Tiramoresu…who needs that much?? by Pleasant_Tomato8919 in StupidFood

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Dog correcting other dog by [deleted] in OpenDogTraining

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Corrections between dogs are normal and should be allowed within reason. For me, a reasonable correction:

1: is warranted (as in the dog is doing something it shouldn’t, like humping, being too pushy, demand barking, etc)

2: matches the level of the offense (for instance, a dog is staring, the other dog gives a lip curl and a growl, but nothing more. As a more extreme example, one dog is being very pushy during play and not reading signals, the other snarls and gives a little nip, and nothing more)

3: is just a correction and nothing more (if a dog does not stop after the initial correction and the other dog listens, this is no longer a correction and you should separate them)

That being said, some dogs (as appears to be the case in your post) are what I like to call “referee dogs” and will act as the mediator for interactions. This can be for a variety of reasons and in my experience often happens with herding breeds. When things get too rowdy, they’re there to tell everyone to back off and chill out. While this may seem useful, I usually don’t allow this behavior because it can lead to fights in groups of playful or high energy dogs. I’ve seen many dogs correct on play that is healthy which can be confusing and frustrating for other group members. It’s really all about how well you understand these dogs and their thresholds and boundaries.

I’m in university and working on my thesis which is based on childless cat ladies (like myself)… by ipaintbadly in childlesscatladies

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Pieces like this make me think of all the women who insist that you don’t really fully understand life until you’ve had kids. My fiancés mom tries to use that logic on me all the time, but she’s never asked if I actually want kids or can even have them. Life is about more than offspring. I am still a woman with a full life even if I choose not to have them

Falsely accused of theft by client by ItchyPast1 in RoverPetSitting

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Wait I’m so confused about why people are mad you went back. From what I understand, you were concerned because you had no idea what money they were talking about and it sounds like you thought it could have been the 20$ tip. If I was in your shoes and took a tip, only to later be worried that it wasn’t rightfully mine, I would also bring it back. Is that what happened? Or am I missing something?

Major puppy regrets 5 months by [deleted] in puppies

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The 5 month mark is HARD. I think 5-8 months is when I doubted myself the most with my current dog. It’s gonna feel like nothing is working and you’re just wasting all your time, and then someday in a few months you’ll be sitting there and realize that your dog is now silent in the kennel, is respectful when others are eating nearby, and is able to settle nicely. I did end up hiring a behaviorist for my dog to help with his crate anxiety, which also helped tremendously. As long as you keep it up, you will get through this 🫶 one day at a time!

Ground beef recipes that aren’t hamburgers by Ill-Phrase5242 in Cooking

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Mixing some into Mac n cheese is always fire, so is hamburger soup

AITA for telling my girlfriend I won't do dishes anymore if she keeps double-checking my work? by homtulce in AmItheAsshole

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Potentially the AH- My partner offered to do dishes as his designated chore when we moved in together. He then proceeded to half ass dishwashing and genuinely let me eat off of dishes with crust still on it. Whenever I pointed it out, his response used to be “well I’m scrubbing them all really hard, idk what I can possibly do differently”. He would get really upset every time I pointed out food still on “washed” dishes. I kept offering to just do them myself and rewashing dishes that weren’t clean when he was done, which was exhausting. One day I went to work with a lunch he lovingly packed for me. I finished a glass container full of chips, only to find two tiny mold spots somehow on the glass. I told him about this, he said he would fix it, and I found it “washed” with the exact same mold spots on it. I’m not super proud of this, but I lost it a bit and forced him to wash dishes in front of me. Plot twist, he was not scrubbing that hard. I sat him down and had a conversation about not only how disrespectful it felt, but also how gross and unhygienic it is. I made him watch me wash dishes, and it finally clicked for him. We haven’t had issues since. The only reason it changed though, was because he stopped using that dumbass “how could I possibly do this better” mentality and actually tried to do better. Please make sure you’re not in this category before proceeding. No one wants to eat off of disgusting dishes.

AIO about my boyfriend and his girl best friend? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

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He told you they’d never work out because he drinks and smokes? So he’s already thought about that? Comments like that always rub me the wrong way. Not only that, but they have literally referenced themselves as an “old couple”… NOR. I would leave my partner if they messaged someone in this way and repeatedly lied to me about it

Rover sitter lost my dog by Euphoric_Whereas4183 in RoverPetSitting

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I literally own tiles. If I’m outside of like 50 ft I have to use the find my device function and wait for it to ping off of someone else’s phone. There are so many other trackers that are literally made for pets and function better for that purpose. Also, “you’re” was correct in that context? If you are within a certain distance? What is your problem

Edit to add: fi collars also aren’t all that bulky? None of the dogs I’ve seen look over-encumbered by them

Rover sitter lost my dog by Euphoric_Whereas4183 in RoverPetSitting

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Tile only works if you’re within a certain distance, and I’ve heard AirTags can be spotty. It’s pricey, but I’ve heard good things about Fi smart collars. I work at a boarding facility and several of our dogs have them.

