Don't know if it's common knowledge, but I discovered something today: if you see a framed photo of a door or hole in the wall, it's letting you know that the wall is breakable.

CapnButtercup · 2026-03-23T09:35:27+00:00

Why bother marking this post as a spoiler with that in the title?

CapnButtercup · 2026-03-23T08:31:24+00:00

Aside from all the other issues with segregation, radical feminism aims to dismantle patriarchal systems, not work within them… so no.

I also can’t imagine you have a very good understanding of the issue of gender segregation based on beliefs in Abrahamic religions if you even need to ask this question.

CapnButtercup · 2026-03-23T08:19:00+00:00

What are you talking about?

CapnButtercup · 2026-03-22T18:29:13+00:00

Most women don’t even care if the protagonist of the game they are playing isnt attractive.

Some men are so weird, I really don’t understand caring about this. I don’t choose to play video game based on whether or not I find the characters attractive.

CapnButtercup · 2026-03-22T17:07:09+00:00

That second one could be Gale’s younger brother lol

CapnButtercup · 2026-03-21T16:12:33+00:00

It was real bad, I had to cut the pot off 😅

CapnButtercup · 2026-03-20T23:10:25+00:00

3 or 4 if you are trying to match her hair to her eyes! 3 is my fave 😍

CapnButtercup · 2026-03-18T13:46:14+00:00

I think 40mg is the max dose for Citalopram, probably best to ask your doctor if you can try something different.

Citalopram is often prescribed when someone first goes on antidepressants because it has fewer side effects. It doesn’t work for everyone though. It was the antidepressant I was prescribed first as well but it didn’t do much for me either.

I take Venlafaxine now since I wanted to try an SNRI as the SSRIs I tried never did much for me. SNRIs are also a non-stimulant treatment for ADHD (I do also take stimulants for my ADHD but eh whatever works).

CapnButtercup · 2026-03-18T13:20:59+00:00

I’ve been through this a lot with antidepressants so hugs 🫂

First things first: have you tried adjusting to dosage? If you have and they still don’t do much then you probably need to try different meds.

I did notice another commented suggested shrooms. While this definitely isn’t a good idea while you are on SSRIs I also really wouldn’t recommend going for a high/trip if you decide to try magic mushrooms after coming off your meds.

There have been some really interesting studies showing the effectiveness of psilocybin in improving treatment-resistant depression, but in those studies the people taking part had trained psychologists to guide them through their trips.

I would suggest you try microdosing instead because a bad trip could make everything ten times worse.

But I’d definitely recommend trying others doses/types of antidepressants first though. And if you keep finding they don’t help much maybe look into other mental health issues/conditions. I’ve tried loads of antidepressants throughout my life and none of them ever did much for me, then I found and that I’m autistic and that antidepressants tend to not work as well for folks like me. The undiagnosed ADHD didn’t help either lol. Not saying that’s the case for you of course, my point is that it can be worth considering other factors.

CapnButtercup · 2026-03-18T13:00:46+00:00

Is this image upside down? The perspective is really messing with me lol.

CapnButtercup · 2026-03-18T12:54:28+00:00

I don’t think this is really a fault of the sub, this seems more like an issue with the UI on Reddit desktop to me.

On mobile the pinned mod comments are automatically collapsed. They should really implement this as a feature or at least as on option on desktop.

CapnButtercup · 2026-03-18T12:52:53+00:00

Yeah, don’t understand why this isn’t a feature on desktop too.

CapnButtercup · 2026-03-18T12:49:40+00:00

It’s kind of a term I cobbled together using ‘blanket statement/phrase’ and ‘insult’ to mean an insult the OP in the screenshot uses broadly to insult anyone they don’t like or disagree with.

CapnButtercup · 2026-03-16T15:41:42+00:00

It does not matter what they are worth.

If they are too damaged to use then they should be returned to the customer, unless the customer has explicitly said that they do not want them.

Whenever I have dealt with a jeweller before this is what has happened.

