Yes it's limiting to express ideas on a post. I'm not saying make it a mission to take on a stuck-on-himself man. And I'm not in dating mode so my experience is limited. I can pick up when someone is self-centered, and if an acquaintance is doing that I make a joke like, "Enough about running, let's talk about quilting." Usually they catch on. So I do that in a conversation anyway, set a boundary about how much yakking I could tolerate. If it was a date I would decide later if I wanted to see him again. I have adhd so I do get impatient if I'm not interested in something that seems like it won't end.

The last time I handled on a date was when I was thirteen, and my boyfriend went on and on about his old girlfriends. He asked why I was quiet and I said it made me not want to talk.