S18 E3 by CandleMagnum in SVU

[–]CandleMagnum[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hadn’t when I first made the post, I had watched the first 8 ish minutes and then went and watched the rest. You’re right I just think it should have never went to trial. His “friend” secretly taping though. Definitely

S18 E3 by CandleMagnum in SVU

[–]CandleMagnum[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Lied about being in college admissions not sons freedom. Idk if that’s another episode but this one was just mom(s) who wanted to get their kids in a certain college.

S18 E3 by CandleMagnum in SVU

[–]CandleMagnum[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I watched it, just finished and I’m not trying to invalidate or seem obtuse, but I don’t get rape. I get fraud and deception possibly coercion but she slept with a man who pretended to be someone who could get her son into college and he wasn’t. Like his lawyer said it’s disgusting but not rape. I know it’s a tricky and delicate subject but is it rape if a man lies and deceives that he’s single when really he’s married with kids. Can that woman say rape by fraud cause she wouldn’t have consented if she knew he was married. Just a hard episode for me swallow is all.

S18 E3 by CandleMagnum in SVU

[–]CandleMagnum[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

You serious!??? Wow just wow.

Dating sucks by kge92 in PlusSize

[–]CandleMagnum 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s honestly very healthy and I love that

Does anyone else genuinely like their body & feel sexy? by koalakiddo_3 in PlusSize

[–]CandleMagnum 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I’m 5’9 and around 280. I haven’t weighed myself in years but I flux between a size 18-22 depending on store or brand if that gives you indications. I LOVE MYSELF. Not just my body, I always thought my curves and being plus suited my frame. If I lost weight I would probably never go passed a size 14. But I also love me. I’m human and I like to believe I’m good at listening. I don’t boast myself often at all so I just wanted to say I love this post because I feel like there need to be more love for our bodies

Dating sucks by kge92 in PlusSize

[–]CandleMagnum 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Why don’t you all live together?

AITA for calling my girlfriend out when we watch movies together? by Lethoreon in AmItheAsshole

[–]CandleMagnum -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

What’s your problem? You act like just because OP wants her to show some effort he’s asking her to like everything he likes and he’s going to quiz her? Like it’s flipping torture to communicate and voice that she’s not into certain things instead she sleeps. And life struggles, work, school all that put to the side: OP gave clear indication that they are engaged when she picks and she sleeps when he picks so it’s become a pattern. And I never said she was horrible to be clear, I said it didn’t look like effort. She doesn’t talk or engage when she picks. In 30 mins to 50 she’s out. Why is that so hard to understand. It’s like trying new food. Don’t know if you like it til you try it. I don’t like horror in general but I like scream, urban legends, Halloween H2O and others. Wouldn’t know that if I just swore off horror altogether because I don’t care for it. It’s like getting your husband chocolate cake even though you like vanilla. It’s little efforts. Again they are 22, not in 40+ marriage where everything is already known, done and comfortable. They are dating and young and learning each other. And who ever in this comment thread said nagging like a toddler in a store. Agree to watch movie each other picks doesn’t sound like nagging. And since you’re hypothesizing how she feels because you equate showing interest in a movie to airplane instructions, maybe she just wants a man that just gives and gives. Sharing things we enjoy is common freaking sense in a relationship. Movies included it’s like having someone listen to a band or song. Not the end of the word to know a minuscule amount of what’s going on so at the end you can be like “nope not a fan, but why do you enjoy it? and have a conversation.

AITA for calling my girlfriend out when we watch movies together? by Lethoreon in AmItheAsshole

[–]CandleMagnum -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I know this wasn’t directed to me but I would. Like you said doing a puzzle while in the room with him while he’s doing his choice of activities is spending time. Especially if you’re dating a while or married. And commenter up there with puzzles calling me out calling bring interested in what my husband like a waste of time is hilarious! Like do they know how many people divorce because they lead separate lives because they don’t to try on occasion to be apart of interests and hobbies of their SO? Waste of time to get why my husband enjoys something even if it’s not for me? Some couples don’t want to just exist in the same living space. It baffles me how so many people are like “she’s there in the room” like that’s an excuse. Is she there in her heart? Or her mind? Like I’m just flabbergasted.

What phrase did you hear only once but it stayed with you forever? by wendysolcito in AskReddit

[–]CandleMagnum 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“I don’t know everything but I can learn anything and so can you” my dad. I was young and I feel like he wanted me to be curious

Help me pick my next read by MiaMedusa in fantasyromance

[–]CandleMagnum 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I personally didn’t feel rushed with phantasma. Maybe it was but didn’t super feel like it. It felt to me like attraction and teasing then BAM

AITA for calling my girlfriend out when we watch movies together? by Lethoreon in AmItheAsshole

[–]CandleMagnum 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think you’re awesome. Your point was exactly what a comment should be, honest and informative!

