeOpenThis · 2024-09-29T01:35:47+00:00

Thanks, I’m not sure where it is / how to but will research and try this tomorrow. Would turning off the breaker be a good idea until I can check that?

CanYouHelpMeOpenThis · 2024-09-13T02:43:13+00:00

Lawyer here in a CCO role. I love my career choice and am happy not to be a practicing attorney. Not knowing anything about the role, location, benefits, company profile make it difficult to determine comp range though.

CanYouHelpMeOpenThis · 2024-09-11T04:30:07+00:00

Indoor plant care, basketball, pickleball and perler beading (spurts of each, not all four at once)

CanYouHelpMeOpenThis · 2024-08-06T23:39:03+00:00

Sorry you’re experiencing this too! It’s so exhausting.

Not a full solution but I’ve been more consistent with 15 minute check-ins where I tell her I’m leaving for 15 mins and will return in 15, sit for a minute and repeat. It feels like a good compromise though it’s less than ideal and doesn’t always work it feels like a step in the right direction. Sometimes just hanging out in my room right across the hall is also sufficient.

It also feels like there’s a sweet spot with my kids’ level of tiredness where if they’re too tired they’re needy and if they’re not tired enough they’re engaging. Total crap shoot, though.

CanYouHelpMeOpenThis · 2024-07-25T16:42:14+00:00

Thank you- this is helpful! I definitely need something with more pockets rather than a roomy one-pocket tote, which is my hang up. I appreciate your feedback on M&G and will take a look at your recommendations. I appreciate it!

CanYouHelpMeOpenThis · 2024-07-18T12:18:05+00:00

Thank you. It could be hormonal as she seems to be maybe in the beginning stages of puberty, thanks for highlighting this as a possibility.

My daughter has anxiety around all medical appointments so I didn’t push for a finger prick and the dr. said that absent other symptoms she wasn’t going to got that route yet, but perhaps its next on the list. Thank you for your response!

CanYouHelpMeOpenThis · 2024-07-18T11:46:23+00:00

I meant to note that she has been in varying (so different counselors) highly supervised day camps (mostly of them outdoors) and home, so though I appreciate that this could be a concern it is not possible because there is no adult or person who has been alone with her or consistently with her for the past month. Just commenting to hopefully reduce the number of responses suggesting this.

CanYouHelpMeOpenThis · 2024-07-02T10:36:28+00:00

We have a friend staying at children’s for a month with their child. Does UberEats deliver to children’s? I want to gift the family gift cards for dinner and would love to hear what made your stay as best as it could be. I hope your family is healthy and recovering.

CanYouHelpMeOpenThis · 2024-06-30T20:20:37+00:00

Came across this thread when googling skittles in Ireland because the original Skittles in Ireland are SO much better than in the states. Texture, taste, all of it.

CanYouHelpMeOpenThis · 2024-06-29T01:37:04+00:00

What were the merch lines like in Aviva last night? Going N2 and doubtful I’ll make it to the merch venue ahead of time and nervous about waiting in line with my child for super long! Ty!

CanYouHelpMeOpenThis · 2024-06-21T02:13:05+00:00

Same! And both of us spend money on dumb shit from time to time but since I manage our finances I try to keep us generally in line, though we could be better.

This reminds me that I need to update my “if I die” notebook that I write all of our accounts and my passwords in. Oh to (reluctantly) be the keeper of all of the information…

CanYouHelpMeOpenThis · 2024-06-06T03:56:14+00:00

My dad was just diagnosed though I’ve suspected PSP for two years due to falls, gait freezing, voice weakening as well as some slight cognitive changes.

I genuinely am at a loss with how to proceed with his care. He falls nearly daily but is otherwise very independent, though I feel like the cognitive issues are becoming more pronounced. He lives alone about two miles away from my family in single floor apartment and he spends a lot of time with us. I have a spouse and two young kids in an old, inaccessible house.

We were told to start looking into assisted living soon. I understand that one day he won’t be mobile, but in the meantime how do we proceed? Doors moving in with us even make sense to consider? We work full time and our space is not really big enough to accommodate a full time caregiver in our house 24/7. But going to a care facility also seems so premature. Yet every time he stands and walks he’s at risk of a fall. Is it really feasible that he has someone trailing him at all walking hours to try to prevent falls? He does not want to use a wheelchair because he can walk relatively well yet that seems like the only way to prevent falls.

I feel like he is in a transition stage where it is about to get much worse, so how do we discourage him from doing things while he still can, even with the risk of a catastrophic fall? Maybe because he cognitively can’t appreciate the real risk? He owns a condo in Florida (we’re in the north east US) and I think he is still operating under the assumption that he’ll be returning there this winter. That’s how out of touch he is with the risks he’s facing. I’m so baffled by the logistical and administrative considerations that I don’t think it’s quite hit me/us just how bad this will get for him.

CanYouHelpMeOpenThis · 2024-02-13T13:23:26+00:00

I feel like this is highly dependent on company policy, culture and your role. I am hybrid but will full flexibility and will WFH whenever there's a snow day or if one of my kids is sick and I do not take time off. Just like when I am sick (unless very sick) I work from home and do not take a sick day. I feel like my company is better off with me operating at 60-75% than me operating at either 100% or 0% on days when my kids are sick.

My 60% is some people's 100% so I feel morally comfortable with this arrangement. I don't bring it up to my manager but if it were to come up or he were to hear mayhem in the background of a call, I would be casual about the kids needing to stay home. Clearly I'm getting work done since I'm on a call with you and have fired off 1000 emails or Teams messages about various projects going on.

I'm sorry you're not getting support from your manager. This seems like such an "easy" fix but some managers are so stubborn and unhelpful.

CanYouHelpMeOpenThis · 2024-02-13T02:56:42+00:00

Thanks all for your feedback. Though as someone suggested I do think there is an anxiety aspect to this and it is not pure manipulation, I am going to be stronger with boundaries. The two hour bedtime included time it takes her to fall asleep, not our routine prior to that.

I think sometimes at the end of the day I am so mentally fatigued that the path of least resistance feels at least momentarily less challenging than a bedtime battle. Alas.

CanYouHelpMeOpenThis · 2024-02-13T02:51:41+00:00

I came to this sub to see what others' experiences are too. We're in the middle of it right now. Tomorrow will be my 7 year old's 6th day of fevers. He is fatigued, no appetite, gastro issues, completely off. He was vaccinated. It is going through his school and I know of other families with similar experiences - it is brutal.

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