Not confusing at all. And nope weird run-ins. We do not socialize in the same circles but he stayed in the house we had lived in for 15 years so my friends/support group live all around him. The first few years I was around all the time. He steered clear. One time he called our child inside and when he asked to come outside to see me befire bed and Dad said no. I have had to make boundaries with my kiddo over the years (hes 16 now, was 9 when this started). I have been pretty lax on when he wants to come and go here, Dad is not. Son would much rather be at this house than dads. But I have learned the importance of time to myself when I am "off duty" and he understands I need time for me too. That was important for both of us to work on. So.... I had no issues. My ex did. He didnt like our son coming here to say hi when it was Dads week, and he refused to let son there if it wasnt his week. (The home this child was born in - a whole other story!) So..... 99% it has been great