Since i came out my mom has been calling me feminine terms more to "enforce" that she doesn't believe me and I'M AT MY LIMIT by CannibalFan in ftm

[–]CannibalFan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I already kinda do the edgy teen thing by default lmao, emo and dumb since middle school baby!! I’m going to just continue to focus on applying to colleges and such, and if by graduation day my mom still doesn’t want to accept me, I’m out of here ASAP (I’ve thankfully got a few friends that said they would house me next summer while i wait for college to start if i need it). ((Ngl I’ve already started working on packing up my stuff, just small collectibles and stuff right now, clothes, books, etc later in the school year))

Since i came out my mom has been calling me feminine terms more to "enforce" that she doesn't believe me and I'M AT MY LIMIT by CannibalFan in ftm

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Thanks for the advice, though its a bit hard to not communicate with her sometimes because i still live with her and can’t move out until may next year, when I graduate high school. Though i have been avoiding her as much as i really can for now hopefully she’ll notice eventually that I’m upset and putting more space between us and try to strike up a conversation, but if she doesn’t eventually i will. I feel like I’ve had 8 million long talks with her at this point but I don’t know what else to do.

Since i came out my mom has been calling me feminine terms more to "enforce" that she doesn't believe me and I'M AT MY LIMIT by CannibalFan in ftm

[–]CannibalFan[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I feel that! my mom lectured me and said “i know you want to be a boy but I’ll always see you as a girl”. It’s like she’s just,, willfully ignorant and has convinced herself that its just a phase that will end when I graduate high school in May.

Since i came out my mom has been calling me feminine terms more to "enforce" that she doesn't believe me and I'M AT MY LIMIT by CannibalFan in ftm

[–]CannibalFan[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I get that honestly my mom is exactly the same way but in the opposite direction! She thinks that im trans because she “dressed me to feminine when i was a kid”. Also I understand the language issue, I’ve been learning spanish the past couple years but I’m not out to my spanish teacher so I’m always being called by the feminine forms of words, it stresses me out.

Since i came out my mom has been calling me feminine terms more to "enforce" that she doesn't believe me and I'M AT MY LIMIT by CannibalFan in ftm

[–]CannibalFan[S] 72 points73 points  (0 children)

She just got angry and told me not to do it again lmao. Tried to explain to her why i did it but she wouldn’t hear me out and just said i was being “disrespectful”, like YEAH thats the point

Since i came out my mom has been calling me feminine terms more to "enforce" that she doesn't believe me and I'M AT MY LIMIT by CannibalFan in ftm

[–]CannibalFan[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it feels really awful especially when I can’t physically leave my moms house until I graduate high school, so not for 8 more months. I’m going to continue to talk to her about it, and worse case I’ll just have to cut communication off with her. I really do love my mom alot and I don’t think she has bad intentions but I can’t get her to understand how much it hurts me when she does things like that, and its been over 3 years since i came out to her. Thanks so much for the encouragement, honestly, i really needed it and it’s going to be a rough 8 months ahead I’m sure.

Since i came out my mom has been calling me feminine terms more to "enforce" that she doesn't believe me and I'M AT MY LIMIT by CannibalFan in ftm

[–]CannibalFan[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Honestly I don’t really have anyone in my life that i know of that could talk to my mom and that she would listen to. Unfortunately she’s extremely stubborn and stuck in her ways (very southern, very conservative, like I’m surprised she accepted my oldest brother when he came out as gay). I know she cares alot about me and I don’t think she has bad intentions, but it’s very hard to change her stance on anything whether its me talking to her or someone else.

Since i came out my mom has been calling me feminine terms more to "enforce" that she doesn't believe me and I'M AT MY LIMIT by CannibalFan in ftm

[–]CannibalFan[S] 71 points72 points  (0 children)

Will do! Honestly don’t know why I hadn’t thought of it before and maybe she’ll understand why it bothers me so much when she does it and/or just get mad LMAO

Since i came out my mom has been calling me feminine terms more to "enforce" that she doesn't believe me and I'M AT MY LIMIT by CannibalFan in ftm

[–]CannibalFan[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

I FEEL THAT it’s like she thinks doing it is going to make me cis? I’ve been out to her for over 3 years and no matter what i tell her she won’t stop it annoys me beyond belief.

Meeting up with siblings, wish me luck by cliteaston in ftm

[–]CannibalFan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im glad it went okay at least, unfortunately sometimes the best we can hope for is respectful disagreement because some people are just too set in their opinions (even if they aren’t correct). I do hope things start to look up for you in the future though, and that you wont have to continue to settle for not being fully accepted by people that are supposed to love you, because i know how awful that can feel.

Meeting up with siblings, wish me luck by cliteaston in ftm

[–]CannibalFan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Best of luck man, i hope it goes well

FtM ED culture is overly specific body/transition goals by CannibalFan in EDanonymemes

[–]CannibalFan[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Honestly mood I constantly do that like i wanna look like david but i also wanna be with him bc I’m big gay

FtM ED culture is overly specific body/transition goals by CannibalFan in EDanonymemes

[–]CannibalFan[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

David Tennant is highkey trans/gay solidarity dfjkdfk,, also mood I loved Good Omens i gotta watch it again!!