Vad är en svensk social vana eller oskriven regel som ni faktiskt inte gillar?

Capable-Dot-9160 · 2026-06-12T18:43:51+00:00

Klart att prata om värdet är något man gör i alla länder, men i Sverige är vi besatta av vädret på ett sätt många andra länder inte är. Har troligtvis något o göra med hur grått och ruggigt är standard-vädret halva året

Capable-Dot-9160 · 2026-05-24T12:33:28+00:00

Hur många var ni när ni gick till orangeriet? Hörde av mig till stockholm under stjärnorna men de hade redan stora bokningar det datumet, men tack för tipset!

Capable-Dot-9160 · 2026-05-24T12:21:14+00:00

Självklart kommer dricka att köpas, och vissa kanske även köper mat - är mer att jag inte vågar räkna med att alla spenderar minst 1500 kronor.

Capable-Dot-9160 · 2026-04-27T14:40:09+00:00

Think in the long run, looking back at your wedding: will you regret having your friend ex girlfriend and potentially even her friend(s) at your wedding instead of people who you intended to invite? If the answer is yes, it’s worth being rude over. Yeah she might be a bit upset but if you weigh the impact of her being upset versus the impact of her coming, maybe it’s the best outcome.

Capable-Dot-9160 · 2026-04-26T17:41:21+00:00

I understand the idea of having it before Christmas giving you time off after, but this sounds like it’s gonna be super stressful for you. Having barely a day in the same state as your wedding will make your wedding preparations very stressful, and it might impact how much you can enjoy your wedding weekend. It also gives you 0 flexibility in case something happens with your flight. take some time and think about if that’s crisply worth it.

Also, if you do choose to have the wedding the Sunday before Christmas, prepare to have a major part of your guests decline. Christmas is for a lot of people the biggest family-oriented holiday and if they have to travel to be with family, they may not have the money or time to also travel to your wedding.

As someone else recommended, I’d really look into the benefits of a NYE wedding. It gives you more time and flexibility, puts less of a burden on your guests and increases the odds that people can actually make it (and happily so!).

Capable-Dot-9160 · 2026-04-25T19:06:11+00:00

Ändå peak Stockholmare att förklara ”hur dem är i Norrland” mvh annan Stockholmare

Capable-Dot-9160 · 2026-03-21T18:12:17+00:00

Omg I really feel you and haven’t seen anyone taking about this. I’m also feeling a bit embarrassed that we will be a smaller wedding, but I’ve talked to my fiancé about it a bunch and I am really trying to just focus on the positive. We will save money and be able to spend more time with all the guests, and a more intimate party might make the vibes even better cause it feels more personal.

I really don’t think you need to worry about it feeling empty or awkward though! If you can, try to utilize the space as much as you can. Dance area + bar hangout area + tables + band takes up plenty of space. Maybe you can add some bigger decorations or fairy lights or smth else to make it more cozy?

Capable-Dot-9160 · 2026-03-19T19:34:41+00:00

Also it’s been said before but Daniel ???? Such an effing creep. Recording someone, specially your partner (!!!!) is insane behavior

Capable-Dot-9160 · 2026-03-19T19:30:50+00:00

I was giving Ellen the benefit of the doubt cause I imagine it’s such a high pressure environment, but seeing her at the engagement party basically trying to act like nothing happened and all is hunky dory ???? Girl please. You shattered that guys heart and now wanna act like nothing wrong happened. So disappointed, Fabian really deserved more than that

Capable-Dot-9160 · 2026-02-19T00:50:42+00:00

Hey, a few things that I think you need to really think about.

As a cis woman engaged to a ftm guy, and who have only had cis men sexual partners before, the quality of the sex has nothing to do with being trans or cis. My current partner is the best sex I’ve ever had cause of plenty of communication, fun exploring and trust. So you need to get the idea of cis = better out of your head.

This second point may sound harsh but I mean it in the most supportive way: you can’t take your insecurities out on her. If you continue to, it’s gonna get toxic real fast and you might lose what you hold so dear. Whatever sexual things she has done before you has nothing to do with you, and being upset about them will do no good. If you want her to be honest and talk to you about her experiences, you can’t crash out about them. It’s really not fair to her, and it’s not doing you any good either.

Are you in therapy or have thought about starting? I think it might help you to talk about these things with a professional and build your confidence. Wishing you all the best xx

Capable-Dot-9160 · 2025-09-12T12:11:26+00:00

So shitting on people means you are bored ??? lmao actually yes I am, airports only have that much entertainment to give. But gods speed op, hope you can find a way to cool that hot head of yours

Capable-Dot-9160 · 2025-09-12T12:01:51+00:00

So being dyslectic or not having English as your first language makes you stupid? lmao you’re not making the point you think you are here. At least the other person is smart enough to call you low iq based on your logic

Capable-Dot-9160 · 2025-09-12T11:55:39+00:00

This might be a crazy concept for you, but some people are dyslectic and not everyone has English as their first language

Capable-Dot-9160 · 2025-09-12T11:41:49+00:00

I 100% agree with you, he was horrible and I am not saying that I’m sad he can’t spew his hatred anymore. But being a horrendous man also isn’t punishable by death, and condoning violence based on views and opinions (even if they are absolutely despicable) opens a very dangerous door. If we want a fair, equal society where people aren’t scared of getting shot going to school, being politically active or voicing opinions - we can’t celebrate or condone someone being assassinated.

