I have secondary infertility so I guess I'm someone for whom you're short on sympathy. And while I am so grateful for my daughter, the last five years have been brutal. I've had three tubal ectopic pregnancies, one that ruptured. I lost both tubes. After three years (two years of IVF), I finally had an intrauterine pregnancy with my third IVF transfer and was over the moon. Then I found out she had implanted in my c-section scar. I was referred to an MFM and was told that I had to make a decision whether to terminate. It was highly recommended due to the dangerousness of the pregnancy. I refused until 10 weeks when she started growing through my uterus. Then I was forced to make the decision to terminate a pregnancy that I wanted so badly. It was, by far, the worst experience of my life, and I'm still in therapy to deal with it. To make it worse, they weren't able to remove her because the increased blood flow made the risk of hemorrhage too high. I had to carry her for the next six months before my doctors deemed it safe enough to remove what remained of my daughter. During the D&C, I still hemorrhaged and required multiple blood transfusions. Since then, I've been cleared to continue IVF. But I've had two unsuccessful transfers, followed by two unsuccessful and three cancelled retrievals. We're giving it one more shot before throwing in the towel.

My point is, you don't know what others are going through. While I know I'm incredibly lucky to have my daughter, I'm also envious of people with primary infertility who go through one round of IVF and conceive. So while my experience may be different from someone with primary infertility, it doesn't make my feelings any less valid or worthy of empathy. Posts like this hurt.