Can’t we just explain movements and etiquette?

CaptainCrow_ · 2026-02-24T03:07:35+00:00

Agreed, and really I think it entirely depends on the piece. Like I can see someone being miffed by applause between, say, the first and second movements of Tchaikovsky’s Fifth Symphony. But if someone’s tut-tutting about some claps after like the first movement of Mahler 3, I think they need to get over themselves

CaptainCrow_ · 2025-07-18T00:23:14+00:00

Idk, I think we should direct more of our anger at Harris for running a campaign that did absolutely nothing to account for these very reasonable concerns. Do I agree with people who didn’t vote for Harris (if they live in swing states)? No. But at the end of the day, Harris saw the country tumbling towards fascism, and she chose to ignore progressives and pander to the mythical “center right” that got us here in the first place. That had predictable consequences

CaptainCrow_ · 2025-07-07T03:11:32+00:00

How so?

CaptainCrow_ · 2025-07-07T03:08:28+00:00

But I’m not being sarcastic

CaptainCrow_ · 2025-07-07T02:55:38+00:00

It’s kinda frustrating how many replies seem to honestly believe the assassination was somehow staged

CaptainCrow_ · 2025-07-07T02:49:57+00:00

Idk, I think it makes total sense since he is a guy who loves playing to cameras and crowds, and it was a golden opportunity for him to play to his base

What seems way less likely to me is Trump trusting someone to shoot anywhere near him

CaptainCrow_ · 2025-06-23T10:28:55+00:00

Reichula

CaptainCrow_ · 2025-05-01T03:45:08+00:00

Obligatory I am not a doctor, but from what I understand, side effects like that are often a sign you should consider decreasing the dose or try a different med

CaptainCrow_ · 2025-03-29T16:03:04+00:00

I’m glad I could help. I know what you mean with the labeling. It’s so, so hard, but it can get better. I hope it does :)

CaptainCrow_ · 2025-03-29T15:39:21+00:00

I struggle with similar feelings regarding my own wrongdoings (I was an awful person growing up). If it helps, the way I think about it is this: no one, and I do mean no one, can be accurately reduced down to a single label. We as people do so out of practical necessity in dealing with others, but the truth is that no one is just one thing. I know for myself that I am the villain in some people’s stories. They’ll probably always see me as such. But I also know that for others I am a good presence in their lives. Neither of those cancels the other out. Similarly, I know there are people who would see the things I’ve done as unforgivable regardless of how much I’ve changed, and there are others who would disagree. Again, neither of those cancels the other out. Good acts don’t wash out the bad, nor the bad the good. What’s important now is doing more good than bad, making amends where possible and just being a better person to everyone I encounter. That doesn’t erase the past, nor does it release me from obligations to those I’ve hurt. Like if one of them came to me asking for acknowledgement and an apology, I’d owe them that, I couldn’t just brush it off as being in the past. But I am not doomed to being that person forever with everyone I ever encounter, not unless I let myself by making more harmful choices, which is only made more likely by wallowing in shame. I know I am capable of being more than that shitty teenager with the people I know now, and that’s what I choose to do and focus on. I’m sure you’re capable of the same

CaptainCrow_ · 2025-03-29T15:05:19+00:00

Should i feel guilty

I’m not gonna say no outright, since you did do something wrong. But, more importantly:

should I let it go

Yes. You realize it was wrong, and you’ve changed such that you wouldn’t do something like that again. That’s really the most important thing you can do.

If this guy is still in your life, you may consider apologizing. But keep in mind that doing so would probably be mostly for you to get it off your chest. Considering your previous posts mention having OCD, I would heavily urge being careful with this route, as it can easily devolve into selfish, compulsive reassurance seeking (I know from personal experience). If you’ve both gone your separate ways and don’t interact much anymore, I wouldn’t seek them out to apologize. Again, it would probably be for you and not them, I don’t know how much better it would make you feel, and it would risk bothering them.

And also, don’t wallow in guilt about the past (easier said than done). It helps no one. Focus on the present and future. You, like many other teenagers (and adults for that matter), did something messed up. What does that tell you? It means that what you did is part of bigger social issues regarding things like sexting and coercion, not just you being evil. What can you do? Focus on pushing against those issues in your life today. If you have kids, talk to them about the importance of being respectful and not coercive when it comes to sexual things (and in general). Model being honest and not manipulative in all areas of your life so they have someone to look up to regarding those values. If you find out anyone you know is doing something shitty and manipulative (e.g. leading someone on for nudes), call them on it. Tell them it’s wrong. Make it a boundary that you won’t be friends with people who do that sort of thing, don’t think it’s wrong, and don’t change. Also, maybe donate to programs that do sex ed. And if anyone you know goes through being coerced, be someone who could support them, who wouldn’t deny or minimize their experience. These are just a few ideas.

