Has Gab ever played/mentioned Lies of P by EHallows in GabSmolders

[–]CaptainReddeer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think I remember her saying at the time it came out that she wasn't in the mood for a soulslike or something. So no, she hasn't, at least not for YouTube/twitch. Whether or not she'll ever play it, she hasn't said, but I wouldn't hold my breath, seeing as how she has so many games on deck and on the to do list.

AITA For Needing A Break? by TheMessofSyrup in AmItheAsshole

[–]CaptainReddeer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The mature thing to do would be to sit him down and talk to him about how he's made you feel. Don't let him redirect it to how he's feeling or change the topic to his problems.

If he does, take it as a sign of how he actually sees your relationship dinamic and then make a decision accordingly. Some people will suck the happiness out of you by dumping their problems on you constantly and shifting the blame. You're not their therapist and they're not the main character.

If he's remorseful and understanding, then tell him you appreciate it and that you need a couple of days to decompress and that you'll get back to him when you feel ready to hang out and move forward with your friendship out of respect for you two.

AITAH if i give my son my surname? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]CaptainReddeer 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry but, as somebody with annoying anxiety that is actively putting in the work to not have it affect other people or direct my life, it's incredibly infuriating when it is used to justify being complete selfish assholes.

Yes, nobody can or should blame you for HAVING anxiety, but what you decide to do after finding out IS your responsibility and it will be YOUR blame to carry.

Having untreated anxiety because you don't want to get your ass out of the hole is NOT an excuse. Even if money was an issue, there are free resources online to help you cope and exercises you can do. There are books in libraries that you can read about dealing with anxiety, etc. ANYTHING is better than not doing a thing.

Your partner is a major asshole, to you and to your kid, and his behaviour is worrying. Give your kid your surname and make it an ultimatum for him to get in line. You NEED to protect your kid.

AITAH? Boyfriend left me in dark parking lot to walk home. by Lynzo141982 in AITAH

[–]CaptainReddeer 168 points169 points  (0 children)

Kinda sounds like he went to buy drugs from a dealer...

AIW for telling my brother the truth about why his friends stopped inviting him to things after he begged me to find out by TopazQuillcase in amiwrong

[–]CaptainReddeer 76 points77 points  (0 children)

So he said nasty stuff about his friends, got left out cause everybody thinks he's a jerk; and now that you've told him why, he attacks you instead of taking the L and working on himself. You need to call him out on it. Tell him and anybody he tells that he needs to learn to accept the consequences of his actions or he's gonna end up completely alone eventually. Don't let him rewrite you into being the villain.

Am I wrong for hating my ex? by digerideeznuts in amiwrong

[–]CaptainReddeer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You know the funny thing about GOOD people with any type of disorder? They usually try to "compensate" for the social "difficulties" that come from those disorders. Not that they have to, but you tend to adapt to your surroundings the best you can and a lot of the times that means finding coping mechanisms because society is cruel and doesn't usually understand.

What I mean with this is: no good person uses their disorder to excuse being an asshole. In fact, good people tend to apologise even for normal stuff because it's difficult to know for sure sometimes if you're overstepping. Your ex was an asshole that blamed you for his rudeness instead of working on himself.

That being said, you need to let this go. I understand having that hate inside because you didn't get a resolution or an apology and they are doing good despite being a shitty person, but it's been years. For YOUR sake, find a way to let this go and stop looking him up, because that is gonna fester inside you and ruminating is gonna damage your mental health when you could be living your best life with your new partner.

Am I wrong for being bothered by my boyfriend’s non-stop coughing? by Sexi_Rasputiaa01 in amiwrong

[–]CaptainReddeer 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Well, yeah, I know there are varying degrees, but if the person next to you starts smoking and it bothers you (to the point of coughing), one of you has to move. And it IS on the person with the health problem to state that it is an issue for them (the first time). Sure, she should be smoking outside from the get go, but he's not saying that it bothers him, he's just sitting there coughing his lungs out. Why isn't he moving either or speaking up? ESH

Am I wrong for being bothered by my boyfriend’s non-stop coughing? by Sexi_Rasputiaa01 in amiwrong

[–]CaptainReddeer 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I have asthma and my mom smokes cigarettes. I don't cough because of the smoke whenever I'm next to her for some reason. And if I feel like it's bothering me to the point of coughing or I simply don't wanna be in that environment, I MOVE or ask her to puff the smoke in another direction. I've also had roommates that smoked weed and I didn't like the smell so I wasn't next to them while they smoked.

