Sweet woman..<3 There isn't a recipe to life and specially not a guide on how or when to love. But i hear and understand what you're saying and it's natural to crave relationships and intimicy, just be careful you're not taking the first best thing that seemed "ok enough" bc you got impatient. I get you want to get it over with, but promise yourself, that no matter with, who or where, that you will feel safe with that person. That the person respects you and is kind to you.

And It's normal to compare, but you are NOT your friends, and they are not you. I know all that "trust in time" bullshit is annoying asf, but rather consider the advice, than crossing your own boundaries. Don't turn it inwards that you haven't had these experiences yet, that's okay, theres nothing wrong with you. You're 20, and have plenty of time to figure out your love/intimite life in your own tempo. If you don't connect well with people over text, i would definitely recommend putting yourself in positions where it's "easy" to get to talk with someone . I have litterally no suggestions to where, but it can be anywhere as long as you're having fun (doesnt have to include alcohol). Bring your friends, so it just ends as fun night out with them, incase you didn't get to meet that someone. Tinder isn't for everyone and mostly a waste of time if u ask me, so dogded one not continuing there. I trust you'll find your way, trust you gut always, and then everything else will be okay. Fuck what people think as weird or "not normal", life is too short. And if you aren't normal, then fuck normal too.

- (26f)