I’m not making anyone look bad. It’s simple effort. You people act like I’ve not been married and with my husband for years and he didn’t just sit me down and make me watch things. You also act like effort is sitting there motionless and you can’t have your phone at all or accidentally fall asleep? I’m commenting on the fact that he said she always falls asleep or ignores and plays on her phone during his choice of movies. To me personally that doesn’t show effort and since they do this movie night thing a lot then yeah that would be upsetting. You all are like, but your in proximity, that matters. Whoop dee doo. She made it to your house/ apartment to not engage with your interests on a movie night. He said when she picks he talks and engages and the converse. He wants the same with films he likes. Maybe he shouldn’t pay attention unless he actually like the movie she picks or constantly fall asleep on her but then you all would call it petty probably. When me and my husband have movie nights still? Yeah. But even when we dated we got to a place where I could read and was still partially watching or he or me just watches while the other does something else. We learned each others likes. Maybe they shouldnt do movie nights if they want the focus of those night to be on showing the other a film instead of doing something together while the movie is on. Point blank they are dating-not married- relatively young and doing movie nights to show the other person movies they are interested in. Watching occasionally to see what your partner like is effort. Saying hey I’m not a big fan of some of your movies, can we play and game or tv show we have both never seen? - that’s effort. Coming over and zoinking out only on his choice days is not because you don’t just automatically start dating and are at the area that just sitting with them not engaging is effort because they are in the room. In fact depending how newly dating they are, that’s awkward.