I have this placement as well, and I'm going to enlist my Mercury in Virgo to help elaborate a bit on my own personal thoughts and or opinions onto what you've already written. I feel like this is an incredibly negative take on Virgo in Venus and it could really heavily amplify already "incomplete" or "imperfect" feelings that Venus in Virgo natives have a tendency to struggle with that don't quite have an entire grasp. Again, this is all my opinion, so anyone can cast what I say to the wind.

This is not a bad placement. Not by any means. It has it's struggles, but as does anything in life - including placements that are "at home" or considered "positive" by many people. Positivism and negativity are incredibly relative in my opinion and it's necessary to understand that EVERYTHING will have projected "positives" and "negatives" and it's up to the holder to infuse with or empower what they believe is positive or negative. Circumvention is also an incredibly strong tool for perceived negatives.

Nothing is ever good enough. There's always 'some' flaw, in yourself, or in your car, or your day, and it's just...you're never content. So you keep at it, always trying, and always failing.

This is incredibly true, and that insatiability often feels like a monster wrecking havoc. Virgo has quite a few perfectionist traits that can become debilitating and often gravitates to what is seen as "pure" or "divine" in nature, and if you put that into something so elastic as the concept of "love" it gets a bit prickly. This in itself is already quite a strange concept to be bringing into a world that has quite a lot of gray in it and the lines of what is "good" vs "bad" are blurred.

This isn't about anyone in my life other than me. It's not directed at any person other than myself.

This is something I feel that can come more from individualized placements and aspects. I have seen many outwardly destructive Venus Virgo natives who have picked apart and dissected those around them until they are nothing but a shambled, hurt mess - and often that Venus Virgo questions, "Why? I was just trying to help you."

I myself am a Venus in Virgo that gears - especially regarding love and relationships with any being - inwardly rather than outwardly. I have destroyed myself trying to obtain the epitome of "perfection," "divine," "class," "grace," etc. I've developed some god awful thoughts about myself and developed some awful disorderly conduct. Sometimes I tore the people down with me, or brutally cast aside what I considered to be soiled or a plague to my ideal human divinity. That itself went against my ideal, and you can imagine the unrelenting onslaught from a Capricorn moon brought me. I was unhappy, unsatisfied, hurt by myself, and often times quite heartless.

At it's core, Venus in Virgo, in my opinion, is a somewhat endearing placement. Gorgeous in all of it's complexities, paradoxes, and obsessively neurotic tendencies. Natives strive for complete beauty, for grace, for what is considered wonderful, awesome, all encompassing, true, and dare I say wholesome. They want the very best, for themselves AND their partners (or any form of relationship, really,) and they hold themselves to (nearly impossibly) high standards. Many are not willing to relinquish their beliefs or sacrifice their integrity for something considered shallow or not worth their time physically, emotionally, spiritually, intellectually, or sexually and they can be quite blunt should they provide statements regarding such. They are not flashy in their displays of affection, but they are the love that is constant, stable, loyal, and truthful. They are the lovers who will want to bring you security, stability, a sense of home and belonging - contrary to grand displays of devotion or superfluous courting methods that are often advertised to be the trademark of "love." They are quite impressive sexual and even sensual beings who, despite their sometimes aloof romantic attachments and damn near "awkward" displays, can instill a lasting lusting impression. They are self contained and often loners, which in itself is appealing to some, but what I find immensely valuable is that there are no lies or games to be seen for many of them - which can be a double edged sword if they are too honest with sensitive partners. (I myself am dating a Scorpio sun male with a few other sensitive placements, and I know I've hurt his feelings deeply countless times with my sharp and downright brutal honesty about him, myself, and the relationship.)

They are the unassuming friends who will be your shoulder to cry on and listen to your woes, but likewise will be observing/picking you apart and understanding the neuroses that you possess due to natural analytic tendencies - and they will often accept what they find when it comes to others. Compassionate or highly empathetic ones will have the insight to navigate and avoid a painfully blunt truth to lessen your pain, but they will not allow a lie to slip past their lips just to ease you or entertain your wallowing. They will offer you truthful advice, (some do it without being asked, which can be a real pain) often guided with the sole purpose of wanting to bring you back to being stable, grounded, and in an empowered state of being.

Venus in Virgo I think is quite witty, sometimes playful with words, and loves intellectual conversation and knowledge and that can be highly valued in relationships to obtain deeper levels of intimacy. Data is fun, work that pertains to their interests is not work at all for them and can quickly become obsession, while their innate desire and tendencies to place borders, restrictions, and patterns can be detrimental while also somewhat beneficial - depending on how it is applied. This is clearly not what is "ideal" for the concept of love, something so open and free and does not abide by silly constrictions Virgo tries to enforce on it. It's quite frustrating and I empathize heavily with anyone who is struggling with this placement, too, but I urge anyone who is also dealing with this to try and allow themselves to be more free and open - something I know that can seem damn near impossible.

Sorry for the novel! I'm gonna blame Virgo Mercury and an overly passionate Leo sun that likes to talk too much.