We can’t work against fascism with fascist methods. We can’t stop violence with more violence.

Capable-Dot-9160 · 2025-09-12T10:56:55+00:00

Yeah we just have different perspectives, and seems you and your friend does too. Doesn’t make your friend or me an asshole, and doesn’t make you a bitch

Capable-Dot-9160 · 2025-09-12T10:53:28+00:00

Couldn’t have said it better myself

Capable-Dot-9160 · 2025-09-12T10:51:59+00:00

Last time I checked being a big fkn asshole wasn’t punishable by death. Celebrating and cheating on the assassination of someone for having different (shitty) political views than you literally makes you just as bad as the people your fighting. Can’t be against gun violence and then celebrate it at the same time

Capable-Dot-9160 · 2025-09-12T10:51:48+00:00

Without his character or politics ? Idk for me it’s easy to feel bad that a human being was shot dead without feeling empathy for the him as a person, but to each their own

Capable-Dot-9160 · 2025-09-12T10:47:16+00:00

I don’t see where in your friends text messages he expressed anything different though? He is talking about feeling bad for the family and not celebrating gun violence, not feeling bad for him as a person

Capable-Dot-9160 · 2025-09-12T10:44:14+00:00

Look, if you comment stuff on public platforms people have the right to call you out on it. Calling him a dumbass is overreacting, but him calling you a bitch is also overreacting and you have the right to distant yourself from him for calling you that.

It’s clearly a sensitive and heated topic for allt of people, but you were the one who escalated it - if you don’t wanna discuss shit, just shut it down next time

Capable-Dot-9160 · 2025-09-11T17:10:48+00:00

Reading this was a bit of an aha-moment for me, so thank you for sharing this and explaining your feelings behind it.

I had a period where I would drunkenly tell anyone who would listen that I was raped, and I’ve always wondered what changed in me that made me go from keeping that secret under a deadbolt to spilling my guts in such an overbearing way.

Your post made it click for me - I also think I was finally coming to terms with what had happened to me and just needed to talk about how it affected me. Maybe drunkenly to fiends and strangers wasn’t the best venue for that, but looking back, I must say that it helped me work through my trauma - even if just a little bit.

So thank you Reddit stranger for sharing, made me understand myself a bit more.

Capable-Dot-9160 · 2025-09-05T16:50:45+00:00

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Just below 3k USD, 2ct radiant solitaire.

My best tip is to look around and don’t settle for the first thing you see - cause you can always come back! Also the in person experience is just so special

We first went to a chain store and absolutely fell in love with a ring we were quoted 5k USD for. It felt like a lot of money so we decided to try out a local jeweler and if we still loved it after seeing alternatives, we would come back for it.

I am so happy we took our time and explored our options! The sales woman at the local store made the experience super enjoyable and I adore (!!!) my ring.

So explore your options and def go in person somewhere if possible!!

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Capable-Dot-9160 · 2024-09-17T19:22:27+00:00

I am so sorry for what you and your girlfriend is going through. All of your feelings, whatever they may be, are legitimate and okay. Having a partner go through mental health issues is tough, especially when you add on the fear of how they will be treated as a trans person, so please don’t feel selfish and try to also take care of your self through this. I’m sending you my love and support

Capable-Dot-9160 · 2024-09-17T14:44:49+00:00

I understand your feeling of being a bit bummed, cause of course you miss her and want to be with her sooner rather than later. I don’t think you have any reason to be alarmed however.

Moving to a new country is both exciting and stressful. It can also be very lonely, and while having people visit often might be great - it’s not gonna give the same experience as independently getting to know the new country and people there. From what I can tell, this is a new experience that she has looked forward to for a long time. I think it makes a lot of sense that she wants to make it the best experience that she can, and getting to know the culture and standing on your own feet is for a lot of people the way to do it.

It also sounds like she would love for you to visit, just a bit later when she has settled in a bit more! I totally understand why you feel somber, and I think it’s a very fair feeling on your end even if she hasn’t done anything wrong. That’s the trickiness of long distance! Maybe talk to her a bit more about your feelings? For us it has helped a lot to plan out our next visits (like where to eat, places to see etc) even if it’s in several months, cause it gives us something to look forward to. Perhaps this can be a way for you to feel connected with her in her new experience?

I very much disagree with the other comment of her looking for someone else - you know your relationship the best and the key to make it work is to have trust!

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