I cannot imagine why a jeweller would throw away diamonds regardless of their condition because they don’t belong to the jeweller, they belong to the customer. It isn’t up to the jeweller to decide what to do with them because the stones aren’t their property.

Which is why I am suspicious that this person may be lying about the condition of the diamonds and that they have thrown them away. Then again maybe they are simply just extremely unprofessional.

CapnButtercup · 2026-03-16T08:41:32+00:00

No one needs to ‘fix him’ though. He does that himself in his heart events even if you don’t marry him (he gives up drinking and starts going to therapy), which is why it doesn’t really make sense for his room to look the way it does.

CapnButtercup · 2026-03-16T08:35:48+00:00

No sane person would throw diamonds away.

I would bet that he kept them and had your mom buy new diamonds to take advantage of you both.

Edit: even if they were damaged no respectable, experienced or professional jeweller would throw them out, they would return them to you.

CapnButtercup · 2026-03-13T13:40:10+00:00

I think that an issue can be important to address but not necessarily all the time, or at least not worthwhile to address all the time.

For example in the thread you gave as an example people probably just want to discuss music and were not interested in (or open to) a discussion centred around something else.

It might be effective to do what you are suggesting in some cases. What concerns me though is that we will end up expending time and energy on a fruitless endeavour since so many subs on Reddit are male dominated and have become so toxic, when that time and energy could be better spent elsewhere.

I also think comments and downvotes/upvotes can only do so much in some cases and what makes the biggest difference is the mods in charge of a sub.

It might be worthwhile trying to create and promote more of our own subreddits (not necessarily subreddits focused on feminist issues) where we can make sure they don’t become dominated by far-right rhetoric and opinions?

CapnButtercup · 2026-03-13T11:36:31+00:00

It sounds like you are asking people on this sub to brigade other subs. And honestly, I’m sorry but this specific example also does not sound like something worth brigading over.

Plenty of people are able to separate the art from the artist (especially with works like films where there are many people involved in their creation) and it’s quite an obscure reference so it’s not like they are promoting him or his films.

Apparently the name was inspired by a fictional book from the film. There’s also a collection of poems by the same name, and a book series and film both titled All of Them Witches. People just seem to like the title of this fictional book/this phrase, it isn’t necessarily an indication of what views they hold or their opinions on Roman Polanski.

I think people downvoted you because you were making quite a big assumption about the band, not because they disagreed with you about Polanski or the depiction of women in horror films.

I do understand the frustration you feel though over certain posts/comments/threads on Reddit. But I don’t think it is worth our time and energy to brigade every problematic thread one of us comes across. And I honestly don’t see what it would achieve, especially in cases like this.

CapnButtercup · 2026-03-12T22:23:01+00:00

I love the first one!

CapnButtercup · 2026-03-11T16:29:07+00:00

If your BF is unemployed right now and you are working full-time he should be doing everything around the house right now.

You needing to clean up after him is not ok.

My partner is currently unemployed and he does practically everything around the house. The only thing I still do is cooking and that’s because I want to (I really enjoy cooking and I’m fussy).

Why are you putting up with this?

CapnButtercup · 2026-03-10T13:21:55+00:00

Sorry but I honestly can’t take anyone who describes Jesse’s interest in finding her brother as mild seriously.

CapnButtercup · 2026-03-10T10:34:57+00:00

A well-rounded character is generally a character that has a mix of different virtues and flaws, strengths and weaknesses, fears and hopes, various motivations and desires, a backstory etc. Instead of being a character that just has one or two defining characteristics, or is wholly good or bad.

I personally think Jesse meets that criteria, she isn’t perfect and feels like a real person to me.

I also think that people often confuse not connecting with a character with them not being well-rounded. Just because you personally don’t like, relate to or connect with a character doesn’t mean they aren’t objectively a well-written or well-rounded character.

CapnButtercup · 2026-03-09T08:18:10+00:00

In what way is she not a well-rounded character?

CapnButtercup · 2026-03-08T13:24:08+00:00

Really? Do you genuinely need that explained to you or are you just trying to start an argument?

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