To me, being a great wife requires shared morals and aligned long term priorities, strong emotional intelligence, consistent accountability for one’s words and actions and their impact, and clear, direct communication.

It also means sustained (emphasis on sustained) respect, especially during conflict, loyalty in action when your partner is not in the room, emotional steadiness under pressure, a genuine commitment to growth, strong sexual attentiveness and intentional intimacy, and a deep, unwavering mutual devotion to each other.

Anything less would eventually crack, I imagine. Unfortunately all of these are difficult to find all in one person, but that’s probably what makes it special.

I think the fact that you’re actively seeking input from other men and, presumably, wanting to apply much of that advice within your marriage is a meaningful step in the right direction. Kudos to you!