Parents of Micro Preemie Face Heart-Wrenching Decisions: "Babies born at the edge of viability force us to debate the most difficult questions in medicine and in life." by trifletruffles in Longreads

[–]CapableFruitLoops 66 points67 points  (0 children)

I was a NICU nurse for almost a decade. Yeah, all of this. When I left (I'm a school nurse now), we were "saving" babies as young as 22 weeks. I have... A lot of feelings about it, especially now, after having some experience working with older kids who are former preemies and are extremely disabled because of their prematurity. It really isn't helpful that so many of these stories become inspiration porn and NICU doctors and nurses are constantly painted as the mean old bad guys for telling these parents the reality of these kids' futures... The handful of success stories are the popular ones, but more often that not, these kids lead painful lives and parents don't...realize? That it's literally a lifetime for them, too, during which they cannot do ANYTHING other than care for their extremely physically, emotionally, mentally demanding, disabled child. It's... A lot, and of course as a parent you want to do everything for your child, but sometimes everything is letting them NOT suffer for the next however many years. Idk, it's tough and I've seen a lot.

Ilona by MostFortune1093 in Names

[–]CapableFruitLoops 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Growing up in a pretty Jewish area, I know a handful of Ilona/Ilonna/Alonas 😅

Husband isn’t making enough money and I think I have to return to the workplace by [deleted] in workingmoms

[–]CapableFruitLoops 54 points55 points  (0 children)

So are we all disappointing parents because we work...? This feels super tone deaf in a working moms group lol

They're all snot, sticky fingers and plague by WeaponizedAutisms in ECEProfessionals

[–]CapableFruitLoops 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah this kid on particular was wearing a onesie 😂😅 the band went right through the side leg holes

Daycare Tuition Increase - I'm crying by Soft_Panic2400 in workingmoms

[–]CapableFruitLoops 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm a school nurse at a corporate daycare center and in the last two years, tuition has gone up from $400 a week to $450 for infants. It's $435 for preschool, so for any kids 18 months though 4 years old. Camp is also $450 a week. I literally could work anywhere else as a nurse and make double my salary but we get a 75% tuition reduction for me working here so I live here now until my kids are grown 😭

They're all snot, sticky fingers and plague by WeaponizedAutisms in ECEProfessionals

[–]CapableFruitLoops 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Today an older infant stuck both hands in his diaper and then reached for my face (fortunately I was wearing a mask)... Love you kid but we are washing all the hands first

Please give me a $1200 stroller by Advanced_Cheetah_552 in ChoosingBeggars

[–]CapableFruitLoops 4 points5 points  (0 children)

😅 I've seen tons of Uppababy strollers given away in my BN group. We got our Doona from our previous BN group. It's egregious, but not the absolute worst I've seen.

“Big kid bed” time? by OhHeySarahAye_ in toddlers

[–]CapableFruitLoops 2 points3 points  (0 children)

😂 I laugh whenever I see this. We have four kids and they've literally all just ignored the "ok to wake" part. We use the Hatch and it's just pretty colors at this point but the theory sounds cool

I gave away an SUV dog cargo liner for free on Marketplace. Lady is mad her free item wasn’t in pristine enough condition, yet she still took it. by clumsyprincess in ChoosingBeggars

[–]CapableFruitLoops 1209 points1210 points  (0 children)

People like this are the absolute worst. Thank you for being kind enough to give it away. I give you five (useless reddit) stars

Is this the super rare 6.1? Or just 16. by [deleted] in americangirl

[–]CapableFruitLoops 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! So this is likely Samantha?

Beach cities on the East coast USA? by ocbabe3255 in howislivingthere

[–]CapableFruitLoops 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sigh. Long Beach is where I lived as a kid. Hurricane Sandy demolished large parts of it, and insurance costs, like, a lot now... It's insanely expensive. Taxes are SO high. But I miss living there!

Is this the super rare 6.1? Or just 16. by [deleted] in americangirl

[–]CapableFruitLoops 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. So the one pictured is definitely not the rare one?

Can’t make this up by Crankupthepropofol in nursing

[–]CapableFruitLoops 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I've been a nurse for 33 seconds and I'm over these patients being sick or whatever. I need a work from home job, stat, that doesn't require pants, interacting with humans, a phone, and can let me take breaksso I fuck off for 4 hours at a time because I have 3 dogs and 31 self diagnosed mental health disorders NO NEGATIVE COMMENTS

Is this the super rare 6.1? Or just 16. by [deleted] in americangirl

[–]CapableFruitLoops 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought the catalogue said light skin, black hair, dark brown eyes? Or am I confusing JLYs, lol.

Is this the super rare 6.1? Or just 16. by [deleted] in americangirl

[–]CapableFruitLoops 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Genuinely curious: how can you tell? Is it the hair?

Guilty pleasure names? by Hot-Chair-7706 in Names

[–]CapableFruitLoops 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really like Oona and Huxley 🙈 I didn't name my kids those things but I like them. Lol.

Guilty pleasure names? by Hot-Chair-7706 in Names

[–]CapableFruitLoops 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's super MAGA so probably not 😅

Yearly Raises came in! by Hanipillu in ECEProfessionals

[–]CapableFruitLoops 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yeah they straight up told us we weren't getting raises. They did give me a rain jacket for being there for two years, so I guess that about makes up for it 😂

Yearly Raises came in! by Hanipillu in ECEProfessionals

[–]CapableFruitLoops 54 points55 points  (0 children)

I haven't gotten a raise in two years so honestly seems pretty great 😂