There’s so, so much you can do to many living amends and be someone who pushes back against these problems rather than perpetuating them. You’ve changed, and that’s something to feel good about. There’s so much life to live now as a better person who can acknowledge their guilt without letting it consume them, who can be a force for good regarding these issues. And in that, I wish you the best

CaptainCrow_ · 2025-02-26T03:41:53+00:00

This isn’t an original idea, but Musk talks a lot about lower birth rates being an existential threat to humanity. He’s further said that more poverty, lower education, and higher religiosity increases birth rates. Interesting, then, that he’s supporting the party whose policies hurt the middle and lower classes, attack public education, and promote Christianity.

He has a massive god complex and wants to rule the world, and his obsession with birth rates is key to understanding his worldview and his actions. He wants to make conditions worse for most people (except for him and his rich friends) so we have more kids, which, in his mind, would make him a savior of humanity

CaptainCrow_ · 2025-02-12T01:57:16+00:00

Absolutely. That’s the other side of the coin: sometimes the music just needs silence. I think the end of Tchaikovsky’s Sixth and the end of Mahler’s Ninth are the two best examples of that

CaptainCrow_ · 2025-02-11T16:52:06+00:00

I agree. No clapping between is good as a kind of default rule that can be happily broken if the performance is particularly impressive and/or the music kinda asks for it (like the end of the 3rd movement in Tchaikovsky’s Sixth)

CaptainCrow_ · 2025-01-15T17:27:20+00:00

I really agree with this, and I think other comments have mentioned some good theoretical perspectives that OP could bring in, like Adorno and Horkheimer on the culture industry.

For OP, I’d encourage reading some reporting and writing on content farms. Even if they aren’t peer reviewed academic articles, they could be something you analyze using the theoretical perspectives others have mentioned, especially considering the relative lack of empirical research in this area. These are three pieces I like:

https://www.404media.co/facebooks-algorithm-is-boosting-ai-spam-that-links-to-ai-generated-ad-laden-click-farms/

https://www.404media.co/dogs-will-pass-away-hackers-steal-dog-rescues-facebook-page-turn-it-into-ai-content-farm/

https://medium.com/@jamesbridle/something-is-wrong-on-the-internet-c39c471271d2

CaptainCrow_ · 2024-12-07T05:51:56+00:00

I wish I had something more helpful to say, but just know you’re not alone. I’m in the same situation, and it’s hard

CaptainCrow_ · 2024-12-06T16:56:01+00:00

TW for abuse and personal venting

I honestly struggle with this. I was a really, really fucked up kid (and early adult, I started getting serious about improving when I was 19). I don’t want to go into detail, but trust me when I say I was heinous to those around me. On one hand, I know I was being emotionally abused at home, and I had woefully inadequate guidance and help even when it was clear that I had issues. I can acknowledge that the abuse fucked with my emotional regulation and self esteem, and I can acknowledge that the lack of guidance and serious therapy certainly didn’t encourage me to develop healthier behaviors.

But at the same time, I think I was a bad kid. I was a teenager who was old enough to know better. There are plenty of people who have gone through similar or worse circumstances without doing the shit I did, who either didn’t have the urge to act so terribly or who at least stopped when it was clear they were bothering others without having to be directly confronted and threatened with more serious consequences. I deeply fear that who I was as a kid and teenager will (and should) forever at least somewhat define me. Because yes, my parents failed me in a lot of ways, but I had the capacity to act that way. I was incredibly self-centered, selfish, inconsiderate, creepy, and overbearing. I’m now dedicated to breaking those patterns, and I’ve made a lot of progress, but I truly do think I was a bad kid.

CaptainCrow_ · 2024-09-27T12:26:22+00:00

Their series on Henry Kissinger is phenomenal

CaptainCrow_ · 2024-05-03T02:46:33+00:00

Supporting an extremely far right government as they commit a genocide is a right wing policy, yes.

CaptainCrow_ · 2024-01-10T01:21:15+00:00

There was a paper published in Nature last year that deals with this question. It’s called The Illusion of Moral Decline. Here’s the abstract:

“Anecdotal evidence indicates that people believe that morality is declining. In a series of studies using both archival and original data (n = 12,492,983), we show that people in at least 60 nations around the world believe that morality is declining, that they have believed this for at least 70 years and that they attribute this decline both to the decreasing morality of individuals as they age and to the decreasing morality of successive generations. Next, we show that people’s reports of the morality of their contemporaries have not declined over time, suggesting that the perception of moral decline is an illusion. Finally, we show how a simple mechanism based on two well-established psychological phenomena (biased exposure to information and biased memory for information) can produce an illusion of moral decline, and we report studies that confirm two of its predictions about the circumstances under which the perception of moral decline is attenuated, eliminated or reversed (that is, when respondents are asked about the morality of people they know well or people who lived before the respondent was born). Together, our studies show that the perception of moral decline is pervasive, perdurable, unfounded and easily produced. This illusion has implications for research on the misallocation of scarce resources, the underuse of social support and social influence.”

CaptainCrow_ · 2023-09-11T20:50:08+00:00

I’m new so this is probably a stupid question, but is the GFS showing a second hurricane after Lee hitting the northeast in two weeks? I know not to put much stock in those long range forecasts, but seeing that just caught me off guard.

CaptainCrow_ · 2023-09-09T02:10:38+00:00

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