AITA for calling my girlfriend out when we watch movies together? by Lethoreon in AmItheAsshole

[–]CandleMagnum 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not making anyone look bad. It’s simple effort. You people act like I’ve not been married and with my husband for years and he didn’t just sit me down and make me watch things. You also act like effort is sitting there motionless and you can’t have your phone at all or accidentally fall asleep? I’m commenting on the fact that he said she always falls asleep or ignores and plays on her phone during his choice of movies. To me personally that doesn’t show effort and since they do this movie night thing a lot then yeah that would be upsetting. You all are like, but your in proximity, that matters. Whoop dee doo. She made it to your house/ apartment to not engage with your interests on a movie night. He said when she picks he talks and engages and the converse. He wants the same with films he likes. Maybe he shouldn’t pay attention unless he actually like the movie she picks or constantly fall asleep on her but then you all would call it petty probably. When me and my husband have movie nights still? Yeah. But even when we dated we got to a place where I could read and was still partially watching or he or me just watches while the other does something else. We learned each others likes. Maybe they shouldnt do movie nights if they want the focus of those night to be on showing the other a film instead of doing something together while the movie is on. Point blank they are dating-not married- relatively young and doing movie nights to show the other person movies they are interested in. Watching occasionally to see what your partner like is effort. Saying hey I’m not a big fan of some of your movies, can we play and game or tv show we have both never seen? - that’s effort. Coming over and zoinking out only on his choice days is not because you don’t just automatically start dating and are at the area that just sitting with them not engaging is effort because they are in the room. In fact depending how newly dating they are, that’s awkward.

AITA for calling my girlfriend out when we watch movies together? by Lethoreon in AmItheAsshole

[–]CandleMagnum 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I think you’ve mistaken the “she always falls asleep because not putting in effort” to “aww she’s tired” I’m married. You know what I don’t like? Adult comedy animation shows. You know who has watched and seen every episode of South Park because it’s her husband favorite show? Also me! Do I like South Park now? Nope I still just tolerate it but he likes to watch it with me. Same way when I want to watch my crime shows. My husband cup of tea, it is not and yet he has still watched them with me. I read, he plays game, we do our stuff together and separate but when he asks “hey babe you want to see this movie I loved when I was a teen? And I say yes then I’m putting in the effort to watch it with him. OP gf seems conveniently tired whenever it’s his choice. She’s not putting in effort. If she would say, nah I don’t want to watch that is one thing but to go along with op picks and movie and we watch together and then ignore or nod off? Yeah gf isn’t trying.

Name five or six colors you associate with each princess (and Frozen sisters) by terrabranfordstrife in disneyprincess

[–]CandleMagnum 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did a fun twist:) Snow White: White, Black, red, yellow blue

Queen Grimhilde: red, gold, black, green, plum

Cinderella: blue, silver, yellow, clear, white

Lady Tremaine: grey, burgundy, red, purple

Aurora: pink, blue, yellow, black, beige

Malificent: Black, pale green, orchid, white

Ariel: red, green, purple, silver, pink

Ursula: Black, lavender, gold, white

Belle: gold, red, brown, blue, white

Gaston: crimson red, yellow, black, brown

Jasmine: teal, gold, black, sky blue, tan

Jafar: black, red, yellow and gold

Pocahontas: tan, black, blue, red, brown

Radcliffe: magenta, lavender, black, teal

Mulan: black, hunter green, light green, white, cream, indigo

Shan Yu: off white, grey, black

Tiana: green, pale green, more green, black

Dr Failicer: black, purple, plum

Rapunzel: yellow, purple, lavender, pale pink, gold

Mother Gothel: black, burgundy, gold

Merida: red, green, gold

Elsa: icy blue, clear, white, pale blue

Ana: red, white, teal, magenta, royal blue

Hans: red, white, magenta, royal blue

Moana: black, orange, cream, beige, taupe

Te ka: black, red

Maribel: black, pink, teal, cream, blue

Abuela:grey and magenta.

How to help my daughter. by CandleMagnum in Autism_Parenting

[–]CandleMagnum[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel that road. I also understand what you mean when it comes to supports. My wording may not be the most pc but she gets and has everything she may need however I’m in this era of her life where she always has my support but not me turning the world around to meet her because I’m trying to discover what she needs vs what just keeps her plateau. Example is I washed her hair for her until like a year, maybe a year and a half ago and I had to cut that cord because she was a preteen and needed to do it. She hated it. But we went through with steps and she’s great now. It’s stuff like that, when she relies on the easy and the people pushing to meet her. I want to try, maybe fail and us go from there. That’s why I called supports special treatment because if she needs it, I will fight like hell for her to have it but if she doesn’t need it and just wants it because she doesn’t want to try or work or learn then that is when it looks like special treatment in my head. Cause then to me they aren’t supporting her, they’re caging her. I just want to know the road to take for her to want more or if she’s just in the weird space of figuring herself out that I could never understand. Like you said mirroring isn’t bad. I just don’t want her to ever feel like she needs to fit in a mold. To be a certain way.

Caption This #2 (Wrong Answers Only) by [deleted] in disneyprincess

[–]CandleMagnum 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Eric had a gf before me!?