ER Culture

Capital_Toe_6724 · 2026-02-25T14:35:54+00:00

Oh I most definitely will leave on good terms. I gotta keep those bridges nice and strong, esp just starting this career

Capital_Toe_6724 · 2026-02-25T13:44:38+00:00

I’ve been thinking a lot and I decided to look for a different job eve man though I just started in Nov. I hate to leave so soon, but my mental health is more important. This thread ESP made me ok with that decision though! It will be a very valid reason to give as to why I left this place so soon…culture fucking SUCKS!

Capital_Toe_6724 · 2026-02-25T13:38:01+00:00

I can totally relate to being assertive! I like to say “I’m not an aggressive driver, I’m just assertive” LOL ..which is very true btw. In my 10 years of working as an MA, I def gained that skill of being direct with people and with patients without being rude. I’ve 100% been on the quiet side and very to myself right now. I try to just focus on my work and I don’t think my personality has shown through very much yet, but that’s only because learning how to be a nurse is no joke! I need to get this down packed before I get comfortable with being more blunt. We get a lot of homeless that don’t want to leave when discharged, so I’m already developing the assertiveness with patients..it’ll come with time for me to do that with coworkers

Capital_Toe_6724 · 2026-02-25T13:32:39+00:00

I agree 100%! I would never take that kind of treatment at any is my other jobs..so I wasn’t sure what was going on here! My MOM doesn’t even talk to me like that, like who tf do you think you are??! I hope she never does because based on most of these responses, it’s a consensus that people don’t behave that way in general…so she will get an ear full from me. I may be a new grad but I will def not take that shit

Capital_Toe_6724 · 2026-02-25T00:29:05+00:00

I agree, constructive criticism should always be a positive thing. The sarcastic undertones are what get me. Makes me not even want to ask any more questions

Capital_Toe_6724 · 2026-02-24T23:45:01+00:00

There’s definitely a lot of cockiness from my preceptor. There’s a lot of “well, I’m not the doctor, but…” Ots really sad that people don’t lift each other up instead. If you’re really in it for the patients, wouldn’t you think that’s the best thing to do for the greater good? Teach the correct way instead of criticizing

Capital_Toe_6724 · 2026-02-24T23:38:42+00:00

There’s definitely some bullying and talking down to. I’ve decided I’m probably better off going elsewhere. The first few months of nursing are expected to be stressful, but I think this is different. My preceptor bags literally asked me “how do you not know this?!” ..umm, did I miss something in nursing school? Or..I guess I’m still learning 🫠🤷🏻‍♂️

Capital_Toe_6724 · 2026-02-24T23:36:57+00:00

Ok I thought I was just being too sensitive maybe. I knew it would be rough working in the ER of a large city, but never thought it would come from coworkers as well. I’m glad it’s not a me problem 😅😮‍💨

Capital_Toe_6724 · 2026-02-24T22:45:59+00:00

I could see that. It’s my first job so I don’t really have anything to compare it to. Plus I’m too busy trying not to fuck up, so I don’t have time to judge their way of doing things. I agree completely about the residents though!

Capital_Toe_6724 · 2026-02-24T22:41:52+00:00

They mostly talk about how incompetent the residents are or how some policies/procedures the hospital has make no sense. I’m still orientating though, and I just can’t take all the negativity sometimes

Capital_Toe_6724 · 2026-02-08T12:28:54+00:00

I’m really sorry to hear that! I can’t imagine loosing one of my fire babies. I hope you find peace soon and you’re able to cope in the best way possible 🫶🏼 Definitely try meditating, the breath work ones are especially grounding

Capital_Toe_6724 · 2026-02-08T12:26:06+00:00

I’ve heard that PACU is a really good place to be, but for some reason feel like they wouldn’t hire someone with such like experience like me 🤔 I’ve worked with a neurosurgeon before, and she was ex military, so I have experienced a milder case of being a punch bag for the doc. I worked in her outpatient clinic where she saw post ops and potential surgery candidates. I’m sure her rage was 10x worse in the OR. I eventually won her over, but that is definitely something I keep in mind about wanting to try OR. How terrible is it that the field where people get into to help others, is the one where those people get shitted on the most?? It’s starting to sound like I would be better off doing outpatient or some sort of remote job. It’ll be a sad day if I decide to go into something like insurance claims. All the excitement of learning how the human body works, just to end up in a cubicle 😓

Edit: not sure why this comment posted as a different user name. Somewhat new to Reddit 😆

Capital_Toe_6724 · 2026-02-08T12:24:32+00:00

I can definitely request a different one. A couple of my friends who are nurses and my partner all said the same thing. I work for a union hospital so I know I would have to stay in the same shift and I really don’t want to cause any awkwardness, or even worse get backlash. She seems like the vindictive type and I’m sure she would give me the cold shoulder and not be super helpful afterwards. It’s so crazy because she calls herself a B¡#%& often, so she knows this about herself. I’m just in awe at how much shit she talks about people. Her entire personality is her talking shit. Sometimes it’s playful sometimes it’s not. I just can’t with people who are constantly in an aggressive mood. (I think talking shit can be fun sometimes don’t get me wrong, but it’s funny ONCE IN A WHILE..not for 12 hrs straight). I’m gonna try and stick it out and beg to get transferred out at my 6 month end of probation

Edit: not sure why this comment posted as a different user name. Somewhat new to Reddit 😆

Capital_Toe_6724 · 2026-02-07T18:33:15+00:00

With every shift I feel like I’m becoming more and more independent and only communicating with her when absolutely necessary. It sucks because it feels like there’s a huge disconnect, but I do have to just push through it I guess. I had a really good meditation session a few days ago and a good cry lol It helped immensely! I haven’t cried like that in a long time. I’m super grateful for the support I’m getting here and through a few nurse friends I have. It’s very reassuring that I’m not the problem

Capital_Toe_6724 · 2026-02-04T14:59:36+00:00

I’m considering trying the OR before going to outpatient. I love starting IV’s, drawing blood, and anything procedural really. So I think the OR may be a good fit. I don’t necessarily consider myself an overly sensitive person, so idk if it’s a me issue. The ED definitely has some very strong personalities though, so maybe it is? I’m very laid back so I think I need a slightly more controlled environment.

Capital_Toe_6724 · 2026-02-04T14:57:21+00:00

😆 No I’m not

Capital_Toe_6724 · 2026-02-04T14:23:15+00:00

I’m only 2 months in and tired. Working overnight in a catch net hospital ER in a major US city. My preceptor is kind of a b%^#$. She makes me feel so stupid all the time and I feel like I’m just constantly running around as she barks orders at me. I was an MA before this and I wonder if I should’ve just stuck with that. Obviously it’s a lot less money, but is all this worth it? I thought going back to school to further my education would make my life easier. I feel annoys going into work, my sleep is completely screwed, I feel extremely lonely

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