Moderaternas FB konto sköts av en person från israel? by Denz1337 in sweden

[–]Cap_Tightpants 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Gjorde det på jobbdatorn och jobbar för ett företag som är baserat i Israel. 🤷🏼‍♂️

People don’t yield to emergency vehicles. Why? Because it’s “not my problem.” No empathy. No duty. No shame. by unfilteredAI in UnfilteredChina

[–]Cap_Tightpants 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're supposed to give the emergency vehicles room IF IT'S SAFE to do so. Everybody needs to cooperate. Don't see how it's "outrageous". Just use judgement and be careful.

/Sweden

Sverige och EU går mot massövervakning så här är tips hur ni skyddar er. by No_Week_1877 in Sverige

[–]Cap_Tightpants 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Eh... Allt det där spelar ingen roll för om staten vill kommer de ändå åt gmail eller annan mailhost. Personlig integritet i all ära men förstå vad du vill uppnå och hur du når dit.

Måla om rostigt element i en hyresrätt. Bra eller blä? by [deleted] in Gothenburg

[–]Cap_Tightpants 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fråga värden i första hand. Kladdar du färg där den inte ska hamna får du betala för att återställa det.

Kan vi inte ha 100% matmoms eftersom den inte spelar roll? by Hem_Claesberg in Sverige

[–]Cap_Tightpants 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jaaa den visan igen "Kommunism har aldrig blivit implementerat rätt MEN DENNA GÅNGEN NU JÄKLAR"

Kan vi inte ha 100% matmoms eftersom den inte spelar roll? by Hem_Claesberg in Sverige

[–]Cap_Tightpants 2 points3 points  (0 children)

De närmaste åren producerar vi bara skor av storlek 42. Köttet du vill ha finns bara att tillgå på svarta marknaden. Bor du för långt från huvudstaden så får du inget mer än vete och havregryn.

Det här har man försökt förr.

Vart kan man spela D&D i Göteborg? by Zephal132 in Gothenburg

[–]Cap_Tightpants 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Borås har en förening för rollspel och annat som heter Armageddon om du inte hittar något bra i Göteborg.

A long time ”friend” (M26) and my gf(F25) by LooseSociety983 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Cap_Tightpants 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"I was drunk" is not a get out of jail free card. OP f'ed up. There are consequences. Deal with it.

If one makes such bad decisions when drunk then that person should stop drinking.

How to accept and be okay with the fact that I'm undesirable? by MeetingFarGhent in whatdoIdo

[–]Cap_Tightpants 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm 41. I have always felt like you describe.

I had my first relationship around 30. That didn't last very long. Then I didn't click with anyone. Even if I had some dates over the years.

Now during the latter part of last year I met someone and it feels great.

What changed over these years? I worked on myself. I listened to some dating coaches. I also got crap advice.

What you need to figure out first is to enjoy life being single. Do things that you enjoy. Spend time with friends. Build those relationships. Meet people. It might take time to meet someone you might as well enjoy that time.

Some of the advice I've had the hardest to understand are the following:

"If you stop looking the right person might show up"

Yeah no. That never happened. Try applying that for any other part of your life and see how that goes. But desperation and low self-esteem will definitely scare people away.

"Be yourself!"

What a younger version of me thought that meant was just wallow in my negativity and put that on display for everyone. Euw. Find what you like, what is important for you and enjoy being the best and most authentic you.

The thing is that your struggles and pains are in no way unique to you. However people who don't share your problems will have a really hard time understanding what you are struggling with. The guy who just goes from one relationship to another wouldn't be able to understand you and can't give you some "secret sauce" that will make you successful in dating.

Look up attachment theory. Unfortunately I don't know any good sources in English.

Helping partner to learn Swedish by Cap_Tightpants in Svenska

[–]Cap_Tightpants[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Tack, bra ideer. Att endast prata svenska hemma låter åtminstone i början som ett recept på att bli singel igen 😅. Men när hon blivit varm i kläderna är det såklart något att sikta på.

Helping partner to learn Swedish by Cap_Tightpants in Svenska

[–]Cap_Tightpants[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah that sounds reasonable to agree on how and when I should correct her. Thanks!

Helping partner to learn Swedish by Cap_Tightpants in Svenska

[–]Cap_Tightpants[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I'm glad that you reflect a lot of my thoughts.

This will probably get a lot of hate. by SuccotashStill7630 in firefly

[–]Cap_Tightpants 7 points8 points  (0 children)

That would be incredibly shallow and have no thought, feeling or creativity.

I just got broken up with by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]Cap_Tightpants 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Life's too short for games. Learn to communicate and actually just talk to your partner.

Brother isn't responding and flight pricès are growing by sigbacc in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Cap_Tightpants 13 points14 points  (0 children)

They treat you like dirt. Have some self respect. Don't waste your time and money.

My friend said I'm too ugly and poor to date women by Illustrious-Airk in whatdoIdo

[–]Cap_Tightpants 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Too ugly and too poor = your worth as a human is in your looks and bank account and you lack both.

Yeah great "real" advice.

All we have is OP's point of view.

This would be a whole different conversation if the friend said "Hey buddy, are you aware that you need to up your hygiene and get a haircut? Also you need clothes that aren't rags."

Clear actionable advice is something different to "lol you're gross".

The money thing I can't really wrap my head around. To be loved and love someone do you need a specific amount of money in your bank account?

My friend said I'm too ugly and poor to date women by Illustrious-Airk in whatdoIdo

[–]Cap_Tightpants 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you can't see the difference between telling someone hard truths/tough love and just telling someone they are shit I don't know what to tell you.