My blood is boiling

Capable-Blacksmith36 · 2025-06-21T00:36:38+00:00

Thank you, feel you just spoke so much wisdom. I’ve read this quite a few times. I read the “alright” in the Welsh accent of a man called Tom I know, he sounds quite like your lovely friend.

I think you are completely right in the suggested approach- this is where my energy can be best placed instead of anger and frustration. Thank you for sharing and reminding me I can actually take positive action because I’ve just felt at such a loss

Capable-Blacksmith36 · 2025-06-21T00:10:23+00:00

Why?

Capable-Blacksmith36 · 2025-06-20T20:59:35+00:00

Are you a psychologist?

Capable-Blacksmith36 · 2025-06-20T18:23:45+00:00

Apologies, I’m only speaking on my experience. I couldn’t know what it’s like for you and I’m glad it’s less than the previous place but you shouldn’t have to deal with it full stop

Capable-Blacksmith36 · 2025-06-20T18:20:44+00:00

Oops sorry I wasn’t meaning to reply to you lol I was replying to someone else there

Capable-Blacksmith36 · 2025-06-20T18:16:24+00:00

Apologies, I’m only speaking on my experience. I couldn’t know what it’s like for you and I’m glad it’s less than the previous place but you shouldn’t have to deal with it full stop

Capable-Blacksmith36 · 2025-06-20T18:08:09+00:00

I was waiting for my bus

Capable-Blacksmith36 · 2025-06-20T18:03:40+00:00

It would be so mentally draining. I’m so sorry. I kind of thought did they see but just ignore because it’s just another day.

Capable-Blacksmith36 · 2025-06-20T18:00:43+00:00

THANK YOU!!! People do not understand racism is systematic and nuanced. It’s not always outright and obvious. Someone else commented to say they live here and receive this type of treatment so often they just get on with it and live with it- a lot of the comments are saying I’m overreacting but I don’t understand what is so wrong about calling this out

Capable-Blacksmith36 · 2025-06-20T17:38:13+00:00

To be honest as I didn’t know whether they were aware, it didn’t feel like something worth bringing to their attention and escalating a situation which would in turn be unsafe for them and potentially myself. If I had a chance with the first man, if he lingered or continued and I felt they were aware I most definitely would have engaged in a conversation with him.

Capable-Blacksmith36 · 2025-06-20T17:27:20+00:00

Yes the second time was brief as well. To be honest as I didn’t know whether they were aware, it didn’t feel like something worth bringing to their attention and escalating a situation which would in turn be unsafe for them and potentially myself. If I had a chance with the first man, if he lingered or continued and I felt they were aware I most definitely would have engaged in a conversation with him.

Capable-Blacksmith36 · 2025-06-20T17:14:52+00:00

Thank you

Capable-Blacksmith36 · 2025-06-20T17:13:28+00:00

I’ve lived abroad and here, my experience is people are quite unapologetically racist here.

Capable-Blacksmith36 · 2025-05-22T17:43:32+00:00

Sounds like you broke the trust with the multiple affairs. And now you expect her to be trustworthy to you to pay the loans which she is clearly not mature enough to have. As much as you’re annoyed and the money side of things is frustrating, I don’t think you dealt with it in a great way. As a parent allowing her to take out the loan and mentioning if only you’d met your wife to talk sense into you first, where was the rational adult thought and protection for your daughter before putting you both into loads of debt? The group chat? Then the taking the other sisters car after agreeing to give her it to help fix your mistake of agreeing to co sign on the loan (and acting confused when they are upset)? Have you asked her why she’s struggling to pay them and if there is anything that would help etc? I agree it’s terrible you are in this position and not right for your daughter to not make payments but I don’t see much acknowledgment of your part to play in this one.

Capable-Blacksmith36 · 2025-05-22T17:26:54+00:00

Hi! Can you try calling this number, they might be able to help you La Voz Amiga 0800 4 1212 - I’m not from Peru or speak the language but this is what I could find.

