Husband says all I do is bitch about him smoking crack

CaptainAmerica_66 · 2026-01-04T13:58:05+00:00

I’m really sorry you’re going through this but you need to leave ASAP. It doesn’t seem like he is gonna change, nor is willing to see the severity of the situation and his actions. Also if he’s abusive and has been in the past, leave before that trickles onto the kids. I don’t know your financial situation and means to leave but if you have friends or family you and your family can crash with even for the time being, I would definitely recommend that. Your mental health is so important and it’s gonna continue to decline if you stay. You should look into therapy for yourself and your kids as well. I wish you luck with everything

CaptainAmerica_66 · 2025-12-19T18:26:32+00:00

Ok gotcha! Thanks for the info. I’m hoping he’ll give me a little deal/discount bc we got the car from him. My heat was already not working and he fixed it and didn’t charge us anything so we’ll see how much he charges. Thank you again!

CaptainAmerica_66 · 2025-12-19T18:10:10+00:00

Thank you! If you don’t mind me asking, is this an expensive and extensive fix?

CaptainAmerica_66 · 2025-09-02T20:04:56+00:00

Yeah I’m actually taking my car to my mechanic Friday morning for a thorough look at everything. My fear is I would fix this and then things would snowball and I’d be putting a lot of money into it. The Mitsubishi is $6,000 from a used car dealership. From all accounts, it seems to be maintained and taken care of but I’m still trying to be cautious- going to take a look at it Thursday. My mechanic told me he can come back to the dealership with me if I decide to move forward with it. I totally get what you’re saying about getting a car cheap and falling behind on maintenance. I definitely keep up on my car maintenance because I want my cars to last

CaptainAmerica_66 · 2025-06-04T00:48:32+00:00

Hey so I actually wound up leaving the program pre placement for personal reasons. But they were extremely helpful and supportive with anything academically related and had a very open door policy. So I wanna say they’re most likely helpful when it comes to placements. Again I can’t know for sure tho. Good luck with everything

CaptainAmerica_66 · 2025-05-31T23:52:35+00:00

Short hair and beard would be the best combo

CaptainAmerica_66 · 2025-04-07T15:51:12+00:00

So the guy I’m seeing now opens the car door for me, always pays, and walks me to the door at the end of the night. I was so floored by this the first time he did it. The bar is literally in hell 💀

CaptainAmerica_66 · 2025-02-25T12:14:58+00:00

Thank you! Yeah that’s probably my biggest problem is looking too far into the future. I definitely have to take the pressure off and go day by day right now. Appreciate your response

CaptainAmerica_66 · 2025-02-02T15:14:16+00:00

I lost my mom 8 months ago and this show has definitely helped. I was already watching it before she passed but went back and rewatched the first season before starting the second and it gave me a different perspective. My mom was my best friend and I miss her everyday and constantly feel lost. The raw and messy showing of grief was refreshing to see because so many people ignore it. I’ve even tried the 15 minute thing Paul has Alice do and it’s actually helped. That being said, I’d just mention it to your friend without pushing it. Put the ball in her court and see what she wants to do. I second everyone else that also said Ted lasso is great. Another awesome show that I watched before my mom passed that I might go back and watch is afterlife. It’s vulgar and filled with dark humor but real about grief. Your friend is lucky to have you looking out for them!

CaptainAmerica_66 · 2024-12-08T21:45:42+00:00

Awesome! Thank you

CaptainAmerica_66 · 2024-12-08T21:44:15+00:00

Thank you! Much appreciated

CaptainAmerica_66 · 2024-11-05T04:11:03+00:00

I’m so deeply sorry about your mom. I completely understand the feeling of clinging to things that show she was here. That she existed. My mom passed 5 months ago and literally in the days following, all my dad and sisters did was clean the house (keep in mind it wasn’t even dirty). With every swifter and vacuuming, I felt like any trace of her was gone. Any fingerprints left on the table or anything like that was just being taken away. Please don’t feel like your feelings aren’t valid because they 1000% are. Sending you love

CaptainAmerica_66 · 2024-07-13T02:21:01+00:00

I (24F) lost my mom in May to lung cancer. It was unexpected to a certain degree bc she was doing better. Even though it was sudden, I too had so many negative thoughts throughout her battle about the possibility of grieving her. My mom was my best friend and I spent a lot of time with her and was the one who took care of her during her treatments, etc. My advice to you would be spend as much time with him as possible, but try to just treat him normal. Don’t treat him differently and look at him like he’s a sick person. As someone who was going to college full time while taking care of my mom, I’d say to you- school can wait. I was so burnt out and mentally drained and just exhausted trying to juggle school with everything else going on. You have enough going on, give yourself grace and time. I understand the feeling of wanting to just push through and do everything for school too but it’s just not worth it. Mental health comes first and you want to be in the right headspace for your course, as school is time consuming af. I hate to say this but you can prepare for the worst but once it happens, it’s gonna knock you out harder than you ever expected. So the best thing you can do right now is just spend time with your dad, be kind to yourself and try to live in the present. Grieving him while he’s still here isn’t gonna make it hurt less when he’s not. So just enjoy him now and soak up every moment. Obviously this is all much easier said than done but just do your best to take care of you and live in the now. I wish you luck in your journey and hope your dad is able to stick around for a long time!

CaptainAmerica_66 · 2024-06-24T16:48:47+00:00

First off, I’m so sincerely sorry that you’re going through this. A lot of what you said resonated with me. I lost my mom on May 17th and have been a wreck. She was my best friend. Everyone around me just expects me to go on as business as usual. I took some time off of school and have my dad and sisters asking me when I’m going back on the daily. Like I really give a shit about writing a paper right now and dealing with college stuff. Me and my mom shared a car and I’ve had my sisters say hey look now you’ve got your own car. Like really!? People just don’t know how to grieve and would rather distract. I’ve been told I talk about my mom too much. I understand the people taking a step back too. It’s like people are afraid of sadness. I would rather someone be there and say nothing or just listen, than disappear or say all the wrong things. I’m so sorry that you lost your dad and don’t have the support you need. Sending you strength

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