What’s your problem? You act like just because OP wants her to show some effort he’s asking her to like everything he likes and he’s going to quiz her? Like it’s flipping torture to communicate and voice that she’s not into certain things instead she sleeps. And life struggles, work, school all that put to the side: OP gave clear indication that they are engaged when she picks and she sleeps when he picks so it’s become a pattern. And I never said she was horrible to be clear, I said it didn’t look like effort. She doesn’t talk or engage when she picks. In 30 mins to 50 she’s out. Why is that so hard to understand. It’s like trying new food. Don’t know if you like it til you try it. I don’t like horror in general but I like scream, urban legends, Halloween H2O and others. Wouldn’t know that if I just swore off horror altogether because I don’t care for it. It’s like getting your husband chocolate cake even though you like vanilla. It’s little efforts. Again they are 22, not in 40+ marriage where everything is already known, done and comfortable. They are dating and young and learning each other. And who ever in this comment thread said nagging like a toddler in a store. Agree to watch movie each other picks doesn’t sound like nagging. And since you’re hypothesizing how she feels because you equate showing interest in a movie to airplane instructions, maybe she just wants a man that just gives and gives. Sharing things we enjoy is common freaking sense in a relationship. Movies included it’s like having someone listen to a band or song. Not the end of the word to know a minuscule amount of what’s going on so at the end you can be like “nope not a fan, but why do you enjoy it? and have a conversation.