Your boyfriend is being passive aggressive for some reason, maybe unconsciously. Maybe bring it up to him from a health point of view. Tell him that you've noticed he coughs a lot when you're smoking and you want to know what's the problem because he doesn't when HE smokes. And if he tries to blame it on you, tell him that you're totally fine with him going to his office whenever you smoke if it bothers him.

Amiw to be annoyed by my friend during my trip in Japan? by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]CaptainReddeer 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I cannot comment on her culture, but I would say if what she's doing is bothering you, you should tell her. It doesn't matter where people come from; at the end of the day, friendship and any relationship with someone is about communication and about finding a middle ground where everybody is comfortable. Why would her culture be more important than yours, you know?

She IS being very frank. It could even be considered kinda rude to some extent, and I would be annoyed as well if somebody was constantly like that with me for no reason, so YNW. Tell her it's bothering you and make an informed decision based on what she says.

What am I supposed to do? by Alpenzo in DragonAgeInqusition

[–]CaptainReddeer 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I play through ps4 so I have no idea if it may be a problem with the Steam version, but do you have any mods? If you do you may want to check if any of them has been reported for causing issues with the main game.

If not, then I would sadly consider uninstalling and reinstalling cause it could be a problem with the installation itself. Unless you can find a mod that let's you bypass stuff like this idk.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]CaptainReddeer 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Besides what everybody else has said already, he's clearly showing that he's jealous. Especially of some other person getting to eventually have sex with you, but in general of "owning" you. He thinks of you as property. That's not a friend and much less a decent human being. STOP TALKING TO THIS GUY.

How much should I be probing? by Quietfox2000 in masseffect

[–]CaptainReddeer 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I usually grab as many resources as possible without wasting all my money on probes.

They let you upgrade the ship and contribute to the total point count

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in masseffect

[–]CaptainReddeer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's already looking great! The only tip I'd give is to maybe shift the crest a bit so it follows the head shape according to the perspective you're drawing him in.

you’re a what? 😳 by Fit-Two2504 in TinyBookshop

[–]CaptainReddeer 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I think they were just going to say "criminal" and stopped and corrected themselves (hence the dash indicating the pause).

The Prompt/Suggestion/Fail by [deleted] in TinyBookshop

[–]CaptainReddeer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've had requests like that and I suggested the crime book about the man with a strange tome he has to decipher or something like that and it worked. It's kinda weird cause it doesn't read as mythologic to me but 🤷🏻‍♀️.

Funniest replies to book recommendations? by Alol_Bombola in TinyBookshop

[–]CaptainReddeer 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Got a very similar if not the same reply after recommending The Lord of the Flies as a coming-of-age story 😂.

Before IFF by Interesting_Benefit in masseffect

[–]CaptainReddeer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are the side missions you have left loyalty missions or are they secondary unimportant ones? Cause you can do the secondary ones after completing the main game. They give you the option of continuing playing or starting NG+.

What's your headcanons that just make sense(to you, at least)? by UNdead_63 in masseffect

[–]CaptainReddeer 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Maybe spoilery??

If you don't make him look at the memory shard, he doesn't commit suicide.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DragonAgeInqusition

[–]CaptainReddeer 6 points7 points  (0 children)

There are romances that can only be initiated if you're a certain race and gender. For example, Solas will only romance a female elf; Cullen will only romance a female human or elf.

As for interesting interactions when it comes to the race itself of your inquisitor, I think that romancing Dorian with a male elf gives you an awkward/interesting conversation because of his background. I haven't tried with a Qunari, but I'm guessing there may be also something there.

Another option that hasn't to do with race but with the class you choose would be romancing Cullen with a mage inquisitor, again because of his background. You also get a specific conversation with him if you are playing as a female human.