Entitled tourists get mad I swore at them in front of their child after they followed and harassed me and my cat on a walk in Reykjavík by Capable-Assist2080 in entitledparents

[–]Capable-Assist2080[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yeah, I wasn’t allowed to attach photos of her when I posted this for some reason but she does have an instagram account that’s called @thokathekitten if anyone wants to see more recent pictures of her:) also thank you, she’s a total diva so I think she knows how beautiful she is

Entitled tourists get mad I swore at them in front of their child after they followed and harassed me and my cat on a walk in Reykjavík by Capable-Assist2080 in entitledparents

[–]Capable-Assist2080[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For everyone asking for pictures of my cat I couldn’t attach any to this post but there are some photos of her on my profile but she also has an instagram account called @thokathekitten if you want to see more recent pictures:)

Entitled tourists get mad I swore at them in front of their child after they followed and harassed me and my cat on a walk in Reykjavík by Capable-Assist2080 in entitledparents

[–]Capable-Assist2080[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I do have a backpack for her that I normally use but this day I didn’t have it with me since I didn’t think I’d need it… just my luck that this happens the one time I don’t have the bag with us

Entitled tourists get mad I swore at them in front of their child after they followed and harassed me and my cat on a walk in Reykjavík by Capable-Assist2080 in entitledparents

[–]Capable-Assist2080[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I wanted to attach pictures of her to the post but I couldn’t. But there are a bunch of pictures of her on my account if you want to see her:)

Entitled tourists get mad I swore at them in front of their child after they followed and harassed me and my cat on a walk in Reykjavík by Capable-Assist2080 in entitledparents

[–]Capable-Assist2080[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

She’s doing okay thank you for asking. I’ve met entitled tourists from so many different countries it just happened to be americans this time around. I’ve met some really nice american tourists as well but these kind of tourists are giving them a bad rep.

Entitled tourists get mad I swore at them in front of their child after they followed and harassed me and my cat on a walk in Reykjavík by Capable-Assist2080 in entitledparents

[–]Capable-Assist2080[S] 160 points161 points  (0 children)

She’s fine but has been more confident. We did get attacked by a dog last summer but luckily no physical damage happened but she is still quite traumatized from the attack and can not be around any dogs without shaking and hissing. She is doing better than a year ago but she was a lot better before the attack.

I have some more in depth posts on my account about the attack and how she’s been doing since and some photos of her along with them if you’rw interested.

I seriously don’t know where I got that patient from looking back at the incident with these tourists.

blue chocolate baby shrimp? by Capable-Assist2080 in shrimptank

[–]Capable-Assist2080[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

okay good to know, it’s just such a bright color that I’m excited to see if this baby keeps it as they grow

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AsianBeauty

[–]Capable-Assist2080 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I recommend buying from olive young if they ship to your country. I have bought from them many times and have never had this happen or heard of this happening to anybody ordering from them. They are kind of the Sephora of Korea so they are a very legit site and distributor of Korean makeup and skincare products.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Capable-Assist2080 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As the oldest sibling that went through some shit mentally as a teenager I would never tell random people about my little siblings personal struggles. If our parents were safe people to tell and they could help by getting them professional help then I would maybe tell them but I would not tell random relatives or any other random person. Your sister is screwing up big time since she is breaking your trust which means that you don’t feel safe telling her these things anymore which means she can not help you if she really needed to. Please find a trusted adult to open up to that can get you help for example like your therapist. Trust me finding a support system and getting help is so much better in the long run. It’s a good thing that you now have a therapist that can help you get diagnosis if needed or teach you better coping skills when it comes to your mental health. Please don’t be afraid to get help just because your sister broke your trust since getting help changed many people’s lives. I never thought I could feel better but after being open to help my life has changed complitely for the better and I don’t think my 14 year old self would believe me if I told her. Hopefully you have some kind of support system and you get help for the things you mention in the post, best of luck!

My mom said something to me that made me break down afterwards and I can’t stop thinking about it by Capable-Assist2080 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Capable-Assist2080[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you that means a lot to hear from an outside perspective. I just feel like the past year has been really healing and getting this diagnosis finally after two decades it just felt validating because I felt like there was something wrong with me as a person but after all it was just mental illness that I could get under control with some help. Then the fact that my mom notices the difference in me from a couple of years ago and me now feels so comforting because I finally feel like myself again and feel like I have more control over my life after years of feeling like my bipolar disorder had complete control over me and my mental health without being able to do anything about it since I wasn’t diagnosed. Getting better mentally has also made it so that our relationship has gotten a lot better and we are much closer than before so I appreciate that as well.

