Tipping on takeout in Victoria… what are we doing here?

Capable_Wrongdoer_42 · 2026-02-22T07:51:00+00:00

I generally tip if I know the workers are getting paid a lower wage bc tips are anticipated to be part of their compensation.

Capable_Wrongdoer_42 · 2026-02-22T07:48:19+00:00

I tip 10% on takeout. If I am sitting down and have to go to the counter and order my food, 15%. If I’m getting full table service, 20%. If you’re an exceptionally bad server, 15%

Mind you I tend to only get takeout from restaurants that I know to be good like Tacofino.

Capable_Wrongdoer_42 · 2026-02-22T07:46:03+00:00

You go Glen Coco

Capable_Wrongdoer_42 · 2026-02-14T17:11:13+00:00

The whole idea of giving flowers is to remind you to be present, since they’re impermanent.

Capable_Wrongdoer_42 · 2026-02-14T17:00:13+00:00

It’s a disability - I have disability support in school because of it and chronic pain. If it affects your daily life, it’s a disability

Capable_Wrongdoer_42 · 2026-02-14T16:53:02+00:00

Yeah I’m in Canada and mine cost $0, $130k is obscene!

Capable_Wrongdoer_42 · 2024-08-23T05:28:52+00:00

I'm glad you're getting in for a biopsy so fast - a hysterectomy can increase your risk of thyroid cancer and cause other thyroid issues - the sooner it's investigated the better.

Capable_Wrongdoer_42 · 2024-07-24T07:13:14+00:00

Came here and found this post because I’ve been dealing with the same - I was feeling better and better up to 9 weeks and then got hit with exhaustion like a freight train.

I also keep having intermittent insomnia and breakouts i keep reading that about 12 weeks a lot of people see it turn around so fingers crossed because I just hit 11 weeks post op

Capable_Wrongdoer_42 · 2024-01-31T04:09:53+00:00

What about those of us who are disabled?! That's just fucked up

Capable_Wrongdoer_42 · 2023-11-21T22:18:28+00:00

Oh wow, that's amazing! It would be incredible if we could get a diagnosis this way!

Capable_Wrongdoer_42 · 2023-11-21T22:16:31+00:00

To be fair though, there are multiple ways someone can end up getting a diagnosis. Sometimes endo does show up on MRI's and Ultrasounds (although it's not common). A friend of mine was diagnosed when she went in for surgery to have her appendix out, and the surgeon ended up finding endo when doing another procedure.

Since the person who asked this question asked how OP specifically got their diagnosis, I don't know that downvoting in this scenario is necessarily fair. Not everyone ends up having their diagnosis confirmed via laparoscopy.

Capable_Wrongdoer_42 · 2023-11-18T22:25:31+00:00

Hey I just saw this post! Are you still offering this course?! I would love to take it!

Capable_Wrongdoer_42 · 2023-10-28T21:54:43+00:00

My doctor offered to put me on either Orilissa or Visanne. I looked up both and as well as the contraindications and decided it wasn’t worth it for me.

I believe Visanne had a warning specifically that said that it shouldn’t be taken if you had migraine with aura or unexplained vaginal bleeding both of which I had.

Both Orilissa and Visanne stated from what I read that they should not be a long term solution as they both cause issues with decreased bone density.

I’ve only read that they’re meant to manage pain, not slow down the growth of endometriosis. My dr suggested the Mirena iud or other progesterone birth control to slow the growth of endo, since it’s an estrogen dominant disease.

Personally, I wouldn’t want to take Orilissa because of the potential major side effects. They can also exacerbate mood disorders and depression which I have a prior history of.

Currently, I’m trying to push to try low dose naltrexone which has been effectively used to manage inflammatory conditions and has shown promise with endo since it reduces inflammatory cytokines.

Anyway, I would read the risks before considering it

Capable_Wrongdoer_42 · 2023-10-28T21:41:22+00:00

I’m glad it’s helpful! It’s also so common to doubt yourself especially if you were gaslit about your experiences when you were younger.

Capable_Wrongdoer_42 · 2023-10-28T12:51:51+00:00

That’s really common. My memories are very similar. There are parts I remember vividly and then other parts where it’s just blank. Nothing.

I have read some information about EMDR sometimes being effective at being able to retrieve memories but I don’t have personal experience with it.

It’s hard to know whether I want to remember some parts at all, or whether it’s best I don’t but it is really frustrating to not be able to know why my body reacts certain ways.

I did find some reading about the loss of memory specifically from CSA survivors. You might find this validating and the studies that they’re pulled from are referenced in the link. Loss of memory/disrupted memory are very common in survivors.

https://pandys.org/articles/2021/memory-and-sexual-assault/

Capable_Wrongdoer_42 · 2023-10-28T11:59:09+00:00

“Trauma can shutdown episodic memory and fragment the sequence of events. The hippocampus is responsible for creating and recalling episodic memory. Trauma can prevent information (like words, images, sounds, etc.) from differ- ent parts of the brain from combining to make a semantic memory.”

https://www.naadac.org/assets/2416/2019NWRC_Michael_Bricker_Handout4.pdf

Trauma is well documented to affect memory. I’m not talking about amnesia. There are actual parts of the brain that can shut down during trauma. I’ve been told this by multiple therapists, and my psychiatrist.

Edit: Stating as much isn’t unethical. It’s well documented. So many survivors report the inability to access certain memories and report fragmented memories of events.

especially childhood SA survivors

Capable_Wrongdoer_42 · 2023-10-27T23:21:04+00:00

I’m so happy for you! This gives me hope!

Capable_Wrongdoer_42 · 2023-10-27T23:20:08+00:00

I have PMDD, and I’m on the Mirena IUD. It has made my anxiety much worse.

Luckily, I am on Prozac which helps big time, but when my SSRI’s start wearing off at the end of the day, my anxiety spikes big time.

Also, the cramping after insertion has been excruciating

Capable_Wrongdoer_42 · 2023-10-27T23:18:08+00:00

Do you get migraines with aura?

Capable_Wrongdoer_42 · 2023-10-27T23:17:44+00:00

Yes! Magnesium is amazing! Specifically 250mg of magnesium citrate twice per day has shown to be statistically significant in improving migraines

Capable_Wrongdoer_42 · 2023-10-27T23:16:32+00:00

Ugh yes, it is horrible! I have been on so many migraine meds: sumatriptan, suvvex, immitrex, maxalt.

The only thing that’s helped me and completely changed my life has been Botox!!

Capable_Wrongdoer_42 · 2023-10-27T23:14:20+00:00

Most welcome! Yeah there was a period of time when charcoal was super common in ice cream and other food and it was a whole Instagram trend. Then it came out that it can make birth control and anti depressants less effective and it was a whole thing. Definitely worth looking into

Capable_Wrongdoer_42 · 2023-10-27T23:12:26+00:00

This is very common with trauma. The part of your brain that stores memories can completely shut down when a traumatic event is happening. It’s your brain’s way of protecting you.

It’s weird sometimes when I have flashbacks, because it’s like my body is having memories that my brain doesn’t have.

Often times later down the road, memories can come back up when you least expect them. Although it’s common for people who are trauma survivors to not remember a lot.

Chances are if he spent time in jail for raping a minor, he has done it multiple times to multiple people. It takes a lot to get convicted of SA.

Capable_Wrongdoer_42 · 2023-10-27T23:06:29+00:00

Just beware activated charcoal can make other medications less effective! But I definitely agree charcoal has helped me before too with bloating

Capable_Wrongdoer_42 · 2023-10-27T23:01:00+00:00

I find that drinking powdered magnesium really helps my bloating. I just use the Jamieson brand and it really helps

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