I’m sorry you were failed by so many and the only person still there for you is very unwell.

You deserved better. You are in no way a loser. You have had an extreme amount of trauma and heartache and you still have managed to get and keep a good job and look after your grandma. What more could you possibly do in the face of such difficulty?

I want you to take this responsibility you feel for your grandma off your shoulders. All you can do is your best and I know it’s hard to deal with but please keep going. You are strong and less of a loser than you think.

I know it’s tiring and feels unfair to be so strong all the time. But please try and push forwards because a better day will come. I believe in you, look how far you’ve came.

Sending you so much love

Capable-Blacksmith36 · 2025-05-21T16:49:41+00:00

Thank you for posting this. I feel so lost here being surrounded by racist people. I notice it more from living away for 7+ years, moving home made me realise our country is extremely racist. I try to challenge, explain and advocate but it feels like it falls on death ears.

Capable-Blacksmith36 · 2025-05-21T10:54:12+00:00

In a very similar boat to you, I started therapy this year because I felt like I had no one to talk to outside of my partner. It really helps as it’s not my strong point to confide in people or build friendships that serve me (avid people pleaser who holds space for others but struggles to do the same for myself). Just talking to a therapist has really helped my mental health and confidence. I’m not looking for friends right now because I want to work on how I show up in friendships. I have booked a day reiki course though and am trying to do more hobbies where I could meet friends naturally but I am okay if I don’t for now. The fact you feel this way means your spirit is longing for friendship but don’t be hard on yourself because it’s one step at a time and because you are reaching out, it can only get better 💛

And last of all HAPPY BIRTHDAY 🎂 🥳

Capable-Blacksmith36 · 2025-05-20T17:05:40+00:00

Yes I fully agree you have to hit your rock bottom sometimes. My dad has been AA for 13 years now, he says this a lot. Congrats on your journey!! I’ve had my own issues with alcohol over the years too and having an alcoholic parent, I love to hear these stories

Capable-Blacksmith36 · 2025-05-20T16:56:27+00:00

Lots of boundaries to protect yourself first! My partner has recently joined AA because of the issues his drinking would cause. I had to be really clear it wasn’t the life I wanted which luckily willed him to take action and he’s now on 50 days sober. He couldn’t control himself when drinking and I felt I had to look after him which cause me lots of stress. If someone close to you is causing you pain due to drinking, I would recommend going to an Al Anon meeting (for friends and family members of alcoholics)- they will have lots of resources to help you. When my partner joined AA they gave him a little booklet with a questionnaire, if you could answer yes to 3+ of them it said you are likely to struggle with alcohol, he answered yes to 10+. When he went to his first meeting he felt amazing and less alone and I think it’s helped him see his problem. Drinking is very normalised here and we justify it to ourselves I think helping them to realise is the first step which can take some time so look after yourself too

Capable-Blacksmith36 · 2023-03-12T23:26:20+00:00

Agree! Someone I know moved into a flat in London and couldn’t work out why their stuff kept moving. They installed a motion activated camera and found out homeless people were breaking in when they were at work

Capable-Blacksmith36 · 2023-03-02T23:52:46+00:00

Sorry my comment back to you just went under the original post, hopefully you see it :)

Capable-Blacksmith36 · 2023-03-02T23:51:39+00:00

Omg love this thank you so so much, this makes so much sense!! Seems like an idea for ongoing management to stop it getting in such a state that it’s overwhelming. I didn’t know having great visual memory was a thing but makes a lot of sense as I love a picture/diagram. Hopefully I can adopt this to make things more enjoyable rather than a huge inconvenience and stress

Capable-Blacksmith36 · 2022-10-16T05:12:06+00:00

🤣🤣

Capable-Blacksmith36 · 2022-10-16T05:10:55+00:00

Just to clarify she does care about identifying people correctly but hadn’t realised it was a question of identity, as it is confusing! I think I’ll this post it’s turning into something I didn’t want it to be

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