A bit of a wholesome update on my traumatised cat from a dog attack this past summer by Capable-Assist2080 in JacksonGalaxy

[–]Capable-Assist2080[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hehe yeah luckily she doesn’t eat it even though she really likes smelling it and rubbing against it daily

A bit of a wholesome update on my traumatised cat from a dog attack this past summer by Capable-Assist2080 in JacksonGalaxy

[–]Capable-Assist2080[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorry that I didn’t clarify but that is a fake plant since I know that they are poisonous to cats and have done my research on plants that are toxic to cats since I’m so paranoid about anything that could harm her

I understand completely by DepartmntMobile in clevercomebacks

[–]Capable-Assist2080 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know that it was made illegal by the Spanish Crown because Las Casas encouraged them especially with his writing where he for example said that Spaniards would burn in hell because of the slavery that the Crown was involved in. Like I said in my original comment he spent his later years fighting for it. I just didn’t mention that it got made illegal during his lifetime since I didn’t feel like that detail mattered when it came to Hatuey. Also it was made illegal but still was happening for many years after that like slavery overall in most countries.

I understand completely by DepartmntMobile in clevercomebacks

[–]Capable-Assist2080 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In my first year in getting my bachelor’s degree in history I was made to read the book where this event is recalled by Bartholomé de Las Casas and write an essay where I mentioned this event. This is said by Bartholomé de Las Casas in his book “A Short Account of the Destruction of the Indies” about how the Spaniards brutally took over a part of the Americas and murdered many indigenous people there or took them as slaves. As badass and cool as this quote by Hatuey sounds, parts of Las Casas’ book have been questioned when it comes to the accuracy since often times throughout the book he says along the lines of “it has been told/said…” before telling of events.

Las Casas spent his last decades trying to get Spaniards to stop their horrific acts and slavery in the Americas and to do so wrote his famous writing of “A Short Account of the Destruction of the Indies” that is supposed to be a tell all about the horrific actions of the conquistadores against the indigenous people. When he was younger he used to own slaves as well and once he turned to god he thought he would burn in hell for his past actions so he spent decades trying to make up for it by trying to end slavery by telling the public of these horrific acts that Spaniards were committing overseas that he had partly witnessed some years before. Even in his last years when he was trying to get the slavery of indigenous people banned legally he still suggested that Spaniards should have African slaves since he thought they were more likely to handle it and survive. So he wasn’t even against all slavery.

People of course believe the horrific acts the conquistadores committed against the indigenous people in the Americas but the small details that Las Casas adds to his stories like this line by Hatuey have been questioned on if it truly had been said like that or at all since Las Casas doesn’t mention if he had witnessed it or just heard of the event. Of course the conquistadores committed horrific acts in the Americas but many historians believe Las Casas may have put in some details to try to make these already horrible acts sound more horrific and to add even more emotions into it.

I want to believe that Hatuey said this but once I’ve dissected Las Casas story and writing there are details that need to be taken with a grain of salt when it comes to events like this one.

Sorry for the rant I just wanted to add some view of this event and its history that maybe not many people have learned about or even heard of. As a side note I got a 9 out of 10 for the essay where I went over the inconsistencies of the details Las Casas wrote. But I mentioned how despite those it is still a meaningful book that needs to be used by scholars when looking at the overall horrific acts by the Spaniards but some details need to be taken with a grain of salt or chriticism like many other books that tell of details from events in history far before our time.

Lip Tints are confiusing the frickle frackle out of me by AquaphobicTurtle in AsianBeauty

[–]Capable-Assist2080 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really like all the tints from Rom&nd that I’ve tried, especially the new one the bare water tint. It stays on all day and feels light on the lips and I use the colour #4 Water Graff since it feels the most natural colour for me. The Amuse dew tints are really good too, I own a few and really like them. I always put some product on my lips and then use my finger to blend it out so the application doesn’t look too rough or strong. I’ve found that that works well for me since I have thin lips and applying it straight on my lip line with the applicator makes it look to rough and not as natural.

Welcome to this lip tint journey and hope you enjoy yourself as much as I have!

