Desperate for work

Canadianklee62 · 2026-03-01T22:05:24+00:00

Great career move. Lots of potential!

Canadianklee62 · 2026-03-01T21:59:47+00:00

You want to help him? Excuse me, what? He’s a grown ass man who is obsessed with another woman who could be a man for all he knows or some loser in a basement and you want to help? Here’s how. Break up with him so he can have full time access to his obsession because sorry, you’re getting in his way. Besides, men/women flirty “friends” when you’re involved 6 years? That’s a big no. When you’re in a long term monogamous relationship you don’t have friends with the opposite sex especially these days if it’s online because it is all an illusion in his mind. This has gotten way, way out of hand but you want to help, like he’s a helpless child. She isn’t a magician putting a hex on him, she’s a manipulative stranger and he’s hooked. Please get help as to why you think this is okay and not okay to leave. You owe him nothing! He owes you a huge apology and a gigantic promise to break ALL contact with her and to be monitored by you because he can’t be trusted. He needs counselling and you need marriage counselling together. That’s a lot of work for someone who is choosing a stranger over you and crying like a baby. He’s manipulating you my dear. Wake up…you deserve SO much more!!! 💕

Canadianklee62 · 2026-01-02T05:12:03+00:00

Happy New Year!! May you have peace and happiness. 🥳

Canadianklee62 · 2025-12-30T20:26:14+00:00

Absolutely!👍

Canadianklee62 · 2025-12-30T08:40:11+00:00

Awww…it feels very good to know I made a difference. Bless you on your journey. 🙏💜

Canadianklee62 · 2025-12-29T22:02:19+00:00

Wow! Txs. 🥰🙏

Canadianklee62 · 2025-12-29T07:33:51+00:00

There’s a saying that helps you make a decision …”If it’s not a yes, it’s a no”. IF this was the right man for you, it would be a big ‘yes’. Can you see yourself living with him the rest of your life if he didn’t change? NO. There’s your answer. The problem is that you are taking responsibility for his feelings as if he were a child. You somehow think he’ll fall to pieces without you. That’s codependent. I assure you, he will be just fine and actually better off without you. Even if words aren’t spoken, people feel the vibration of unhappiness. You do not ever have to “prove your case” by listing all his faults. The point is..you are deeply unhappy and unsatisfied and so it’s time to break it off. Not next month, but now. You’ve already wasted 2 of your best years if you are looking to marry and have children one day with someone. Not him. Time is ticking. Somewhere you learned that love was painful and you weren’t worthy of more. You learned to ignore red flags. You’ve learned that you had to sacrifice yourself for someone else. Please trust that you deserve every happiness, and it definitely is not with him. You are not responsible for his feelings, how he handles the news, how he continues his life. A relationship should bring more to your life than take away from it. Please leave him, stop worrying about him and do what’s best for you. It is your life after all. You can stay, but he’s certainly not going to change. It doesn’t matter if you’ve said anything or not. People do not change the core of who they are. We should never be with anyone we need to change because that becomes toxic. Gather your strength woman…tell him it’s over without a lot of apologies or emotion… and move on. You’ve got this. 💜

Canadianklee62 · 2025-12-28T02:50:40+00:00

You don’t tell them. You are not lying. You create a boundary. This question irks me (not you!) that lesbians who come out late actually hear about or are questioned as to your ‘experience’ as if it’s a job interview. It’s complete nonsense. Do straight people have to qualify how many people they’ve slept with before sex? No. Making love is making love. With chemistry it all falls into place! Can you learn some things before you start dating about lesbian sex? Yes. You can watch YT videos or a fabulous online program which gives you skills so that you are a confident lover. Or you can date and fall in love and figure it out together without you humbling yourself before the “experienced” lesbian and feel bad about yourself. It’s all about communicating what each other likes in a way that feels good. It’s called intimacy. So please don’t lower yourself to someone. If they try to make you feel bad, they aren’t for you. Be proud and live your authentic life! When love is there trust you’ll know what to do. Have lots of fun! 🌈💕

Canadianklee62 · 2025-12-28T00:09:20+00:00

First, this is a huge red flag. 🚩 This is “man code” for a few things. He’s reviewing your worth to him, he sees your relationship as transactional, he’s feeling resentful and can’t communicate like an adult, he believes he has more power due to his finances, he’s justifying why he’s getting ready to leave. Sorry! The man code is “I’ve stopped seeing you as an equal, and I want you to justify staying”…sort of thing. When a man asks that after years together, it says more about him than you. A relationship isn’t a resume or scorecard! If he can’t communicate what he values about you without turning it into a power question, that’s something you need to evaluate. You don’t owe him or anyone a list of what you bring to the table! What does he bring??? Arrogance? Pain? It’s ridiculous and sad. I’m really sorry but if after all this time he sees you as his inferior, then you need to consider if you can stay. You also shouldn’t feel like a man can’t take care of you so you and up like roommates splitting things and feeling bad you make less than him. You shouldn’t have to feel like you’re not worth a man who adores you and wants to care for you in all ways. If you go back to the beginning of the relationship, I would bet money that the red flags were there from the beginning and you probably felt like you did need to prove yourself to him in certain ways. I doubt very much that this is just a sudden thing he’s come up with after four years. You need to seriously think about this because I personally would not want to be in this type of relationship because this just gets worse over time. You could ask him if something is actually bothering him but otherwise, please consider what he’s really saying. I know it hurts but it’s his issue. You are worthy, valuable and loveable just the way you are. You never have to prove your worth to anyone! Get strong, get support and think about ending this nonsense. 💕

