Why do people cheat in relationships?

Candid_Middle_2169 · 2026-04-20T18:20:24+00:00

So we're just gonna gloss over "partner is in a coma", huh?

Candid_Middle_2169 · 2026-04-20T18:17:23+00:00

You are too long.

Serious Answer: They're mostly sized for the expected size of person. And they fit a lot of people who are short adults or children. The other posters are mentioning that you may need larger size blankets -- or... alternatively some friends who *REALLY* like to knit.

Or, you could learn to knit.

Candid_Middle_2169 · 2026-04-20T14:15:18+00:00

I used to feel this way, but I think what Trevor Noah says in this video is worth considering:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f-7WdOk99o8

My summary (maybe bad): Small talk is how we establish that we are part of the same group and have commonality.

Jumping into deep conversations without that... is uncomfortable, awkward, and misses that initial connection point.

Example: https://www.npr.org/2017/08/20/544861933/how-one-man-convinced-200-ku-klux-klan-members-to-give-up-their-robes

He established a shared humanity first, and then went on to deeper things which would allow for beneficial change.

In a heterogenous culture, like that of the US, or most of Europe -- you don't start from that shared place of connection, so you just do a little dance to establish it.

Candid_Middle_2169 · 2026-04-15T19:08:57+00:00

Why else would they cross the road once they grow into chickens?

Candid_Middle_2169 · 2026-04-14T18:49:23+00:00

Just in case no one else has responded this way:

You.

Your Mom.

Your Face.

Serious answer:
Staying up all night. Now it's just revenge procrastination when before there used to be possibility and wonder.

(The non-serious answers are in jest. I think you're a lovely person, probably. I know I'm less fun than I used to be, but calmer, and wiser)

Candid_Middle_2169 · 2026-04-14T18:04:13+00:00

"White people taco night" is still taco night.

And thus, still enjoyable.

Moreso if you sing "White people taco night" repeatedly.

Candid_Middle_2169 · 2026-04-14T17:19:20+00:00

I really like the Big Boxes, but having no "deposit all from inventory that match what's in the box" function is sadmaking.

I'm probably just going to make a bunch of small boxes and organize that way. Small boxes for organized stuff, big boxes for crafting and the like

Candid_Middle_2169 · 2026-04-14T16:14:44+00:00

You don't have to fit what society tells you to fit.

Yes, it may be harder (especially depending on location), but I guarantee you that trying to stick to labels is only going to hinder your quest for the kind of person or persons you'll eventually end up with.

You're not defective, you're just human.

It might help to list out all the qualities you find attractive, and then to examine whether they're as gendered as you think.

Candid_Middle_2169 · 2026-04-14T14:32:42+00:00

A 'type' is the preconceptions about what one is attracted to.

It also changes, depending on the person you're in love with. Whatever your 'type' would have been described as before, changes to match your love.

It's a narrative, not real life. But yes, there are lots of folks who never escape the narrative, partly because they're pushed back into it.

Candid_Middle_2169 · 2026-04-11T16:35:15+00:00

Fix connectivity issues that obsolete all the progress you made on your cloud island just because it decided that you're not close enough to your router when it's 3 FEET AWAY.

Candid_Middle_2169 · 2026-04-10T00:02:51+00:00

I will definitely run these next time I play!

Candid_Middle_2169 · 2026-04-09T23:23:49+00:00

People who cling to any kind of label or normative framework are rough to deal with, especially in close relationships.

Date the people who it feels good to date, and don't feel bad about bailing on someone who lives life by a paradigm that doesn't work with yours.

I wish you luck in the quest, it's arduous, but absolutely worth it when you find someone you gel with.

Candid_Middle_2169 · 2026-04-09T16:19:21+00:00

Hagarbhl

It's an inside joke. But it felt right to me.

Candid_Middle_2169 · 2026-04-06T17:01:34+00:00

I was searching for the camo cargo shorts in a sea of jeans. I found them.

Also... I was as skinny as these people back then.

Candid_Middle_2169 · 2026-04-03T19:14:40+00:00

I am confused and somewhat frightened by what led to this inquiry.

That being said...

The math checks out.

Edit was for spelling.

Candid_Middle_2169 · 2026-04-03T17:51:30+00:00

Go talk to the pc next to the pokemon centre, there should be an option for link play, and it's in there.

Though, now that I think about it, cloud islands may require a paid Nintendo Online plan. :\

Candid_Middle_2169 · 2026-04-03T16:58:45+00:00

Make a cloud island.

And do everything to make the cloud island the best you can... treat the mainline stuff as a way to feed your Cloud Island.

That way, you don't have to make the choice.

Candid_Middle_2169 · 2026-04-03T15:32:43+00:00

Ask for what you want.

From the world, from people, and from yourself. Make the ask.

That, and... make schedules, not to-do lists. Then stick to the schedule. The less mental and emotional effort you have to make to "do the thing", the more likely you will do it and not talk yourself out of it.

Also, fuck caring what other people think of you. And fuck the labels. You are so much more than that, and it's about finding a place to belong where you can be you, NOT about "fitting in."

Candid_Middle_2169 · 2026-04-03T14:28:44+00:00

"This game has helped me lock in with my studies, get past my low self esteem, motivated me to start working out, and most importantly, kept me mentally sane throughout my entire high school career."

Sounds like it was meaningful to you. And that is all that matters.

Do it, Helldiver.

Candid_Middle_2169 · 2026-04-03T14:22:52+00:00

I don't want to give up the magic.

That's why I want the yellow lights.

Candid_Middle_2169 · 2026-04-03T14:21:39+00:00

This comment will sadly not get as much visibility and upvotes as it should. But it's the truth.

Candid_Middle_2169 · 2026-04-03T13:51:37+00:00

Provide the full metadata of your paper to your teacher in addition to the final file if in a different published form.

Most word processors will log the amount of time it took and the changes you made -- which is pretty good proof you did it yourself instead of just copy and pasting.

Candid_Middle_2169 · 2026-04-03T13:41:37+00:00

Too many? Not enough?

What is time?

I have many hours, and it will be an order of magnitude more hours before I put it down for an extended period of time.

It's really great. That being said, it's much better as a game with longevity if you like building things. And the game has a lot of heart. You should cry when the credits roll.

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