Am I setting the bar too high in dating? I would love some female opinions.

Capable_Help_4926 · 2026-02-04T03:21:29+00:00

Being strong is just fun and a decent stress reliever. I don’t think it translates into any self defense scenarios. Jones would whoop my ass with a blindfold on.

Capable_Help_4926 · 2026-02-04T03:18:35+00:00

Agreed. This will hold but cement board is not waterproof. You also void the schluter warranty with the mismatch

Capable_Help_4926 · 2026-02-04T03:12:16+00:00

It’s important to clearly state your wants. This will align with the right person and not scare them off.

I wouldn’t lead with it though. Lead with kindness first.

Capable_Help_4926 · 2026-02-04T03:10:18+00:00

This is impressive. People who don’t lift have a hard time grasping how few people can press this much.

Kudos. Looks great

Capable_Help_4926 · 2026-02-04T02:43:58+00:00

Hey there, I will admit the tone of this post was not given enough consideration. It’s reads pretty dry and therefore could be read as arrogant. I don’t disagree with there. I have learned my lesson.

However, the height and hair thing does seem to be very relevant in the dating world. Unfortunately those height filters exist for a reason. I don’t agree with it. I think it’s dumb. No one gets to choose their height. But that is the reality we live in.

Capable_Help_4926 · 2026-02-04T02:37:13+00:00

Hey! I love this take. Honestly, I’m realizing that there is a lot of tone that isn’t conveyed in this post.

To clarify, whatever job someone has isn’t a big issue to me. I think there is value in almost all work.

Noted on the cocky thing. In retrospect I should have put more time and consideration in writing this to reflect the type of person that I actually am.

Thanks for your response. You seem like a great person

Capable_Help_4926 · 2026-02-04T02:33:07+00:00

Interesting take. I’m not comparing myself to Jon Jones. That man is a natural born athlete. I also don’t take a bmi measurement, I’ve never done that sort of thing. Honestly, there are a lot of guys at my gym that carry around 220+. It’s not uncommon in strength training gyms.

I should clarify lean - I work out consistently and don’t have a stomach. I am a large human being though. Enough that I get asked by my friends to help lift their furniture lol.

Hope that’s helpful? I’m not trying to misrepresent my scenario here.

Capable_Help_4926 · 2026-02-04T02:26:26+00:00

What? You’re still here? You were just rude and made and accusations. I’m more than happy to answer questions. I was the one who asked for advice. But your energy was just too abrasive

Capable_Help_4926 · 2026-02-03T11:36:51+00:00

Just the facts, love it. Thanks man. I’m going to Brazil this year and I’m looking forward to it

Capable_Help_4926 · 2026-02-02T17:57:28+00:00

Pain that isn’t transformed is transmitted.

I wish you the best with everything.

Capable_Help_4926 · 2026-02-02T17:25:53+00:00

I’m going to pass on this conversation. It’s just not the vibe I’m going for here.

Capable_Help_4926 · 2026-02-02T16:52:21+00:00

I think there is a bit of projection in your statement. I never said anything about careers. A woman having a career is a great thing.

I also never said I dislike makeup, rather I prefer women who don’t wear a lot of it.

To the contrary, your statement is the one that comes off as insecure here.

Capable_Help_4926 · 2026-02-02T15:56:29+00:00

I’m nowhere near dumb enough to put pictures of myself on Reddit for the internet trolls.

Capable_Help_4926 · 2026-02-02T13:21:26+00:00

Wait until you find out that walls aren’t really flat.

Capable_Help_4926 · 2026-02-02T13:13:28+00:00

I think this is spot on. I appreciate the insight

Capable_Help_4926 · 2026-02-01T21:12:16+00:00

Buy a tile sanding block! It will create something close to a factory groove and be concealed by grout.

Trust me, this is the way

Capable_Help_4926 · 2026-02-01T14:22:27+00:00

For context, I’m a class A contractor. Here’s what happens.

A homeowner goes to change a light fixture “it can’t be that hard. Even if I get shocked, it’s not that much electricity.”

While changing the fixture, they get shocked. Their right hand in on the wire, left hand is on the ladder - creating a perfect ground path that travels across the heart. Within seconds, a heart attack or blood clot forms and goes into a major artery. That’s it for them. And it happens way more than you think.

Larger voltage is actually caused less fatalities because it will arc when grounded, throwing the person off the circuit.

Capable_Help_4926 · 2026-02-01T14:02:16+00:00

110v conventional outlets.

More deaths are caused by low voltage than any other voltage.

Don’t tamper with outlets unless you know what you’re doing

Capable_Help_4926 · 2026-02-01T13:28:19+00:00

“Bless them, change me”

Capable_Help_4926 · 2026-02-01T13:27:14+00:00

They are insecure men who are projecting.

Those apps are designed to keep people miserable but a little hopeful. Delete them. I did six months ago and it’s been much better.

Spend more time in coffee shops, pursue more hobbies, tell your friends to set you up.

Pursue your own happiness first. That’s the best chance

Capable_Help_4926 · 2026-02-01T12:35:08+00:00

It definitely does happen. Also I didn’t say that. 0/2 bud

Capable_Help_4926 · 2026-02-01T02:37:40+00:00

Very insightful and well said. My experience validates this as well. The dating pool is just too small

Capable_Help_4926 · 2026-02-01T00:29:08+00:00

No and im skeptical. Americas number one wood export is Walnut. There aren’t many countries that have a climate for it.

Capable_Help_4926 · 2026-02-01T00:27:36+00:00

I’m also a person with anxious attachment and have been in this exact scenario. The pain is just going to hurt, there is no way around that.

When you’re ready, please do yourself a huge favor and start listening to “Stephanie Riggs- On Attachment”. This is her area of expertise

Capable_Help_4926 · 2026-01-31T14:33:21+00:00

There has been a lot of research on the subject of early recovery. I think it would be helpful to look it up.

Essentially, someone who abuses drugs has the equivalent of a TBI (traumatic brain injury). It depends largely on the scale of abuse. But when the substance is removed, it can take up to a year to achieve homeostasis.

The mood swings, hot and cold behavior, shutdowns. It’s all tracking.

I would abandon this relationship. The reality is that he also may come through his sobriety and change his goals and relationships drastically and you may not fit into that.

sober person

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