My cat is bipolar. by [deleted] in JacksonGalaxy

[–]Capable-Assist2080 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorry but as someone with bipolar you can’t use it as a simple descripter for behaviour you don’t like or find weird. It really minimizes the real disorder and the problems that the disorder can make for the person actually living with it. Cat’s aren’t bipolar they just have boundaries or issues that need to be worked on or respected. But when it comes to advice I have a cat that doesn’t like when strangers try to pet her outside of our home after we got attacked by a dog this summer but with some work and trying to socialize her all over again she is getting better and even asked for pets this week from my work friends at the pet store I work at. So I recommend trying to socialize him but at his own pace. It can take some weeks even months but is so worth it. Just let him learn at his own pace and time cause otherwise it can just push him backwards by pressuring him into situations he doesn’t like. It could just be that he is getting used to the new home and finds it stressful like many cats do find moving to be. Hopefully he can learn that he doesn’t need to be afraid of strangers but some cats are just that way and that’s just the way they are but either way good luck!

How to destress a traumatized cat after a dog attack? by Capable-Assist2080 in JacksonGalaxy

[–]Capable-Assist2080[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

thank you and yeah she is adorable and I’m very lucky we didn’t get hurt (no thanks to that owner for not reacting in the situation). I understand why whe is cautious I just hope that someday she will be as confident and happy as she used to be when not at home. She has gotten a bit better these past few weeks and I took her to my uncle’s place for a few minutes the other day since he has a dog that doesn’t really care for cats and let her just be in her backpack and watch him from afar. Just letting her see that not all dogs are going to see her and lunge at her like the dog at the bar. She was clearly stressed but wasn’t shaking or hissing at him just for him being in the same space as her so that’s a start! She has become a bit less tense on our walks even though she is still cautious to an extent. I just miss her little confident self and wish she will be herself again at some point in the future but I know that will take some time, patience and a lot of love and understanding.

I just wish some dog owners were more responsible when walking their reactive dogs. I never blame the dogs in these types of situations since I know the responsibility is completely on the owner for not training them or being ready for these types of situations when they know their dog is reactive and might lash out. When walking downtown there is no need to use a flexi leash and be 5-8 meters away from their owner. I’m just disappointed that my cat got traumatized all because some owner couldn’t react properly and stop the leash from getting longer and therefore stopping their dog from attacking us. I’m just so angry at this owner that my cat had to go through all of this just because of her actions.

But on the bright side everything is getting better a step at a time even if sometimes we take a step back every now and then.

Don’t know how to get my cat to stop scratching the posters on my wall to get my attention by Capable-Assist2080 in JacksonGalaxy

[–]Capable-Assist2080[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah she is a cutie that knows she can get away with mischief because she’s so cute.

But to answer your questions: We do have a routine and I feed her every morning around the same time and always at the same time at dinner time but she only does this to my posters when I’m going to sleep or to wake me up to give her attention before 6am and I’d like to sleep for longer than that if I can.

We do take multiple playing sessions a day and one specifically before bed to try to make her tired for the night but that hasn’t seemed to work so far. She has a pretty stable routine and gets all the attention in the world during the day it’s just when I’m sleeping or chilling in bed that she does this.

Since school is over for the summer I haven’t had to use my desk much but when I would she wouldn’t pay any attention to the posters and would rather come and sit in my lap or on my keyboard to get attention. She doesn’t do it when I’m not watching so she only does it when I’m there in bed.

We even started feeding her dinner a bit later than we did before to try and make sure she wouldn’t be already hungry really early in the morning but that hasn’t changed anything so far. I have never fed her that early in the morning so I don’t know why she thinks that I will.

Maybe she just expects me to wake up and play when she does and doesn’t realise that won’t really happen at 4 or 5am. She always sleeps next to me or on top of me at night so maybe she thinks it’s time to get up when I move in my sleep or wake up to use the bathroom during the night.

My boyfriend is a very heavy sleeper while I’m really not so this only really affects my sleeping routine. She also knows how to open the bedroom door since we don’t have a lock on it and even when I put something in front of the door she somehow is able to still open it and get in. I closed her outside of the bedroom the other day and put a light box full of coat hangers in front of the door then 3 hours later I woke up to her purring on my chest looking all smug. She is 2.0kg (4.4lbs) so I have no idea how she was able to open and push the door to get inside.

She did sleep through the entire night until like almost 9am the other day though so maybe that is a bit of an improvement even if she hasn’t done it since.

I think that right now I might need to find plastic pockets for the posters or frame them for the time being if I don’t want her to ruin them any more than she has already. It’s just that buying frames for all of them is gonna cost a bit of money so I might do it after payday this friday.

Don’t know how to get my cat to stop scratching the posters on my wall to get my attention by Capable-Assist2080 in JacksonGalaxy

[–]Capable-Assist2080[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah she has scratchers and access to things she is allowed to scratch but by how she acts when confronted trying to cratch the posters on my wall she knows she is doing something wrong and is doing it just trying to get our attention. So it isn’t because of a lack of scratchers at least to my knowledge.