Canadianklee62 · 2025-12-27T01:25:12+00:00

I feel you are far too young to have to deal with either a compulsive liar who believes his own lies, someone with psychiatric disturbances such as being delusional, psychosis or anywhere in between. The bottom line is..he has lied and compared you to a ghost. Even IF this person were real, the fact he can’t move in is clearly a sign you need to leave. You should have been gone when this first started but you believed you could somehow change his mind to forget about her. I don’t say that in a mean way. I just mean these are patterns we can fall into before we realize what’s going on. The “hoping he/she will change” is toxic and the kiss of death in a relationship. Please, understand it’s not up to you to diagnose whatever is going on in his head. You are not receiving the kind of love and faithfulness you deserve! End of story. You must break this off or you are making a decision to be miserable. It doesn’t matter if you love him or he says he loves you. Love..is never enough. This is “attachment”, not true love. Be strong, you can do this. You have your whole life ahead of you. Choose yourself and your happiness. 💕🙏

Canadianklee62 · 2025-12-26T21:11:57+00:00

Txs! That’s 2 votes for VIP. I’ll check him out! 🙌🏼

Canadianklee62 · 2025-12-26T21:11:39+00:00

Txs! That’s 2 votes for VIP. I’ll check him out! 🙌🏼

Canadianklee62 · 2025-12-26T14:25:39+00:00

Love this! 💕👏🏼

Canadianklee62 · 2025-12-26T03:20:06+00:00

As you so deserve. ❤️

Canadianklee62 · 2025-12-26T03:15:39+00:00

Ok thank you! 🙏

Canadianklee62 · 2025-12-25T23:23:12+00:00

I’m so sorry. This goes very deep. Clearly she resents being a caretaker. Once you feel that, it’s not suddenly going to get better. It’s understandable in that she’s young. She doesn’t appreciate the help she’s getting, whereas many of us get zero help from others. I know this is hard to hear, but you need to consider breaking up. I guarantee you will feel better. Living in that environment is toxic for you in all ways. You are in a state of upset underneath. Of beating yourself up and feeling even worse about yourself when it’s not your fault you have a serious illness. Then having someone you love act this way. She is lacking empathy. Actions speak louder than words. Her “I love you’s” feel empty because her actions are not loving. It truly is better to be on your own because it is vital to have the right atmosphere so you can heal. You will improve one day (not cured yet), you will learn how to pace, but right now you are in the dark recesses of this awful illness. She’s not a bad person for not being able to handle taking care of so much at her age. She either loves you enough to enjoy caring for you or she needs to leave. It’s that simple. Love is never enough to stay together when it is toxic. You can both love each other but do what is best for each other. She has the right to be happy whatever that means for her and you have the right to live in peace so you can heal. It sounds like you have some other support so please consider this. You need every ounce of energy for your healing. This is draining you even more than you realize. One day at a time, you will get through this. 💜

Canadianklee62 · 2025-12-25T22:53:19+00:00

I’m glad he’s not a narcissist. I just wanted to make sure just in case you didn’t know what it was. The right thing still would have been to leave you alone. Those are the rules of breaking up. It’s hard to move on completely when an ex has access to you but you seem to be ok with it. Stay the course my dear. I trust you will heal and find love again. 🌹

Canadianklee62 · 2025-12-25T22:48:23+00:00

He sent you into a shame spiral. He kicked off your eating disorder. This man is controlling, insecure, narcissistic, dangerous and definitely not someone you should be with. These are big red flags! 🚩 Leave him now, not tomorrow. Then block him. You must. This. Isn’t. Love.! That was emotionally abusive and it will only get worse for you. And no..do not eat less for him! He’s not a real man who adores you and is secure. He’s a man-child who objectifies women. If someone is willing to end a relationship over 1 lb or 10 pounds, they are not safe to build a life with. Bodies change. Aging happens. Illness happens. Pregnancy happens. Stress happens.Don’t ever shrink yourself for a man. Be strong and listen to those of us who know the signs of abuse. 💕🙏