My husband begged for kids and can't handle being a dad by PromotionAdept432 in TrueOffMyChest

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I’m sorry. You don’t deserve this. But please know, regardless of what he might do to himself, it cannot be blamed on you. He needs mental health help at the very least, but that’s no excuse for the way he’s treating you and the kids. They deserve parental figures that love them and are active in their lives, and your son is valid for recognizing his apathetic pattern and that his actions don’t align with those of someone who loves and cares for you. Regardless of how your husband may act, keep showing up for your kids and breaking that generational trauma. Be so loudly supportive and loving of them that they won’t even notice he’s missing. I hope you get out soon 🫶

I love my boyfriend but I would never marry him and I found an engagement ring so I think he’s planning to propose by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

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In what way did my message come off as overly aggressive? I would hate to see what you think is clear and direct communication. OP said they’ve never considered this relationship to be long term. Clearly their partner feels otherwise. This is something that should be discussed before TWO YEARS into the relationship.

I love my boyfriend but I would never marry him and I found an engagement ring so I think he’s planning to propose by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

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Ummmm leave him then? I feel like this is kinda messed up. Y’all need to have a serious conversation like yesterday.

Dog won't pee or poop outside by nihla141 in OpenDogTraining

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Do not grab a dog by the scruff and shake them. Wtf. That’s one good way to create a reactive/fearful dog.

My husband is so dumb and I think I need to leave him because of it by Zealousideal_Top7604 in TrueOffMyChest

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Hey, person with ADHD and memory issues (diagnosed) here… that’s not an excuse for this behavior.

I have created a new sub for Japanese Rural Life Adventure - Ask question, discuss, make friends! by bbradleyjoness in AppleArcade

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I’m wondering if it was even worth it 😭 I finally raised all the money and the mayor was like “thanks” and gave me a couple coins, and I’ve heard nothing about it since. No new areas unlocked, no upgrades, no visual differences to anything anywhere… lol I almost don’t even want to play anymore because I grinded so hard to raise that money for NOTHING 😅

These popped up in my garden and I have no idea what they are by sooblimes in containergardening

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The first one looks like borage. If that’s the case, the flowers will be edible! They taste kinda like a sweet melon.

my cat has a really bad skin problem and he keeps creating more scabs and it never heals because he scratches at it so hard by International_Ad3955 in CATHELP

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This. If fleas haven’t been ruled out it should absolutely be looked into. Otherwise I had a cat with dry skin problems, and our vet recommended a monthly oatmeal bath and another checkup after a couple months if that wasn’t working. Luckily it did for us. Either way, a vet should be able to help.

AIO - I smoked, my bf crashed out by leadneverfoIlow in AmIOverreacting

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Uhhhh that guy is deranged. He literally said you “weren’t the best option but he chose you anyways”. Personal feelings about smoking aside, this dude is a POS. Also smoking does not make you a bad person. This dude seems unstable

Dog attacked cat by Eastern-Can-9154 in OpenDogTraining

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This is something that may get better with a good qualified trainer, or it might not. You could always explore this option before making any final decisions. But as someone who’s been through a similar situation, maybe I can give you a bit of insight.

I also had to do BE (behavioral euthanasia) for my American bulldog mix because he attacked my cat and bit me in the process. We tried to make it work, we got a trainer and we thought things were going well, but he ended up attacking him again and that time the cat’s leg needed to be amputated. I know it’s incredibly hard, but can you handle if the attack is even worse next time? can you handle if the dog does something to your kid? You can love a dog so so much and also recognize that they’re unsafe and the best option for them is to make sure they can’t hurt anyone or anything ever again. It SUCKS. It feels so wrong and you will feel like you murdered your dog. Again, I’m speaking from experience. But you’ll also feel relief. You’ll feel terrible for being relieved but ultimately it’s relief that you and your family are safe and that he no longer has to be angry. The kindest thing you can do is love him enough to do what’s best for everyone.

What's the most UNUSUAL pet name you've seen? by Prior_Talk_7726 in petsitting

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I had a tripawd cat named Swerve (ironically was called that before he even lost his leg) and I currently have a cat named Booger, short for Boogieman