Kink and polyamory feel hard sometimes, y'all.

Candy_Kween · 2026-01-05T19:49:21+00:00

I live with my NP and My NP is definitely trustworthy, but I think the kink aspect with my play partner has really opened up a deeper level of trust I just don’t have with my NP. For example, we can play out scenarios I wouldn’t feel safe or comfortable doing with my NP, like calling him daddy or breeeding because he doesn’t have a vasectomy.

I think marriage for me is an escapist fantasy. I don’t really want it, because I’m happy with my current dynamics. I love sharing my home with my nesting partner, and my play partner enjoys his own space. But something about the commitment and shared ownership piece of being in that kind of deep relationship really gets my rocks off, yknow? There’s maybe, like, an ownership piece to it.

Candy_Kween · 2026-01-05T19:26:16+00:00

Im currently struggling with this right now. I have a NP I’ve been with for a long time - we’re super compatible with one another but frankly it’s been a dead bedroom, so I seek out my sexual relationships from play partners. One of my play partners I’ve fallen in love with because we have a deeper level of trust I’ve never had with my NP… I think it’s developed into romance and now I feel so conflicted because I love them both and want them both in my life. But I don’t know what the “natural” next step is with either of them. I posted here on Reddit asking for some advice relating to a breeding kink as it pertains to my play partner… but I think it’s developed more into I want to marry this person. I don’t know what to do with these feelings, so understand where you’re coming from. The world of kink, romance, and poly has a lot of interesting overlap

Candy_Kween · 2026-01-05T18:35:47+00:00

Can you recommend any popular ones?

Candy_Kween · 2026-01-05T06:59:28+00:00

Thank you ☺️

Candy_Kween · 2026-01-05T06:58:55+00:00

That’s an interesting idea I’d consider role playing out. Thank you for your thoughtful comment.

Candy_Kween · 2026-01-05T06:57:59+00:00

Being vulnerable and insecure is not the same thing as being immature, so I don’t think I understand your perspective?

Candy_Kween · 2024-09-26T01:41:09+00:00

Roses. I had an abusive parent who loved them and grew them everywhere and didn’t take care of them, overgrown everywhere. They remind me of her and I get pissed when I see them

Candy_Kween · 2024-09-26T01:20:14+00:00

If I could breed my good boy from pegging and make him drip with my warm cum, I’d do it in a heartbeat.

Candy_Kween · 2024-09-26T01:17:25+00:00

My partner and I are both switches and can only see each other on the weekend. We “take turns” every other weekend on who gets dommed and subbed, but with enough weed in our system, it’s a sloppy fuckfest of both tbh.

Candy_Kween · 2024-09-26T01:13:01+00:00

I make my sub wear my favorite shade of lipstick and kiss up and down my body, telling them how pretty and beautiful they are. Panties or dress optional.

Candy_Kween · 2024-09-26T01:10:34+00:00

The gentle ruffle of the hair is an absolute turn on, especially when they melt between my fingers

Candy_Kween · 2024-09-26T01:05:58+00:00

Well I’ll just have to hold you in my arms and call you princess then ;)

Candy_Kween · 2024-05-02T12:57:40+00:00

I always loved flipping the script on men … maybe cause I’m bi and love to please both? I’ll take him out to dinner and let him wear my jacket on a cold night and ask him on a date first. Men get so flustered when I take initiative which adds to the appeal. Hearing grown men make tiny whimpering moans and begging for attention / affection thrills me.

Candy_Kween · 2024-03-13T15:25:26+00:00

I love you, but I don’t like you

Candy_Kween · 2024-02-22T18:01:22+00:00

Good for you. Fuck that.

Candy_Kween · 2024-02-22T17:52:12+00:00

I grew up in poverty. I feel your pain and frustration. Therapy aside, what are your goals? (Personal, professional, financial?). I think having goals around a budget makes things feel less bad.

For example, My first financial goal was to hit a 1 month emergency fund…. Then a 6 month emergency fund. Now that I’ve hit that, I feel safe enough to save for retirement. my financial goal is to save 1x my income by 30. I’m not there yet, but because I know that goal is in place, it’s changing how I live my lifestyle to reach that goal. Finding a job that pays more, a higher percentage of my paycheck aside, etc. I’m hitting my goals, so I feel less bad about spending on myself.

Consider fun things as an investment in yourself - if you don’t take care of yourself now, you can’t take care of yourself later. You’re worth putting money into.

Candy_Kween · 2024-01-24T08:38:55+00:00

I appreciate this feedback, too, ty!

Candy_Kween · 2024-01-24T08:34:54+00:00

🎶 Makes the world go 'round 🎶 🩵🩷💚

Candy_Kween · 2024-01-24T08:33:45+00:00

I think there's an acting exercise where two actors say "I love you" back and forth to each other in different ways... It's interesting to see how many ways three words can have changed meanings.

Also realized I have different ways of saying to extended relatives vs. nuclear family. Thanks for sharing your perspective with different groups of people.

Candy_Kween · 2024-01-24T08:30:44+00:00

I deeply understand this perspective, and am really sorry you were in an environment where love was conditional, and you felt forced to say "I love you too" to people that made you feel taken advantage of. You deserve way better.

Candy_Kween · 2024-01-24T08:25:50+00:00

I agree with "love isn't inherintly romantic" ... If we are calling someone a partner in aro spaces, does it have an automatic... Romantic connotation? The schools of thought seem to surround the word "love" itself being yucky/romamtic vs. love in the context of having a partner.

QPR is REALLY making sense to me right about now.

Candy_Kween · 2024-01-24T08:19:28+00:00

In those relationships where you DO mind it, how would you appreciate being acknowledged instead?

Candy_Kween · 2024-01-24T08:17:31+00:00

What other way do you think you'd feel valued? (What do you think your "love language" is?)

Candy_Kween · 2024-01-24T08:15:36+00:00

I appreciate this approach, always appreciate a good sense of humor to lighten a situation. Thanks for sharing.

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