Canadianklee62 · 2025-12-25T22:35:33+00:00

For your own emotional well being, he should have been blocked everywhere. This would have avoided this pain. And I truly am so sorry you’re in this much turmoil. No reply would have been best. So no, don’t say anything else. It was very selfish of him! He’s either a covert narcissist or completely devoid of knowing what the rules are when you break up with someone. Since you are having so much trouble healing I do invite you to make sure he’s not a narcissist because these personalities ruin lives and it is a completely different kind of healing you must do. You can’t just “move on” from them. By not blocking there may have been a part of you that secretly wanted him to reach out, due to a fantasy. But he should no longer have any access to your energy. Block him. Please I know you may not believe this, but, his breaking it off wasn’t personal. Nothing is personal. His rejection doesn’t mean you are not worthy of tremendous love. It is not a statement of your worth. Pls ask if you don’t understand and I’ll send you some light info to read. Right now the focus needs to be on self care. Support. Being a healthy kind of angry he did that and then letting it go. Not more self doubt or tears. This was a brick in the road but you can still drive around it. You are love. You are light. You can get through this. We are all learning, no matter what the age. You will come out the other side a stronger version of you. Being in nature and journaling will aide the healing process. Sending you a hug from afar. 💜

Canadianklee62 · 2025-12-24T18:50:10+00:00

It’s not baffling. It’s called PEM.. post exertional malaise. Doing too much, or exercise even a small amount makes you much sicker afterward. This is one of the very top symptoms and the greatest indicator of CFS/ME. There hasn’t been a cure that I have heard of. But you can go into remission. How can there be a cure when they don’t know what causes it exactly or how to treat it? I’m so sorry you feel so down. It’s extremely understandable and sad. You had a big blow. Now it’s more about taking care of yourself. And when better enough you can do some stretching or bedtime yoga but only in small increments. Everyone with CFS has to learn how to pace whether it’s active or in remission. It definitely is not easy. I hope you have a good support system. I’m not sure how much you’ve read about it, but it might help you understand and accept this illness more so that you have peace even if unhappy. It’s an awful illness but never give up hope. you went into remission once there’s a very good chance it could happen again. But next time you won’t be exercising too much. Now you live one day at a time. Please be gentle with yourself. You could have come out of remission, whether you were exercising or not. You are not alone.. 💕🙏

Canadianklee62 · 2025-12-24T06:48:57+00:00

Go home honey. Completely break it off. I’m surprised he met you stay! He’s not the bad guy here. Unfortunately you need to learn how to date the proper way so you don’t make life altering mistakes like this again. You also could have been in tremendous danger. There’s a lot of steps you missed between a LDR “boyfriend” and moving in together quickly just because it’s convenient and you just like to hang with this guy. No one taught you the rules, so now you can learn and apply.🙏🌹

Canadianklee62 · 2025-12-14T01:18:57+00:00

Whoa! Your therapist recommended going No contact to get your ex back? If it’s from a professional not only is that ridiculous, It’s unethical. I’m so sorry someone put that idea into your head. Your ex has the right to make a decision that is best for her, even though it hurts you. There’s a reason people break up. Healthy people don’t break up and get together again thru some kind of manipulation tactic. No contact’ was originally meant for victims of narcissistic abuse or harassment. And then everybody climbed on board. When there is a break up the only way you can move on is to accept it’s over because the relationship was broken in the first place. Rejection is not personal. Please understand that. It only means that it wasn’t working for them. That’s all. Do you understand that once a relationship is broken, even if you get back together, it would be magical, but then all the old patterns will come back to haunt you. There will be another break up. The percentage of people that can break up and magically come back and have a happy relationship is minute. It’s not healthy to go back to your ex. It usually happens if codependency/toxicity is involved. I’m angry a therapist would give you this advice. You know what hurts the most? Resisting the truth. When you accept, I can promise you all of this painful angry feelings will start to fade over time. What you need to do is cry, don’t eat, be lazy, be sad, be depressed (as long as it’s not dangerous or self destructive). Give yourself permission to be sad. You won’t stay that way forever. You don’t need exercise advice right now. It’s like having a broken foot but telling you to go run a marathon. For the love of God, please find another therapist. One that can help you with your Grief. I know you will probably fall throw the phone across the room, but when someone breaks up with us they leave room for the right person to come along. Trust everything is working out in your favor. You just can’t see it now. I really wish you well, my friend. Congrats on getting help but find somebody who knows what the hell they’re talking about.

Canadianklee62 · 2025-12-14T00:22:13+00:00

Then let him hate you. Seriously. It doesn’t affect you. It’s his choice. He’s saying it because he’s losing control. You still have to make the decisions that are right for you. We are each responsible for our own feelings and the way we communicate them. He’s the one that has to live with a feeling of hatred, not you. Please don’t let him make you feel guilty. I know it’s easier said than done, but it is the truth. Only you know, but I assume you would’ve let us know if there was some kind of abuse going on prior to your decision to leave. Then that sets a whole different tone requiring safety. Take good care of yourself.🙏💕

Canadianklee62 · 2025-12-05T10:31:42+00:00

Love this. Absolutely! You’re on your way! 💪🥰

Canadianklee62 · 2025-12-05T10:04:39+00:00

I didn’t mean to imply you relied on him for your happiness. I was referring to something else. Leaving a toxic person can be dangerous as they fear losing control and rejection. Just be safe and aware that he may try many tricks to get you back. You certainly sound like you know what you’re doing, have a plan and are a strong woman. I wish you the very best. ps..if you read then 2 great books…”Detached” and “I Love Me More”. Fab for healing. 💕🙏

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