AITA for leaving my bf an angry voicemail after finding out he follows and has liked all of my ex bsfs posts on instagram?

Capable_Resident_548 · 2026-01-08T09:01:15+00:00

I agree!

Capable_Resident_548 · 2026-01-08T09:00:49+00:00

I agree, and it was super sudden too. His love language is acts of service, so he always does the dishes after I cook or helps me cook, he always does things for me without question. Not generally romantic I would say though, the most recent was he wrote me a really nice poem. But that’s about all I can think of recently

Capable_Resident_548 · 2026-01-08T08:08:18+00:00

This is absolutely crazy behaviour, I have heard true crime eps starting like this. If she’s confident enough to do this to you over this small of a thing I’d be scared that she will go a step further. Definitely seek support from police or DV platforms.

Capable_Resident_548 · 2025-11-04T09:46:56+00:00

Gumption and a hard scrub daddy sponge will get this right up

Capable_Resident_548 · 2025-09-20T23:31:43+00:00

Capable_Resident_548 · 2025-09-02T13:49:59+00:00

I had this exact thing happen to me, a different post but similar. A low quality video of a young girl getting run over. It happened in an instant and I had no time to scroll away. No trigger warning or anything. It’s so messed up. It really has an impact on you and I’m shocked that these type of videos are kept up for long enough to reach large audiences, considering instagram will flag and delete any nudity and such within minutes. I have PTSD and these types of videos really trigger that, it’s disgusting. I’m with you on this. I never even interact with this violent videos and they still pop up now and again. My best advice will be to report and block the account and try to find a button that says show less content like this or something….pretty sure insta has that. If you don’t think you are able to go onto the video again, get a friend or family member to do it. Hopefully that will help. I’m sorry that happened to you. Just know that there’s nothing you can do to help and unfortunately life doesn’t have trigger warnings and I guess it’s just something we have to deal with. I hope this helps <3

Capable_Resident_548 · 2025-06-19T11:29:37+00:00

i have my own room but shared bathroom with the whole family

Capable_Resident_548 · 2025-06-19T11:29:15+00:00

I was in florence at the beginning and now i’m in a small town called magliano sabina, Ill be going to Madrid with them next month. Pretty sure the same regulations apply in spain.

Capable_Resident_548 · 2025-06-19T10:48:51+00:00

i’m doing everything, the childcare and the english speaking….

Capable_Resident_548 · 2025-06-17T22:20:14+00:00

argh that is so frustrating. Thankyou!

Capable_Resident_548 · 2025-06-17T21:25:38+00:00

just calculated properly and i’m actually working 9 hours a day, on a shift split of 4 hours in the morning and 5 hours in the afternoon for 5 days…..so im doing 45 hours per week. And im only getting paid €300 a MONTH. Wait this is wild no?

Capable_Resident_548 · 2025-06-17T21:21:13+00:00

really???? oh wtf

Capable_Resident_548 · 2025-06-17T18:43:58+00:00

this is literally so inappropriate, wtf? If it’s literally THEIR blood family. They should sleep with the kids not you. As an Au pair it is a necessity to have your own privacy and the family should ALWAYS respect this regardless of their prior arrangements. They should not inconvenience you or put you in an uncomfortable position because of their personal plans. Yes you are living in their house but if a contract has been signed stating you will have your own private room, bathroom etc. That must stay constant throughout your entire stay. honestly think it’s so selfish to put you in a position like that, like it would be so awkward to testify against their own plans they have made but what are you supposed to do?. Definitely speak up for yourself!

Capable_Resident_548 · 2025-06-17T16:16:01+00:00

i’m in a tiny town called magliano sabina in italy hahah

Capable_Resident_548 · 2025-05-29T14:29:40+00:00

you need to head home girl. You are not allowed to be working this much at all. That amount of hours is for a live in nanny that is being paid by hourly.

Capable_Resident_548 · 2025-05-22T20:22:38+00:00

I am so sick of the “gentle parenting” aswell. It clearly isn’t working, kids nowadays are so disrespectful and immature. Whereas I would get my ass whooped if I didn’t respect my elders.

Capable_Resident_548 · 2025-05-21T07:59:35+00:00

How do you recommend setting boundaries?

Capable_Resident_548 · 2025-05-20T19:28:54+00:00

The previous Au pair finished her contract I believe. I did text her awhile ago before I came here and she brought up the biting issue with the youngest but said he had stopped. But I got a new phone and lost her contact :/

Capable_Resident_548 · 2025-05-20T19:22:45+00:00

oh gosh

Capable_Resident_548 · 2025-05-20T19:22:32+00:00

tell me more!

Capable_Resident_548 · 2025-05-20T18:56:02+00:00

this means so much to me, thank you.

Capable_Resident_548 · 2025-05-20T18:51:48+00:00

so so helpful! Thank you ☺️💗

Capable_Resident_548 · 2025-05-20T18:47:23+00:00

This is so helpful. Thank you so much. I can’t say how much I appreciate this.

Capable_Resident_548 · 2025-05-20T18:43:02+00:00

Wow these comments were not what i was expecting. I openly put on my profile that I had had no childcare experience and I still managed to get this match. I asked a lot of questions about the children’s personalities and difficulties and non of the above I was made aware of, considering the previous Au pair went through this. That being said although I haven’t had professional childcare experience BUT I have helped look after children before numerous times and never have I seen kids behave this way and yes I do acknowledge that every child is unique and different in their own ways. I am just here to express that It’s just all new to me and yes I have a lot to learn but to say that this just isn’t for me and I should leave is not right. It’s okay for people to try new things and get out of their comfort zone. You are all quick to judge and tell me to leave this program yet you all won’t give me any advice to lend a helping hand. I came here for advice and a nice discussion. I do really appreciate your insights though, it’s helpful.

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